My mother claims she was raped and claims i am the result (please don't judge me, you do not know the full sackfull of lies i've had to deal with for the last 20 years).
However, she married the man i was led to believe to be my father 6 months before i was born who incedentally thought i was his until late into her pregnancy, even then she did not mention she had been raped when it came out i was not his child and then in 1976, gave birth to my step brother.
I am a little confused as I though that woman who experienced this type of horrible act, would probably never trust another man for a very long time. Believe me when i add that my step father is not the type of person who is sympathetic, or even undertanding, and of that, when my sister in llaw opened up about her own rape, my mother did not react in the way i would of expected someone who had been through a similar thing. I would of expected her to be able to sypathise and understand, but she did not have a clue.
2006-09-21 08:29:46 · 10 answers · asked by sharon44893 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your mother is living in denail. she thinks if she denies what happend it will just go away.
2006-09-21 08:33:31 · answer #1 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am totally with you on the fact that it all doesn't add up, but after so many years pass, some feelings and details can get lost. I am not saying it didn't happen to your mother, but maybe it didn't.... who knows, only she would know the whole truth and unfortunately, you may go the rest of your life wondering. I was raped when I was 16 years old and yes, it was hard to trust again, but I did infant learn to trust and married twice after that incident. I have two boys now. So like I said, time heals the pain. Your mother may have been running scared back then, not knowing what the right thing was to do. Raped or not, the end result was a wonderful daughter! No matter what happened, you gained life! : )
As for your sister, I wish she could have been more understanding for her own daughter, cause that is definitely what a raped victim needs most. Your mother having experience with a similar situation, should have guided her through the pain.
I am sorry for the grief you are feeling. You will make it through this. Be strong and try to find al the positive things in the mess.
2006-09-21 08:48:05 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know as the world turns & years keep going by things can have a way of manifesting itself. If your mother never recieved counseling & family support then that is what is comming from her right now & maybye it wouldn't be a bad idea for both of them to partner up in some...As society has gotten crazier as this world has kept turning profesionals have had to re- evaluate their counseling practices & are probably better equipped to deal with a rape than they were back then because out of a need for reform comes change & you know that all serious crimes have more than doubled since then & on some crimes such as rape probably trippled.....So in all always put love from deep in your heart in front of your understanding & I am sure you will be able to help the situation between all......STAY LEVEL HEADED WITH LOVE & UNDERSTANDING!
2006-09-21 08:41:45 · answer #3 · answered by Zayne P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this girl who said she was raped, a few months later she met this guy at a party,left with him that same night, and slept with him a few months after.
You'd think the last place she'd meet a guy would be at a party but nooooo....everyone reacts to things differently...I dont know if your mom was raped or not but there certainly something wrong with her.
2006-09-21 08:34:49 · answer #4 · answered by Melia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if your mother is a manipulative and deceitful person who need some psychiatric help. The sooner you can close this chapter in your life, the better it will be for you. She lies, she has decieved others and sounds a little looney to me. Its not right and you don't need to have her continually bring you down.
2006-09-21 08:35:51 · answer #5 · answered by orygunduk1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you trying to say your mother is lying? either way obviously the real father is not anyone you would want in your life or he would be there with you for you to know, i meet my father at 5 when my aunt introduced me to him behind my mothers back, he is 20 years older and having sex with my mom at 15 while her mother was in prison for somthing her boyfriend did, they were involved with older men to take care of themselves, my mom finnally found out she was mad but let me contuinine to see him while visiting him, I watched as he rapped his step sons in front of me and my sisters then my sisters and myself, It would have been better never to have meet him.
2006-09-21 08:37:04 · answer #6 · answered by sam a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 06:38:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't seem right.... perhaps your biological father is someone your mother doesn't want to reveal???? Is there another family member who might have the answers you are looking for?
2006-09-21 08:36:26 · answer #8 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it dont seem right to me, your mom should of been their for sis throught her problems, expecially if she had been throu the same thing
2006-09-21 08:35:02 · answer #9 · answered by bdmrplemons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it doesnt seem right as i to can sympathise for her a person who has been thro it will no how to help another person altho i am of young age i have been there, i hope you find your answers
2006-09-21 08:36:15 · answer #10 · answered by charlescooldude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋