He sends me mixed messages verbally sometimes by saying he doesn't want to tell me yet that his heart is in the relationship, although his actions speak for him & 5 min. later tells me he's thinking about marriage with me. I think he's a little guarded due to a not so good divorce about 1 1/2 yrs. ago. what do you think??
2006-09-21 08:52:04 · 25 answers · asked by COblonde 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I use similar lines when I want an easy way into a girls pants. Good for him - sounds like its working. He'll be gone in no time.
2006-09-21 12:20:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would give him a little more time and I feel sure that he will most likely marry you within the next 6 to 12 months. He is probably like most men and is afraid of making that committment.
Be patient just a little while longer and I believe he will marry you. The divorce in the past also has him being more guarded about marriage again.
2006-09-21 09:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by strokes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not guarded, he's a game player. If you're so inclined, give him several months and watch how he changes after he "gets" you and feels secure in your love. Guys who mean business don't tell you they're "thinking" about anything. You can judge him by his actions, and shut your ears to his pretty words. If he truly values you, no bad divorce will keep him from making you his wife. Men go after what they want and play word games with everyone else.
2006-09-21 08:59:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just take things one day at a time. Don't rush into anything. And as far as you feeling lucky because he thinks you're beautiful, cute and sexy, I wouldn't stay focused on that because once the heartache, insecurity and low self esteem wear off he might see you in a different light. Try to focus on the more important things.
2006-09-21 08:57:44 · answer #4 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who ended the relationship in his divorce and did he love his wife. If the ex-wife ended the relationship and he loved her, then he is not ready for a committed relationship of this magnitude (marriage) just yet. Give him time to become more comfortable with the idea that his past relationship is over. If he is really trying to move on seriously and not just to get over his past, he will be less confusing. Best wished for both of you.
2006-09-21 08:56:33 · answer #5 · answered by sharptech101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is rushing into something should tell him to slow down first of all he could be trying to replace his ex, I was in a situation once like that, and now, they can tell me they love me all they want, and I always told them to slow down, I am not going to be someone they wanted me to be, I am me and me only, and if they do not respect that well then there not the one, sorry but 1 1/2 yrs is not that long ago and he possibly could try to be replacing his ex with you, then when things do not go right he will stumble on his words and it won't be a happy marriage take your time making sure its right girl best of luck!
2006-09-21 08:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must be a young girl if you can't catch that he's trying to keep you around as long as he wants, but he's not going to be committed when he decides he's had enough and wants to try something else. get out now and let someone come into your life that you know is in it for you, and without mixed messages.
2006-09-21 08:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by Cutie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're falling for the oke-doke. His playing you. His going right for the emotions and you're falling for it. Stop thinking in terms of the glass in half full and start looking at situations also with the other view of the glass is half empty. If you look at the whole situation. You'll see the 'game' for yourself.
2006-09-21 09:01:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he loves you! but yeah the guard will be up... do some confirming on him! ensure you make him feel the same way that he makes you feel.. you know all warm inside! and always be honest even if you don't think he will like the answer! if he gets up set just say do you want me to lie to you? then he will calm down! if not just say you know that was in my past! i can't change it and it made me who i am the person you love...
Good luck
:)
Mad luv
2006-09-21 08:57:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose he's also employed making minimum wage. all his money goes to child support, and he's already moved in with you too. I wouldn't doubt it. He sounds like a kid, "I don't want to tell u yet but" he's looking for someone to take care of him. to pick up where his wife left off. Don't be a fool. get rid of him
2006-09-21 08:59:29 · answer #10 · answered by penelope 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋