be nice and sweet, but unmotivated, or mean and nasty, but motivated?
what would u do to encourage ur children to "fix" what they are lacking?
2006-09-21 07:56:05 · 7 answers · asked by sasmallworld 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i don't have kids, but a friend last night was really sad cuz his parents constantly compare him to his sister, etc..they make him feel stupid (he's in a community college, keeps changing majors); they pretty much sucked ALL the confidence out of him....but he doesn't have much to show for it. he is also a very sensitive guy so u can tell that negative words really take a toll on him :(.....
i feel that it's so hard to be a parent, but at the same time they don't always see how detrimental their words can be
2006-09-21 08:06:03 · update #1
nice and motivated. Get a role model and try to do what they do.
2006-09-21 07:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...good question. I would rather my kids be sweet and nice but unmotivated. The reason I say that is because I am a firm believer in what goes around comes around besides motivation is acquired. I considered myself to be a sweet and nice kid when I was growing but I was very shy. My mom did an excellent job of bringing me out of my shell. She did what I like to refer to as "Blow my head up". Nothing was too hard or too complicated for me in her eyes. She validated me as a person, as a female. Since I admired her so, if she said I could do it, I did it. However when I got to High School, I was the total opposite. I was mean and nasty but there was nothing I didn't do (good things of course). I spoke to people any kind of way cause in a way I thought I was all that. Now that I am older, I regret the way I treated people, it was unnecessary. Believe me I had to hit the bottom before I realized that, though. Now I try to be nice and motivated and keep other around me motivated.
2006-09-21 08:07:04 · answer #2 · answered by Buffy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather my children to be nice and sweet, but unmotivated. Mean and nasty people are hard to be around and I would not want my child wandering around alone in the world.
I would encourage them with information about myself.....let them know that life sucks sometimes, but that we can all pick ourselves back up.
2006-09-21 08:04:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your children will learn best from your example. I would show them, through your life, what you want for them. In response to the first question, I wouldn't want my children to be either of those but of all the character qualities you offered I definitely wouldn't want them to be mean and nasty.
2006-09-21 08:00:23 · answer #4 · answered by hutmikttmuk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son is nice and sweet and motivated. he can be nasty if necessary. but overall a sweet kid. give your kids encouragement. a positive attitude!!
2006-09-21 08:03:10 · answer #5 · answered by mml619 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gee i would hope for the in between the two...i like my sons to be nice but to be able to take care of there self...and they are not lazy unless i want or need something done...seems like they do what they want...and when they get a cetain age well we can talk all we want...they are sweeter and nicer though when they want something...that is for sure...
2006-09-21 07:59:59 · answer #6 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get new kids
2006-09-21 08:00:10 · answer #7 · answered by whymewhynow 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋