I have this serious problem wiith thinking i am happy in hte relationship that i am in but then a guy comes along saying he can treat me alot better than that so l just keep looking for another guy and soo on. I want to have a family but every guy that i get with already has a child or several children and doesn't want one with me and that hurts
2006-09-21 07:44:40 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess the first thing you could start with is dating someone that has no "attachments" so to speak. No kids, no ex-wives, nothing. This way it would be a new start for the both of you which tends to be less boring and the urge of looking for someone else will fade away. (if this is the right guy of course)
If it doesn't work out, try again and once you find you're match, the urge will be gone.
Hope this helps.
2006-09-21 07:49:32 · answer #1 · answered by Minouners 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, what you want isn't A guy, it's THE guy - and that takes time to figure out. If you're continually looking over your shoulder for something better, either you're not really ready to commit, or you're picking guys you instintively know you can't commit to.
What do the guys you pick have in common (besides you?). You mention that they already have a child, or several, for one thing. It'd be worth your while to list the guys you've been with and what they have in common - personality traits, lifestyle choices, everything. See if a pattern emerges.
The other thing they have in common is you. Are you afraid to commit? Did your parents have a happy, stable, successful relationship? Try to figure out if there's a pattern to your relationships. Is there a certain point at which you start looking around? If so, what is it?
If you go out hunting every day and don't bag your deer, then either you aren't really committed to catching a deer, or you're hunting in the wrong place. Having a successful relationship is part you, part him - it takes two people who are committed to the relationship and a future together. It sounds like you've never had either one, so it's time to ask yourself if this is truly what you want, and if it is, what you're doing that sabotages your success. Good luck!
2006-09-21 07:56:05 · answer #2 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im like that 2, but its in your control. You have to sit and think if thats what u really want. Do you really want to keep living your life that way? If you think about, if u keep doing this you are just setting up your heart to become hurt. You need to learn self-control. Maybe you should even stop dating 4 awhile. Get your self together and then start over. I think you should write a list of things you want in 1)a man, 2)in a relationship, 3)in yourself, and what you want in life. This should get you thinking. It wouldnt hurt to think about yourself instead of someone else. Hope I helped.
2006-09-21 07:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by tiffany072390 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this the love that you are looking for but seem to miss from a man:
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
1 Corinthians 13: 4-8
2006-09-21 07:52:21 · answer #4 · answered by Dead 2 Self 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop dating just to be dating...you don't have to always be in a relationship...learn to make yourself happy, and then you'll be in a better place to be a good partner for someone else...
...have standards, stop settling, and don't get involved with someone unless you really dig them...then it won't be so easy for someone else to come along and offer you something better...
2006-09-21 07:51:07 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well stop tryna get a man, and spend that time in between to get to know yourself! that should be YOU time, so try and have alot of girls nite out @ home and forget the guy talk excluding models, actors, etc.....! Gotta have some excitement right!!!!! well, that way you will know yourself and eventually find the right guy thru know the right grl...YOURSELF!!!! HOPE IT HELPS!!!
2006-09-21 07:50:05 · answer #6 · answered by littleyoungsupernova 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the some problem but its bad cuz for some reason guys get too hooked up on me so i have tons of stockers. am worried.
2006-09-21 07:49:53 · answer #7 · answered by *********** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well try dating someone with no kids, and take ure time with it.
2006-09-21 07:48:43 · answer #8 · answered by LADY J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a nice guy who loves you, if he trully loves you he wouldn't mind having a child with you!!!!!
good luck!!!!!!!!
2006-09-21 07:48:31 · answer #9 · answered by teddy shae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Variety is the 'spice of life' ...
2006-09-21 07:46:31 · answer #10 · answered by blueyedimpledguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋