i have known only a few months but i get confused with hs mixed signals
2006-09-21 08:40:21 · 19 answers · asked by AT 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Defo sounds like he gets off on an ego boost chick. You should play his own game, flirt with him then cool it off, flirt a bit more than cool if off again, go out enjoy yourself and generally just treat him a little mean to keep him keen. Do not wait around for him cos you will be wasting precious single life. I bet you, as soon as you show an interest in another guy he will get jealous.
2006-09-21 09:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by caroline b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we don't know if you decided that "he only wants to be friends" or whether is the outcome of you talking about him to your girlfriends or whether he said it directly.
If it was the first two then you need to understand he may want more, or he may not, you don't know.
The last option is more clear.
Regardless of all of this ANYTHING is possible. People are often mixed up and confused, it's not surprising we are often analysing millions of events every day with the super computer we call the brain and you could work out a way of having a relationship with this guy.
if you think there is a chance he wants more and you really do not know how he feels play at flirting back with and enjoy it but remember nothing is predictable, you wouldn't want it that way, it wouldn't be so good when you get together with someone !!!
However in you mind you need to keep a healthy distance because you don't want to be blind to other opportunities or disapointed if he doesn't work out while you are creating yourself to be more interesting to him.
If you can't keep a healthy distance you could protect yourself and write him off or you you could on without any fear of falling.
I prefer the concept of always going for what i want in my life, although sometimes I don't have the courage to follow through.
2006-09-21 22:40:12 · answer #2 · answered by lifeontrack2006 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Run away before you get too involved emotionally.
He is probably the type of guy who needs to be constantly reassured he can seduce (hence his constant flirting with you) but will not take it further. He is probably a very sweet guy who doesn't understand the effect it has on you.
The same happened to me last year and I decided to tell him that I could not be friends with him until my feelings were different. It was hard telling him this and he didn't want to loose our friendship.
But it is the best thing I ever did; after a few months without seeing him at all, I can now see him only as a friend and his flirting doesn't affect him any more!
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2016-04-25 17:39:15 · answer #4 · answered by sharron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has told you he only wants to be friends then no matter how you fancy him or feel about him - go with that role. Play his game with him. That way u will find out if he truly wants to be just friends. After a while he will either turn out to be a great friend - or he may grow to "fancy" you - of course don't wait around for that to happen - go out - have fun - why not? Don't make yourself available everytime he snaps his fingers or ring your phone. Seem busy not being rude but if he calls - pretend you were just on your way out or you have other plans- make sure that you aren't allowing him to cross any non friend lines ie. sleeping together - holding hands intimately - sexual talk etc - because if you do - you can go ahead and take some of that blame b/c you enabled him to do it. Point blank tell him you respect his choice to be friends and point out (immediately) when you feel he has sent you a mixed signal - put everything on the table.
2006-09-21 08:51:14 · answer #5 · answered by dshanta2 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its his signals that are mixed, perhaps it is your perception of those signals that are mixed. You like him so you want him to want more than friendship....my guess is that his 'flirting' is simply the way he relates to people...he's just a flirt and to him it has NO meaning whatsoever. Your best bet here is to quit confusing yourself and accept the reality that he only wants to be friends (which I got from you). Find another love interest, you are wasting your time on this one. I was a bartender for quite a while, I've seen 100 guys like this, in fact my best friend (just friend) was a guy that 'flirted' with every girl that came in, half of them walked out the door convinced they were in love with him, but for him he did nothing, thats just the way he is, it was amusing to watch sometimes knowing what those girls didn't..its just the way he is, watch him with other people, I'll bet he acts the same way towards them.
2006-09-21 08:46:25 · answer #6 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he just likes the ego boost from flirting and knowing you fancy him. Dont waste any more energy on him.
2006-09-21 08:45:06 · answer #7 · answered by Stella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's been dragged up with no morals and is so desperate for attention he won't care about hurting someone's feelings just to fill his attention deficit. Unfortunately too many men are like that these days and they think its ok because society wants to say it's 'just flirting'
2014-02-02 09:56:41 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be confused.....if he told u he just want to be friends...then thats what he wants....the signals goes to u and remember u are interpreting them.....so just accept the terms of ur friendship and widen ur horizon to find ur real soulmate out there who will love u the way u love him........hope this helps...dont expose urself to hurtful situations.....
2006-09-21 08:44:49 · answer #9 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just open up the lones of communication with him, and find out what is REALLY going on in his head.
2006-09-21 08:44:09 · answer #10 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋