My 9 year old son has a friend that he calls and talks too. I know he is probably having feelings about her that he doesn't quite understand. When is the right time to talk to him about the "the birds and the bees"?
2006-09-21 08:57:37 · 17 answers · asked by ga_gyrl91 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I too have a 9 year old and he has only, (and barely) admitted to liking a girl in school. He has not asked anything about girls but he's not totally blind about them either. I figured if he does ask me then I will explain as much as he needs to know at that age. I know a few boys have said some things like I'm sure some things have been said around your boy so until you feel the need to talk to him or he does mention something, then explain it the way you see fit. At this age they are still innocent, thank God, so let's not push it on them but be aware of his actions and what goes on around school.
2006-09-21 09:09:45 · answer #1 · answered by peg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of giving a big talk at age twelve, which usually ends up being very uncomfortable and embarrassing, it's best to start right away, explaining things you know they can understand. And you can also ask him questions too, like, "Your friend sounds nice. Is she a friend, or a girlfriend?" If he says girlfriend, you can ask him if he knows what girfriends and boyfriends do, and it'll give you an idea of what he knows...he'll probably say they say hi in school, or something like that. Good rule of thumb is that by the time a child reaches twelve, and can potentially impregnate, they probably should know the mechanics, dangers and reasons to have and not have such relations. Pregnancies result when kids don't know what they're doing, don't know if they went too far, and don't know what gets kids pregnant. Basically he needs knowledge on how to stay safe, and how to avoid becoming a parent at 15, and that's a good way to approach it.
2006-09-22 13:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by Mark L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think generally around 12 or 13 - this is the age when children will start adolescence and their bodies will start to change. Kids can have crushes and like a friend at pretty much any age. It's okay for him to like a girl so I wouldn't worry too much about it. However, I would wait a couple of more years before having the whole sex talk, unless you feel that he's already been exposed to that or he's developing more quickly than that. You can explain that its okay for him to like girls and when he's older he will like them more, and he can date, etc. but he's young now and there's plenty of time for that when he gets older. A lot of boys don't even really like girls until they are way into their teens anyway.
2006-09-21 09:44:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
about 9-10 years of age..
2006-09-21 14:17:39 · answer #4 · answered by April B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
9 years old! He has no feelings other than imitating what he has seen. I would talk him about his friend not pry just get to know who he is talking to and the nature of their friendship. What is a nine year-old doing on the phone so much that you have to wonder if you need to talk to him about sex. Talk to your child and he SHOULD tell you what is on his mind. I would sex would be the furthest thing from his mind.
2006-09-21 09:13:19 · answer #5 · answered by 817_TX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he starts asking questions about girls and boys or about sex itself, you might want to tell him about sex. He probably already has a lot of (bad) information from friends at school. If you are comfortable with this, I would go ahead and talk to him about it, in a rather broad sense, and stressing that sex is only for adults. To make it easier on him to figure out what you mean by adult, you could say that no one who is in school should be having sex. Also, ask him what he has heard about sex at school. It could be eye-opening!
2006-09-21 09:02:51 · answer #6 · answered by mminuyasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the age. There are many resources and books dealing with age appropriate disscussions of sex.
2006-09-21 09:07:30 · answer #7 · answered by Whitney S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should talk to him now..The younger the better when it comes to talks like this..
2006-09-21 11:10:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When they begin to ask questions. You do not need to be graphic, just put it in kid-friendly terms, be honest and open.
2006-09-21 09:06:19 · answer #9 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say that leave this for the school. usually, around 6th grade the health teachers talk about "it".
2006-09-21 10:42:19 · answer #10 · answered by <3leopards 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋