Ok, me and my mom used to get along fine. Now we don't. Everytime we talk, we end up arguing. She swears up and down that I say something smart when I don't! Sometimes I do catch myself but she gets angry for no reason! I do yell back because she pushes me to the point. My mom has even gotton alittle bit violent (ex. pushing things off desk, grabbing me by my shirt collar) This has gone to the point where she has called the police on me and made me talk to a detective! She keeps saying 'I'm going to get rid of you, I'm giving up my right's for you.' I want this to stop and be friends with her again. While were on my mom, she obese, and smokes tobbaco. Would that having to do with anything? Also, she had a brain tumor, I think she still has it. Also. I'm still a teenager, so go eas somewhat.
2006-09-21 09:06:18 · 7 answers · asked by dqsmarty@sbcglobal.net 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
(p.s My father left me and my mom, I have a crazy familY)
2006-09-21 09:23:32 · update #1
Perhaps your mom is going through the change and has raging hormones. If that is the case you simply will have to endure the craziness for a while.
Best way to handle this? Say very little that can be misinterpreted and agree with everything she says. This wa she can't push your buttons.
2006-09-21 09:09:40 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A brain tumor can really mess with someone's personality. She may also be going through menopause. Some women have a very hard time with it and really turn mean.
You need to talk to another adult and let them know what is happening. Your mother needs some serious help. If she really does have a brain tumor, she needs to have it removed before she becomes a total psychopath. If she's just experiencing menopause, she can get some medication to mellow out her moods. It's not fair to you.
You will be doing both of you a favor by getting her some help. Once she cures her problem, she'll be grateful to not be so angry all of the time.
Talk to an adult that you can trust. If they know your mother, I'm sure they've seen the same changes in her that you have, but they probably don't feel that it's their business to interfere.
If you can't get another adult to talk to her, the next time your mother gets physical with you, call the police. They can make sure that she gets some help.
2006-09-21 16:08:34 · answer #2 · answered by FozzieBear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the mother of two teenage boys and I have some similar issues with them. My 15 year old son will answer my questions in a tone of voice that i consider disrespectful, when I call him on it he honestly does not believe he has been disrespectful. My point is that what and how you say something is most likely being taken in a different way that what you intend by your mom. Since you are still a minor and you want to get along with your mom all I can say is to be extra careful of what you say and the tone of voice you use. If she is still ill then I think you need to talk with other adults in your family (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc..) If your father is available he would be the first place to start. I hate to say this but if you want to get along then you are going to have to do whatever it takes to make that happen even if it means you do express yourself around your mom. I don't think you are trying to do things on purpose to make your mom mad, but the two of you are having some problems understanding each other right now.
2006-09-21 16:18:16 · answer #3 · answered by B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom sure does have a lot on her plate.. She sounds scared to death, no pun intended. I don't think she's angry, I think she's afraid... For you. She sounds pretty torn about things inside of her. Remember that she is not just a Mom but a person too. Think about what she's going through and then try to open the conversation though tread very lightly but don't beat around the bush. And none of those "you this" or "you that" instantly puts people on the defensive. If you love her and it sounds like you do...Tell her. Good Luck to you Both and God Bless. You both are looking for the same thing, you just lost each other somewhere along the way.
2006-09-21 16:16:52 · answer #4 · answered by Zookeeper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Menopause maybe? You need to find real help, if your still a teenager then you may be in danger of being hurt if you live in that house hold. She needs to go to the doctor. That is the only way any one is going to be helped in this situation.
2006-09-21 16:10:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, if your mom has all that wrong with her at this time, you should be more understanding with her and keep your temper under control for one thing, and then try to help her out as much as you can for another. i'm sure any mom would appreciate that and wouldn't have a need to argue with you. try it.
2006-09-21 16:10:05 · answer #6 · answered by Cutie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mom are only trying to give advice thats all I myself have a teenage daughter and son give your mom time try to spend some time with her Good Luck
2006-09-21 16:10:03 · answer #7 · answered by maria_smith960 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋