Or anything that will make you say, "hmmmm what's wrong with this guy?" Also, anything a guy say that will make you think twice .
Thanks in advance, I will read every single one of your answers until expiration day. :-)
2006-09-21 08:56:57 · 18 answers · asked by Believe me 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you for all your answers! Wow! I wish I can give all of you girls a hug and kiss! :-)
2006-09-21 09:16:35 · update #1
talking to much about him and all he has realised in his life...it`s ok to let me know that he did something with his life,but not to much...
He shouldn`t talk about how great his ex was,or what a *****....I don`t care about past relationships,at least not for now...
He shouldn`t speak about how great he is in bed,call me hotty or honey,and so on...I`ve got a name,and for now I just want him to use it.
If he doesn`t want me to know that all he thinks about is sex,then he should try not touching me to much,not that I wouldn`t like it,but at the first date,he would just loose points because of it.
He should listen at least 40% from what I am saying,he should look at me,not anywhere else but not in my direction,that will make him look bored,so I will leave.some girls,expect that he pais for everything,well ,I don`t like that,I want to pay for what I had.
He shouldn`t speak or laugh to load,and don`t play the gigolo role.
he has just to be himself,natural,and funny,and he should give me at least a clue that he has an interess in me...
if you want I can write alot more...but you might get bored...lol
2006-09-21 09:06:13 · answer #1 · answered by donatella 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has bad breath, or some other obvious sign of poor hygenine. Thats a huge turn off.
Other bad signs conversation wise are talking about what a ***** his ex was, or how much money he makes. If he's talking about his former girlfreind that way, one can only assume he'd talk about you in the same manner. And a guy who brags about himself too much, like how he makes a six figur income, or he was captain of the football team in college, whatever. No one wants to date someone who's full of themselves. Not that you want someone with no self-esteem (another turn off), but we're looking for a confident guy who doesn't need us to tell him how great he is.
And finally, liars. If a guy lies about something on the first date, its more then likely over, right then. I mean, trust is an integral part of any relationship, and if he's lying to a near stranger, he obviously has unresolved issues.
2006-09-21 09:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by legallyblond2day 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok here is a stream of conscienceness of all the things that would turn me off of a second date:
Any odour especially bad breath, come prepared to eat mints!
Dominates conversation
Does not ask me anything about myself
Is not a gentleman - if it is out of character for you then don't go overboard but show that you at least respect her in some way during the evening - being a gentleman is not all about opening doors.
I do not allow men to pay for the first date it is always dutch that way we are equals BUT I do like it when they offer to go some where else for desert and say it is their treat, it is a good indicator that they like me!
Do not ever assume you are gettin' sum cause that is sooooo not gonna happen! Well unless I REEEEEAAALY like you!!
Make plans - but ask me if I like to do it - go somewhere not just for dinner - comedy clubs are great first dates.
MOVIES are big no no on a first date you are not talking and well chances are one of you compromised and are not even enjoying the show.
RELAX - be yourself - the best version of yourself - but don't be in anyway a person that is trying to impress the person you are out with - we will know!
Don't act like one of the guys! We are so NOT impressed with that!
and have fun!
2006-09-21 09:10:02 · answer #3 · answered by Queen Fromage 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One word: chivalry. On a first date with a guy, I am always impressed if he introduces himself and shakes my hand, makes eye contact, opens doors for me and pulls out chairs for me, makes conversation, is funny and lighthearted, offers his coat if I'm cold, and asks questions about me that aren't cliche like "What's your favorite flower?" When the end of the night comes and he drops me off, he should walk me to the door, tell me how much fun he had (if he means it) and give me a hug. If there's a kiss, that's awesome, but it must be mutually felt. So basically if a guy does the opposite of all those things, I would be turned off and not want to date him again! Hope this helps. (By the way, I just pretty much described my first day with my current boyfriend - it was awesome.)
2006-09-21 09:03:58 · answer #4 · answered by Mollie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is constantly messing with his cell phone (it should be turned off or on silent),
talking about ex's (not interested),
if he tries to act cool instead of just being himself (we don't want an act, be who you are because it is going to come out eventually anyways),
If he wants me to pay for the date (i'm old fashioned)
And he better be able to have an intelligent conversation ( I don't want to hear about the stupid things you did when you were drunk, or how much fun a keg stand can be) I need someone who is intelligent and keeps up on things going on in the world. And I don't mean sports statistics and what the latest video games are.
2006-09-21 09:03:47 · answer #5 · answered by ????? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I could take anything except for this: 1. For him to be late on our first date. 2. For him to smell bad or not be dressed appropriately. 3. For him to drink, smoke, or offer me any of these - that will be the real turn off.
2006-09-21 09:22:17 · answer #6 · answered by Ladyinred 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Turn on's are: Have to have on cologne, smells so nice on a man. The way he dresses; not necessarily name brand clothes; but has to look neat and conservative. Clean shoes. I careless about what kind of car he drives, as long as he has one...Clean hair-cut, gentlemen; down to earth; a sense of humor.
Turn off's
Cheap,(guys who wants me to pay for my own food) breath stinks, sloppy dresser, smells plain (no cologne). Messy looking hair. Belching too much, (I understand one, but not 3 burps). And then for the burp to stink, yuck. Sweats for no reason; at all. No sense of humor; serious looking all the time.
2006-09-21 09:03:19 · answer #7 · answered by Love 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
two obvious date killers: the past and the future. don't dwell on your past relationships, especially if that involves bashing an ex-girlfriend. don't talk about what your plans for the distant future are: kids, moving, buying a house, etc. too scary.
Its best to ask lots of questions about her and use what is going on during the date for conversation.
don't forget to bring your sense of humor.
2006-09-21 09:00:18 · answer #8 · answered by ashley f 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he talks too much about himself, tries to get me drunk,
doesn't get my sense of humor, and the biggest thing...............DOESN'T TIP DECENT! I used to wait tables so nothing turns me off more than a man who is rude or mean to the wait staff and doesn't leave a proper tip. :0)
2006-09-21 09:00:21 · answer #9 · answered by Nunya 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sorry but i really have a thing about hairy moles yuk!!! i also dont like cash flashing so lame just be nice to her and treat her like a lady not like a bracelt and yourll do fine good luck
2006-09-21 08:58:36 · answer #10 · answered by leanne_on_line 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋