I'm thinking 3-4 months tops. Its this bad to think about/know at the start? Especially if the other person obviously really likes you?
2006-09-21 07:43:35 · 5 answers · asked by denialsparks 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was in a relationship like that for 2 years. When I first met the guy, I saw him only as a friend - but he was so smitten with me, and he had such a great sense of humor - that I allowed myself to go out with him, and soon we were dating. I found myself trying so hard to reach the same level of emotions he had for me - only to keep coming up short. After 2 months of dating he told me he loved me and I said it back - but didn't mean it. I freaked out and told him this was moving too fast for me (I was 22, he was 29). I finally began to fall in love with him, but I couldn't stand his friends - who were party animals. His parents, however, were dear people - and we met them weekly for dinners and such. We had a big fight 4 months before we officially broke up - and we did some serious talking and he admitted that he'd been wanting to ask me to marry him. I was 23 then and so excited about the possibility of an engagement ring - that despite the fact I still didn't feel he was the one, tried to get really into the idea of marrying him. He went out right away, bought a beautiful condo for us to live in, gave me a key and garage door opener. And then I freaked out big time - told him I couldn't marry him, couldn't be with him. It was so hard...but I knew in my heart it was the right decision.
I guess what I'm saying is that I probably shouldn't have been with him for that long. If you don't see a future with your current guy, tell him now before he really falls for you hard. I hope this helps. The good news is, less then a year after our breakup, I met the man of my dreams and we've been together 3 years now, married 1 year - our anniversary is this weekend - so always remember that anything and everything is possible.
2006-09-21 07:50:07 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If both people know and accept that the relationship won't last, then it's okay. It may or may not be smart, but at least you both know what you're getting into.
If you really don't see the relationship going anywhere, then you at least owe it to the guy to spell that out for him. Don't lead him into false hopes.
2006-09-21 07:57:52 · answer #2 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know... you're feelings for that person could change dramatically over the next 3-4 months. Give it a chance!
2006-09-21 07:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no , because that happened to me , i wasted 2 years it was going
nowhere. if there is no conection, it will not last.
2006-09-21 07:47:29 · answer #4 · answered by rodriguez m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then why bother in the first place? Or are you just in it for the sex?
2006-09-21 07:47:36 · answer #5 · answered by blueyedimpledguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋