I am 35, mother of two teen sons, dating a man for the last 5 months....he is 50 who was in a 12 year relationship (broke up 6 years ago) never married and no children....my sons like him...I like him...and he 'seems' to like me and my sons...he calls me almost daily...we cut out time for each other almost every weekend and in the mid week too...including my sons(but not every weekend)....but he never tells me he likes or loves or cares or what about me....is he just one who shows affection and believes we 'know' how he feels...or what?...how can I ask him how he feels about me without sounding like a typical nagging female?
2006-09-21 09:07:20 · 13 answers · asked by DoveMom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well u see the answer is right in front of u
he was in long term relationship which might have scare him and he s scare to express his feelings
sit down and ask him how does he feel about u
but dont whine and nag to him
u will not be helping the situation
2006-09-21 09:11:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
He was in a twelve year relationship. That's a long time and once it ended, he probably felt like he was back at square one in terms of relationships. Don't back away but don't nag (your words, not mine). There is a balance to be had. If he really cares for you, he will come around in time.
2006-09-21 09:17:37 · answer #2 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you need to talk to him and if he sits down to talk tell him you need to know how he feels and where you both stand in the relationship. If he is 50 then hopefully he is mature enough to be receptive of this and will communicate back with you. If he wont talk with you then maybe you should reconsider you relationship with someone who obviously isnt that mature and is a bit too selfish. Good luck!
2006-09-21 09:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah K 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Guys choose their words carefully. If he is not saying that he loves you, then he doesnt. He's probably having the time of his life being 50, and sleeping with a hot 35 year old. He's got everything he wants the only one who wants more than that is you.
Unless you want his wrinkly butt just for the sex, you should probably move on and find someone a little less crypt-keeper.
Too bad life isn't fair. When a young man dates an older women, usually the two of them want the same thing...
2006-09-21 09:11:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think you should ask him. Why waste precious time dating someone if in the long run it turns out he wasn't as in to you as you were to him. I just think if you have a question you should ask it, and let your feelings be known.....they can't read our minds either! :) Just tell him you are not sure how he feels and you would like to know so that you can be prepared either way. Tell him either way you will be cool with him, that you just NEED to know. Good luck!
2006-09-21 09:13:32 · answer #5 · answered by cutipi_1977 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the heck! at your age just come out and ask him how he feels about you, what have you got to lose? That wouldn't be nagging!
2006-09-21 09:13:53 · answer #6 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well yes us guys dont like talking about relationships, so dont sound too deep or heavy cos its YUKKY!
Just go out for a beer and casually drop it into the conversation e.g. "OK mister, how do you see this relationship in a years time" or something.
2006-09-21 09:14:36 · answer #7 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's obvious that he cares about you. some guys will not use the L word loosely. don't worry about it and don't ask him. he'll be the one who tells you. he's a good man. i'm sure he express it more than just words.
2006-09-21 09:12:50 · answer #8 · answered by harmony 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask if you want to know. He can't possibly get mad at the question if he has feelings and if you piss him off and scare him away. It wasn't meant to be.
2006-09-21 09:12:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, 5 months is a bit too soon... maybe? for him to verbally say he loves you. Give him time..
2006-09-21 09:13:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋