I have an aunt is really hateful and mean to just about everyone.She is really selfish and mean.A neighbor of hers passed away a couple of weeks ago and she didn't go to the funeral but she went to the church after the funeral to get her something to eat,and this isn't even the first time she's done this.I really want to confront her and tell her about herself but my mother tells me to just let it go.How would you confront her,or how would you handle it?
2006-09-21 08:26:21 · 22 answers · asked by DiamondXxx 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That was so disrectful to the woman's family
2006-09-21 08:31:33 · update #1
That's just wrong that she would do that! Sometimes it's best just to try and keep the peace in the family. If she continues to act like this someone will tell her how she is.
2006-09-21 08:29:56 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to be contradicting your Mother, but "letting it go," sounds like what everyone has done with your Aunt, most of her life. And "that" is why she's still that way. Wether it is with an older relative, a group of relatives, or by yourself, this woman needs to be told that her cold, rude and totally selfish behavior is no longer exceptable!
When a person is the way your Aunt is, they cannot possibly be a happy person, because this is very bad behavior. And if someone doesn't tell her how they feel, but allow her to come around and "act" like this, then they are contributing "to" that behavior, like they are condoning
it. Confront her or not.....The ball is in "your" court. And good luck.
2006-09-21 09:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by Republican!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you mom is telling you to let it go, Then you probably should. She has probably seen other people try to confront her about this behavior in the past and it probably didnt end well. But if you really wanna say something, DO IT. Dont let fear of her reaction threaten you in any way, People who act like that should be TOLD and if she doesnt listen, keep saying it to her but in publlic places where others can hear and will take notice to her actions the next time she does it. I bet then other people would start saying something to her too. Such as family members who realize she just wants the food and could care less about the recently deceased.
2006-09-21 08:31:25 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably lonely. But I would just avoid her. Because if you confront then all hell is going to break loss. You may say some things that you don't mean and it's not worth it. Just stay away from her and ignore what's she is doing.
2006-09-21 08:31:29 · answer #4 · answered by incredible 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you hope to accomplish by informing a mean, hateful, selfish person that she is mean, hateful, and selfish?? Do you think she'll say "Oh.. gee, I didn't realize that. Thank you! I will change!" ??
I don't believe there's anything to gain by confronting her. I think the better idea is to ignroe her, limit your time with her, and think about better things. Listen to your mom- she's right.
2006-09-21 08:30:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until she's at a family function and starts to "do her thing" to a family member instead of a neighbor, then confront her. Take care of your own.
2006-09-21 08:30:03 · answer #6 · answered by DMBthatsme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Out of the blue, just tell her "You know, you can be really rude sometimes!" If she asked you why, then give her examples. If not, she will still think about your statement. Why? Everyone cares what other people think about them specially from a young relative like yourself. You're her niece. She will think, "My niece thinks I'm rude! Am I really rude?" She will contemplate it. It may not show in the outside, but inside, she will be conflicted.
2006-09-21 08:32:56 · answer #7 · answered by Thot77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is hateful and mean do you think anything you say to her is going to change her. I am sure she already knows what she is and has made a choice to be that way. Just be grateful that she isn't totally in your life, and ignore her as much as possible
2006-09-21 08:31:23 · answer #8 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry if this isnt much help but at the end of the day u can change people it is a shame i know but you just need to try and ignor it, i mean u could try just tell her the truth tell her annoyed by the way she treats people there is no harm in tellin the truth
2006-09-21 08:31:14 · answer #9 · answered by charlescooldude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dukalink6000 is so right. Ignore her and avoid her, because if you were to confront a person like this, she'll make life miserable for you forever. You absolutely can't change her.
2006-09-21 08:33:22 · answer #10 · answered by REP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋