my ex said he wanted to get back with me, but hes not making any effort. hes the type of guy that runs when pressured. i dont want to pressure him but i get the feeling hes changed his mind or now is not the right time. I say this because if it was, he would be persuing me. he persued me in the beginning but now hes not. Im always wondering when hes gonna call or if hell pick up when i call him.
to end this once and for all, i want to change my number. that way when he does finally decide to call me. he wont find me. I wanted to explain to him how Im feeling. you know, to give him a chance to explain. I just dont think ill get satisfactory answers. i been meaning to change my number for a while now anyway. which is better changing the number or trying to talk to him. no matter what it takes?
2006-09-21 07:52:43 · 8 answers · asked by Roma 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
baby girl, change your number. go on with your life. if he wants to contact you, he would by now. besides there are other way to get a hold of you right? so, don't sweat it. put him @ your back burner. go out and have fun, enjoy life. no time is better than the present time. go... go... go and have fun.
2006-09-21 07:58:24 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you have a pattern here - he chases you, he gets you, he withdraws. For some people, the hunt is everything, and once that's over, they lose interest - in which case, for him, it's all about his ability to get you if and when he wants you, not about what you need. Is it possible he doesn't want you, he just wants to know he can get you if he wants to?
Will he change? Well, has he changed so far? Talking about changing isn't changing, it's talking. If he was going to treat you differently, wouldn't he be doing it now? It sounds like he's doing what he's done before.
If you think he really has changed and you are both committed to working out the relationship, then you should tell him that you're getting mixed signals from him and see what he does. If you suspect he's stringing you along, then it's time to say that you don't want to go through that again, so he should stop contacting you.
Change your number, by all means, if you decide you've had enough and he won't leave you alone - a possibility as that seems to be his pattern, if you say "go away," he feels the need to chase you - but unless you want to keep repeating the pattern, something has to change.
You can't change him. The only one you can change is you. Good luck!
2006-09-21 15:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write it down, either a letter or an e-mail. Sometimes its better to get it all out without someone interrupting. Tell him if he wants to respond he has a week (or other designated period of time) and then you are calling it quits and he won't be able to contact you anymore. This way you've tried and its in his hands. If he wants you he'll come and get you. If you don't hear from him change your number. AND DO IT!! Don't just think about it or say that you'll give him one more day. If he doesn't get to you in the amount of time given, he doesn't want to work it out. At least you'll know.
2006-09-21 15:02:14 · answer #3 · answered by Smithy14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious that you still have some feelings for him because you haven't changed your number yet. So just call him, but don't jump right into the relationship situation. Call him to see how he's doing, this will throw him off slightly because for one, he wasn't expecting you to call any way. So just talk to him in a nice way (not letting him know that you've been thinking about him). Just play it cool and you should be okay. And you should be able to know what's going on between you two.
2006-09-21 15:04:51 · answer #4 · answered by Ambi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither! You are reading too much in to this, do not change your number, do not call him and do not talk to him go with the flow and let the eliments of the time work themselves out, this way you can't go wrong either way! Do nothing! timing is evrything and he has thoughts and you have feelings sit on them let them be there but do nothing about them if he comes back good if he doesn't good... All is going just the way it should be... Trust, just sit back and wait for the outcome to reveal itself!
2006-09-21 15:00:49 · answer #5 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on...never go back with an ex. It never works. Why did you two break up in the first place? He might have been testing you to see if you would run back to him with open arms. And when he found out that you didn't it wasn't worth it anymore. Go find yourself a better person.
2006-09-21 14:57:18 · answer #6 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK back up the ex bf train don't get back with him. this is gonna sound harsh but he is lonely and he thinks you will come back to him any time he wants DONT DO IT this has happened to me many times and it took me a while but i found that its really not a good thing it only hurts in the end
2006-09-21 14:59:24 · answer #7 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not bothering to make an effort, lose him. Move on
2006-09-21 14:56:49 · answer #8 · answered by Mary Smith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋