My dad hates my bf????????????

Question

My bf grabed my *** and my dad saw and now hates him!!!!! I am 19 and got grounded for this!!!and was told never to bring him buy again. how can you ground a 19year old?My dad took away my car saying he pays for most of it anyway.

How do i fix this? my dad told me never to see my bf again

trying to understand him but its not working?

My dad just say he does not trust him because he is a flirt and italian?

My dad pays my tuition for college

Answer 1

I am wondering why your dad doesn't like your bf. Perhaps he sees something in him that he doesn't trust and does not want you to be hurt by the guy.

Talk to him about his feelings and you might be able to reach some sort of compromise on the issue.

Answer 2

You are 19 years old but functionally you are a child. You rely on your Dad's income and support to live your life comfortably. He therefore has the right to impose rules and set boundaries on you. If you want to set your own rules you can get a job, move out and pay your own way. Sadly your Dad didn't raise you well enough to understand that guys grabbing your tush and taking your clothes off is completely shameful behavior. Please rest assured, it is shameful and unloving. Love never violates the sexual purity of the person it claims to love. Your BF simply has the hots for you. Instead of acting like an unpaid prostitute you could make your BF pay for the freebies you are giving him and then have enough money to move out. Or since your BF esteems you so highly why doesn't he just marry you and make you an honorable woman? He won't because he is also functionally a child. Children don't marry each other because they are too immature to handle the responsibility, they often sit around in their parents houses and pretend to love each other by getting naked which only proves that they are children and have no mature concept of love, sexuality, or marriage. When you breakup with this night in shinning armor you will feel so much pain over giving yourself to him and nothing to show for it. If you get pregnant you will suffer over the abortion you will no doubt get if you have not already. Remember also that if someone is willing to sleep with you outside of marriage they are willing to sleep with other people at the same time outside of marriage. There are consequences in life that you can't appreciate because you are still young. The best thing would be for you to stop playing your BF's sexy mama and start acting like a respectable young lady. The only man grabbing your tush should be the man you marry. Go to your father and tell him you are sorry for disgracing yourself with your pimple faced friend and tell your dad you will never degrade yourself again, esp under his roof. You will be glad you did and begin feeling better about yourself.

Answer 3

If you're living at home, then Dad gets to set the rules. If you don't agree with them, you need to become financially independent and move out. His reaction may have been a little over the top, but it's his house. Something similar happened to me when I was about your age: My dad didn't throw me out the house, but told me I was behaving in a way that he found unacceptable and gave me three months to find an apartment of my own. It was the best thing he could have ever done. Yes, he can ground you. If you don't like or respect the rules of where you live (whether its with Dad or someone else) then you can leave. Is your Dad footing the bill for your car? Insurance? Do you pay rent? It's his house, he can ban your boyfriend if he wants to. When your Dad calms down, try to work it out. Don't do anything in your parent's (or anyone's) home that you'll regret if you get busted. Have your boyfriend talk to your dad; he should tell him that he regrets that it happened and didn't mean to disrespect him or you. If you don't want to do that, then you need to find your own place.

Answer 4

his house, his money, his rulles
im so sorry, but if thats the way he wants it, and you need the money, then your stuck.

Honestly if i loved them, i might throw all the money away, and run away with him. And the fact that u wont says 2 things, your not in love with this boy, and your affraid that your fathers love might not be forever.

1. Confront your father about his love for you, ask if there is anything you could do, for him to no longer care, or stop loving you. If he will allways love you.... take the chance

2. Learn from this mistake, never have a friend round again, allways go to their home, the fact that you were happy to bring someone home, means u had half decent parents, i never took anyone home.

3. Begging..... Your a girl, hes a guy(your pa..) beg, plead, cry, beg, cry, when your at home, wear no makeup look a mess, hang round in frumpy ugly sweats, and act like your life is over.

4. Maybe pretend to get an eating disorder, stop eating at home.

5. Wheres your mom

6. Surely you can come up with this kinda stuff yourself....

Answer 5

I see a number of things wrong here in this picture. In case number one, your bf grabs your butt. I don't know what for and secondly your father saw it. Knowing how dads are, you can certainly understand that nobody should put their hands on a female(even if playfully on that part) and think the Father will let it slide. Thirdly, have your father always hated your bf? If it is because of his race, then your father is very wrong. Now, in the last instance your father pays your tuition. Did he threaten to cut it off if you don't lose the bf? Until you get your own and pay for most things yourself, you are stuck with Dad unfortunately.

Answer 6

Well when you live at home you have to follow the rules. There isn't much you can do cause your dads mind is made up. All fathers are very protective of their daughters and not for nothing ya boy messed up big time when he grabbed your butt and your dad saw it. Which has now made your father feel like he is like every boy in the world out to get in your pants. So it's a wrap the only thing you can do is move out and pay your own bills and car notes. That's the only way things are going to work out in your favor cause it's his house his money his rules.

Answer 7

You're 19. Get out from under his roof, pay for your own car, and then you can see whoever you want. He's probably freaking out because he thinks/knows you must be having sex and the guy was disrespectful to do that where you could be seen. So there are two issues right there that would have any dad going completely crazy.

Answer 8

You are an adult, but still dependent on, and living in your parents home. This means that you have to abide by some things that irk you. Your bf was very wrong to feel you up in front of them. That's just plain stupid!

You want to change this, you know what you have to do; get a job, move out, and then you can get in as much trouble with this jerk as you wish.

Answer 9

Get another, better bf. Your dad is right. Respect your father and tell that guy to get lost. Asl yourself what means more to you, the man who supports, loves and has cared for you all your life or some guy who's number you won't remember in 2007?

Answer 10

He is your dad, he is not going to like your bf. You have to admit your bf was stupid you grab you in front of your dad.