Okay so ive been with my guy for almost 3 years in feb. off and on alot.Its always the same...we fight alot and get into a HUGE fight..break up and then later on like a month or so we get back together...its always him coming back to me because im always the on unhappy and he never sees that.He says "oh ill change..oh ill pay more attention to u..oh ill be more affectionate" and the only time he tries to make me happy is when i bring it to his attention that im misrable with him. So i am to that point (again) where i love him and his family and friends to death but i KNOW i deserve better...I know that guys arent perfect but i cant help but think that someone ELSE is PERFECT for me. any advice??
2006-09-21 07:33:06 · 14 answers · asked by thr33librasx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You already know the answer to this, you just want someone else telling you that you are right. Ok, here we go. LEAVE and NEVER look back. It isn't going to change. Honey, it hasn't changed so far and it isn't going to change. You are in a rut with him. You are used to him and his family and friends but you deserve better. But you aren't going to get better if you keep settling for less. Put yourself first and understand that he isn't going to change nor is he good enough for you. So run, run as fast as you can in the opposite direction.
2006-09-21 07:40:07 · answer #1 · answered by Tara S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, it doesn't sound like a good relationship for either of you.
Why invest more time in it?
Having to ask for attention + affection? What the h*ll is going on here? That sucks!
How does that make you feel? Ick. No thanks.
There is, most definitely, a person out there who would be a much better match...someone who could give you what you need without having to be asked.
This person would also have family + friends you would like.
2006-09-21 14:45:44 · answer #2 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your tried all the works then.. maybe this isnt the right guy for you. i been with my ex for 5 yrs and it was fighting and breaking up and getting back together.. it got exausting for me and i realized that nothing is coming good out of it.. so i ended our relationship.. i loved his family and some what of his friends but i knew that i wasnt gonna stay with him b/c of his family. so after i broke up with him...i felt relieved and yet i felt alone. but i made myself busy..i hung out with my girls(which made me feel so much better) and went out to the clubs..and just did alot of things i missed out on.. and i finally got over him.. and i went to hair school and met this guy that worked next door and we hit it off from there.. i didnt let my guard down though. i was gonnaplay it safe until i know that this guy is legit..and not just tryin to take advantage of me.. and what do you know we've been together for a 2 yrs now.. and im happy. and i know that if you just put your past behind you and even though it will be hard just keep thinking to yourself that your better than that and theres other guys out there that are willing to do anything for you. dont let your guard down no matter how much your ex says he'll change and everything.. you've heard it all before and nothing ever happens. so live a happy life.. you only have one live it to the fullest. heres a quote.. its my favorite." Every 60 seconds your upset, is a waste of 1 minute of happiness." good luck chica
2006-09-21 15:04:57 · answer #3 · answered by beth-y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have proof enough that its not going to work. He will never change...more to the point(you said it), you deserve better. The longer you remain in this degrading situation, the longer you will be dragged down to the point of no return.
Be thankful that you have a preview of what life is like with him. Is that what you want?
Define a new set of goals for yourself and make them your priority. Fall back in love with yourself and move on.
It will be difficult however, but a decision well worth the effort.
2006-09-21 14:45:25 · answer #4 · answered by Robere 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK stop right there. if a man says he will treat you better and then after a while doesn't, he just lied through his teeth. but he cant make you happy. i promise you that you cant depend on another person to make you feel happy. so what you should do is try to make yourself happy start trying to find things that you like join clubs start something what ever it takes for you to be happy. and then go back to your relationship and see if it helps and if he still treats you like dirt then leave him out in the cold
2006-09-21 14:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is that perfect one out there for every single one of us. If you don't feel that it's him, then you're probably right. Dump him and move on. STOP TAKING HIM BACK. It takes 2 people to work on a relationship, not just 1. Are you making him happy?
2006-09-21 14:40:49 · answer #6 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest leaving. If you are this unhappy- you will never be. It sounds like you two are just not compatible.
Find someone that does make you happy instead of settling for him.
2006-09-21 14:41:36 · answer #7 · answered by lonelykuroinu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look honey if you know you can get better than do so . you don't need to stay with some guy because you like his fam bam. keep liking his family but let him go for some other broad let her deal with his ways , girl its alright . stop letting him back he taking you for a fool .Are you a fool which i hope your not . but good luck with that!
2006-09-21 14:45:39 · answer #8 · answered by Jay Bird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it more than a month and dont "break up" but still talk to eachother daily an email and text and im etc etc. actually have REAL away time from him and if you still care for eachother then make him change if there is any way possible
2006-09-21 14:36:39 · answer #9 · answered by TheMaverick.The Artist 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a whole month you guys have broken up? that is a very long time just leave him while you are ahead if he doesnt make you happy if you can
2006-09-21 14:39:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋