my brother is five and started kindergarden but he tells me don't have no friends and every one is mean to him how can i help him make friends we are like ten years apart things change
2006-09-21 07:24:31 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
When a child is 5 he doesn't think anyone likes him. He probably likes to tell you this to get your undivided attention. Nothing like hanging out with big sis. Even if only because you feel sorry for him.
2006-09-21 07:30:19 · answer #1 · answered by lea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a get to know each other party, have your parents write a letter to some of the parents in his class to see if they can come. It's hard at that age because they are still defining who they are, it may take a little bit for all the kids or him to open up, just reassure him that in time kids will come around and about the mean part, I know it's stupid but let him know that there are just some people out in the world that are mean and pay no attention to because that is the way the world works. Or you can as lo have him take a couple of things to school for show and tell, and that may break the ice with a few kids. I know it hard my brother and I are 16 years apart, I am older so I had to deal with many of the issues of younger kids, just be there to support him and comfort him.
2006-09-21 14:31:58 · answer #2 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that your brother may not understand what a friend is ask him if other kids talk to him at school and describe what a friend is and what they do. He may just be confused since he is in kindergarden. I would have your mom ask the teacher and make sure no one is being mean to him and then see if he is telling the truth, my daughter tried to tell me stuff like that sometimes and I know it is not true. She will say in a sad voice " nobody likes me and they are all mean to me" When actually she is very much liked and no one is being mean.
2006-09-21 14:30:51 · answer #3 · answered by amandawilkerson2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my kids were that age, and even a little older, the status of "friend" changed daily. One day "Patty" was her bestest friend, and the next day when "Patty" didn't want to play checkers, she became a big meanie. My son was the same way with his friends at that age. One of his best friends now was a boy, who at 5 - 7 y.o., who he "hated" every week or so.
At the age of five, kids are still so focused on the moment, and can't see the bigger picture of how someone behaves over a period of days or weeks.
Keep this in mind when he describes what happens at school.
2006-09-21 22:06:46 · answer #4 · answered by katnkaboodle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really sweet that you want to help your brother. If your parents let you, you could take him to a park and encourage him to play with other kids, or, when you are at the park, start up a game of "tag" with some of the kids your brothers age to help him socialize. Also, encourage him to go up to other kids and talk to them. Also, ask him why they are mean to them and figure out what they say, because if it is a big problem, his teacher should be aware of it.
2006-09-21 14:35:36 · answer #5 · answered by betterlife_travel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, he'll learn how to make friends. He's only 5...plenty of time :-)
2006-09-21 14:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him just to be friendly. Does he TALK to anyone at all or they talk to him?
2006-09-21 17:28:25 · answer #7 · answered by branches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋