I think weddings are stupid (especially big weddings). There's no point in it except to show off that you are rich and that you can afford a huge wedding! Half the time the guests don't really even know the groom or bride, they just hopped on the band waggon with the other 'wedding crashers'!! What do you think?
2006-09-21 08:10:29 · 65 answers · asked by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think smaller weddings are better. They are more intimate and they mean more.
2006-09-21 08:10:54 · update #1
I went to one last June and it was soooo huge I only knew the groom's side and the bride and groom table was all the way on the other side of the room!! The reception was held at a hotel with over 500 guests! that's huge!
2006-09-21 08:12:11 · update #2
....oh wow! this is alot of responses! Cool! Anyway, my parents were the one that was invited and I just tagged along, and so did ALOT of other people!
2006-09-21 08:26:25 · update #3
I don't have the statistics on hand, but I read somewhere that the "Wedding Industry" has been one of the fastest growing and most lucrative industries in the last 30 years. Very few business opportunities allow you to make 10K-50K in a one day event.
Pair that with the rate of divorce (which equals more weddings) - CHA-CHING!
2006-09-21 08:15:35 · answer #1 · answered by Big Blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HYPE! not from me....I agree and I will even say, some one them are more of a stage show even a wedding. It's crazy and very wasteful to spend that kind of money to do some of the things that brides and grooms are doing today. It's just like you said, some people I think invite everyone that they have ever meet. Small weddings with family and close friends are the most meaningful. Not some huge monster of a product where you have to have a program to follow it. Some are so big that the bride and groom don't even know some of their guests, they are business people from their family's work or guests of their guest.
I would have loved to have more money to spend on my daughter's wedding, but it would have been spent on the guests that were there, not inviting anymore. We did the reception ourselves, and I would have had it caterered if I had the money. But to give her the closest thing to a "dream wedding" for her, it was a neccesity to do the food ourselves with help of friends and family. 500 people, who knows that many people that you are close enough to that you want them to share that most important day of your life. Not me! So, you are right on the money....they spend too much of it! Why not do something useful with it, put a down payment on a house, spend more on a honeymoon, crap if they can't spend it all, give it to charity....
I have helped plan many weddings, one that just was family only to 300 guests....from $5.00 a plate to $25.00(20 years ago). I have seen guests not even touch the food, or pick at it, and I have seen crazy things, the bride throw a fit to the groom making out with a bridesmaid, but the worse thing is seeing the waste! Just went to a wedding of two friends, and there were so many people coming in and out that I would place a bet that some of the partiers weren't invited or even knew the couple. But they tagged along with someone else.
No hype or complaints here! I would take my daughter's small wedding with her closest family and friends or mine that was similar then be able to afford the movie star wedding that this bride's are demanding. It's not a wedding anymore it's a show!
God bless us all..............
2006-09-21 08:35:36 · answer #2 · answered by totallylost 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. I think the money spent on giant weddings could be used for a downpayment on a house. Or put into a savings account. I don't know why young couples expect to go into huge amounts of debt to throw a party-- nor do I know why they think they "deserve" such a lavish affair.
People have a "right" to throw whatever type of party they want.. but if they can't PAY FOR IT, go into debt or expect Mumsy and Daddy to foot the bill, I think they may be too immature to be married.
I personally am sick and tired of these HUGE wedding events that everyone is forced to attend, only to learn that the marriage is over within 2 years. It's like-- why didn't you people spend some money on pre-marital councelling instead of $20K on flowers? These "show weddings" don't really seem to be about marriage at all- they seem to be about spending money and spoiled brides.
I've been to all sorts of weddings and much prefer the smaller, intimate ones. I don't like it when the bride/groom are trying to impress everyone and/or show off. A pricey wedding doesn't mean a happy marriage-- just look at Tori Spelling and some of the others who had million $$ weddings.
Do you ever watch the TV show "Platimum Weddings"- it will make you sick LOL
2006-09-21 08:20:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say I agree, a prime example: I was just invited to attend a wedding for a bride and groom, I have never met, I know the father and he is whom invited me... so i am would be an un-invited, unknown person at this wedding. Your so right, people just go for the party. I think weddings mean much more, kept small and intimate! You can still wear a beautiful dress and have a loved one stand up for your big day with out taking on a loan the size of a house payment to do so!
Good topic.
2006-09-21 08:15:29 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kind of agree with you. However, if people want to have a big wedding and they can afford, then hey go for it.
I went to a large, expensive wedding. It was the bride's first marriage, the groom's second. They both have excellent jobs and paid for everything themselves. They both grew up locally and worked with a large group of people. They cherish the memories of the wedding. It all seemed to work out fine. There was no fighting among families. They were paying for it themselves, who could complain. I know many, many weddings do not turn out this well though.
I agree that if I had that much money, I would have a quick wedding and go on one heck of a honeymoon trip.
2006-09-21 08:49:11 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it, weddings (no matter how big or small) are romantic. A woman gets all worked up and does so many things, spending all this money, and gathering all these people, for what? Romance. I mean, no matter what is happening at a woman's perfect wedding, when the time comes, all she was wanting to do was look as beautiful as she can for the groom. "When all the crowd is looking at the bride, the bride is only looking at the groom."
2006-09-21 08:14:53 · answer #6 · answered by ch_jakal_lv 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that weddings are stupid; I think what society has turned weddings into is stupid. Weddings should be treated just like other aspects in life...if you have a small income have a small wedding. Just like it's nonsense to buy a Lexus if you're making minimum wage, it's nonsense to have a overly lavish wedding if you can't afford it.
People work so hard to try to keep up with "The Joneses." The wedding is just a ceremony and should be treated as such. Who even remembers where half of the money they spent on the wedding went???
The marriage is what is priceless. The marriage is the investment that you should work diligently on. The marriage is everything.
2006-09-21 08:58:30 · answer #7 · answered by Nocturnal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see what you saying, but at the same time a wedding is what the bride and groom make it. If they are in control of there own wedding, then most of the time the people who are invited are only the ones who they know. It's when they let others make disitions like whose coming, that it goes from being there wedding to a party planned by someone else.
2006-09-21 08:27:42 · answer #8 · answered by Jason 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love big weddings. My family is huge and I would want all of my loved ones and friends over the years to be there. I have a very extended social circle. I think if you have the means to, then you should put on a big celebration. Its the biggest party for you that you will probably ever throw in your life! And the more people to share in the joy of your union is even better in my opinion :)
Small weddings are nice as well and more intimate. I guess it just depends on the person.
2006-09-21 08:14:45 · answer #9 · answered by sugarice82 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you suggest that people have no right to put on a large wedding, if they choose? Do you suggest, by the same logic, that if someone can affort a larger house, a more luxuious car, more expensive clothes that they should not acquire these?
I might also assume that you dont belive that a person who works hard, all day at manual labor deserves any less pay than a doctor, who put himself through 20 years of expensive education.
Do I assume too much, or do you focus your distaste for ostentaciousness only on weddings?
A parade, after all, needs only a drum and a tin horn. Anything else is "show off."
2006-09-21 08:17:10 · answer #10 · answered by Vince M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋