i just had a baby 7 weeks ago and at frist she was happy for me. i am 16 and she says stuff like shut that damn baby up. if you don't do this or that at one point i saw her lie him on the bare kitchen floor i am scared she might hurt me and my son she told me to cme live wwit her now she acts like she won'ts us to live where am i going to go i can't buy my on place i damn sho ain't going to depend on the goverment. my life is a living hell i don't want to live wit my mom because i stopped talking to her when we found out i was having this baby. i really need help.
2006-09-21 08:19:09 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Your first priority is your child. If you truley fear for his safety where you are, you need to leave. Your boyfriend should not allow his mother to do these things. Talk to him and get him to back you up.
Maybe it's time to try to rebuild the bridge to your mom. Make the first step. You don't say why you stopped talking, but I assume she was upset with you for getting pregnant. Go to her as her daughter and explain the situation. Tell her you need her help. I can't imagine a mother turning away her own child.
2006-09-22 10:48:45 · answer #1 · answered by Sera B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find out if there are any live in programs near you for pregnant and teen moms. These types of programs help people like you find jobs, continue your education, and get a place to live on your own. If you sons grandmother is putting him on the kitchen floor and being verbally abusive he will soon be able to understand what is happening and would be able to repeat what shes doing.
I understand your mother was upset. Maybe if you talk to her and explain what is going on she will have a change of heart. Also try talking to your grandparents, aunts, uncles, and other friends. I am sure someone will try to help you in the mean time.
Sometimes adults who have grown children can't handle the little ones being around full time.
Good Luck
2006-09-21 08:38:20 · answer #2 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay there are quite a few things I need to address here:
1. You are 16 with a baby and life is a living hell-it is going to because you are a baby with a baby. You are still a minor. I understand you are having sex, but using protection should have been a priority. Now your teenage years are over because you are now a mother. You cant hang with your girls, or goto the weekly party, or game without taking your child. I hope the sex was worth all the drama it has caused.
2. You stopped talking to your mother when she found out you were pregnant-Have you not considered she just might be disappointed in you? Baby life is hard, and you just made it harder for yourself. You cant be any further along than the 10th or 11th grade and you have a baby. Gone are the days of being a teenager for you. When you could have been hanging with your girls, you are at home playing wife to a "baby daddy" in his mom's house. You need to go home and work this out with your mother. You would rather sit in his house and let his mom treat you like that instead of going home to the people who love you? (That is another sign of the lack of maturity of a 16 year old mind).
3. Where is your baby daddy when his mother is talking about killing his child? See, that is not only your baby, but his too. But I bet you he is still kicking it in the streets right now, is he not? Still going out, still hanging with the fellas, while you are at home tking care of HIS baby. His mother has probably had time to think about what yall have gotten yourselves into, and then you brought it in her house. That is more money on bills for her.
Life is hard sweetie, and I am just telling you how the world will see you. You are in no worst position than any other 16 year old with a baby staying with her baby daddy-oh yeah this is unfortunately common in this day and time. But you need to make a mature choice and do what is right for your child and yourself, and go home. NO ONE will love you like your mother, except God. She is upset with you, but you are still her child and you need her guidance and support right now. She will give it to you, you just have to swallow your pride and go home.
2006-09-21 10:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How old is your boyfriend? If you are worried about you and your baby's safety you might even though you don't want to have to depend on the government, at least until you get on your feet. I think that you should maybe try to talk with you mother maybe she can offer you help or even take you and your son back in. I think if that is the only problem you have you should definitely be with your mother. i hope you are still planning to graduate h.s and pursue all the goals you had before you had a child!! Good luck
2006-09-21 08:26:51 · answer #4 · answered by PYT 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do hope your on wic. I know it may seem your trying to take from the Government, but its really good. Its there for reasons like that. As long as you make it temporary your ok, you shouldnt be ashamed. You should call a hotline, and or see if you can try and get into goverment housing, like i said As long as its temporary and at your age, by the time your 20 you should be getting off. Your life is too short to be giving up now and not accepting help.
2006-09-21 08:37:08 · answer #5 · answered by *Bella Reveuse* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to your mom, I was in the same place as you are, the one thing a I regret most about having my son was my mom was not their. She came around and was active in our lives and when my relationship got really violent she came and got us. I urgently tell you to call your mom and tell her that you need her help and support, and tell her the situation that you are in, and I am sure she will help, there is no stopping a mother who loves her child and once she See's the baby she will fall in love. So CALL HER KNOW, get out of that house ASAP. If you won't call her find a local shelter you can stay in or another relatives home.
2006-09-21 08:25:32 · answer #6 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I appreciate the fact that you do not want to immediately take adavntage of the government....But to make you feel better about it WIC and other forms of Government are designed to HELP you get back on your feet and care for your baby. Some ppl take advantage of it and try to live off of it forever. But id reccomend checking into help, maybe even a home for young moms until you can get back on your feet. I know it may seem like you are lowering your standards, BUT youve got a baby to think about and whats best for HIM should come first.
Your Baby's Daddy's mom should be REPORTED!
2006-09-21 08:39:01 · answer #7 · answered by CHRISTINAS MOM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to a shelter. You will have to rely on the government because of the choices you made. Consider giving the baby up for adoption so you and him can have a chance at a normal life. I don't mean to be mean but you really need to go to school and learn something. Your spelling and grammar will prevent you from getting any job that can pay your bills.
2006-09-21 08:35:00 · answer #8 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think she is going to hurt the baby, you need to suck up your pride and go find help. You need to find a shelter that will take you in until you can get a job and rent your own place. I know relying on welfare seems horrible, but if your baby is in danger, you have to get away from where you are.
Has your mother even seen the baby? It is possible she will take you in if she knows you feel that the baby is in danger. All you can do is try.
2006-09-21 08:24:31 · answer #9 · answered by S. O. 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well at this point depending on the government short term so you can get on your feet, get a job and move out is one of your only options hun. It's either that or reconcile with your parents and hope they take you in. I would rather do those two things than to know my baby is not safe. GROW UP!!
2006-09-21 08:24:24 · answer #10 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋