how can a girl tell you that she loves you so much and that you are so special. How she can never imagine me not in her life and that im all she could ever wish for and more and she hopes we spend many years together and then decides she never ever wants to be with me even though i just carried on being that special person to her, giving her all the love that she needed. Did she ever feel anything for me or was it all lies? i need help cos im broken hearted at the moment as she gave me so much hope for the future.
2006-09-21 07:13:52 · 44 answers · asked by the faceman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sure alot of women feel that men are the ones who are cold-hearted. There are good women out there but you just had the misfortune of hooking up with the wrong one.
Love comes with it many, many emotions; and more times than not it can bring disappointments, regrets, and pain. It's just a part of life. Take this bad experience and turn it into a positive thing for you by being more careful the next time you meet someone.
It sounds as though you were always true and devoted to your girlfriend, but she broke up with you regardless. If it'll make you feel any better, I honestly think it's her loss. It's hard for you right now, I'm sure, but in time, you'll get over her.
You know, don't generalize about ALL women simply because of this bad experience. There are so many good women out there and love CAN be all sweet and wonderful - you just have to keep your eyes (and your heart) open for the right one.
Good luck and take care ;)
2006-09-21 07:45:34 · answer #1 · answered by ♫ Jemmy~ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When a person says that you are so special & could not imagine living without you, blah blah blah - these are some stupid infatuated expressions that have been made popular by European romantic tales and novels & we people follow all that crap blindly and freely. If someone says like that to you, it does not mean that person loves you at all! It means that person is just expressing it out of his/her feeling at that moment - this is just temporary & fragile, and will wear off very easily.
Real love is all about making it work & putting up through hard times, even if you don't feel the same "special" way. In the end of it all, if you succeed, that will give you the ultimate pleasure you can ever have in life. Unlike dating which in reality is utter and useless crap that you cannot make head or tail out of!
2006-09-21 07:29:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all women are the same. Yes, you will find some that like to hurt, especially the good guys, but there are many that do not. I can understand that your heart is broken now, you feel like dying inside, like someone ripped your heart out, but my friend, believe me when I say this will pass. I think it has happened to each and everyone of us at sometime and to different extents, but people recoup. Time heals all wounds. Give yourself so time to reflect on what happened and go forward. Don't look back. From now on enjoy your life and before you know it, someone will be in front of you, looking straight into your eyes, saying I love you, and meaning it.
2006-09-21 07:22:30 · answer #3 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
honestly things can change a girls feelings really fast. There might have been another guy, that she might have started to have feelings for, so she told you things that you wanted to hear so you would stand out more, and maybe help her to convince herself that you were the better one, but then found out that was false. Did you talk to her at all about why she wanted out? She might have to do whats best for her, you should always look out for yourself before any girlfriend, at least until you are married! Sorry to say this, but some guys are really dense and they don't see whats right in front of them, they may think that their girl is happy, but she's not, and I'm not one to always share my feelings all the time, and she might have kept those bottled up, they exploded, there was too much for her to take, so she ended things. I dunno. If you wanna know the truth, talk to your ex-girl. Hopefully you can move past this, it'll take some time, but it'll happen, I'm sure, and another girl will come along, when you least expect it. She'll respect you more and treat you the way that you should be treated, you just haven't found the right one yet. Not all girls are cold hearted, just need to find one that knows what she wants and ones whose mature enough to talk everything out with you, so you dont get any of those surprise break-ups
2006-09-21 07:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by Hannah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there more to this story then your telling us? Did you do something that she found out and thats what made her turn the other way? There are 2 sides to every story. I find this to be odd that she loved you and said all these things and then just up and leaves. Did you possibly miss something here? I'm sorry for your heartbreak...it is cruel but not all women are this way. I do hope this does not discourage you from being a gentlemen to someone else. You need to ask her these questions you present to us to find out the real answer.
2006-09-21 07:20:27 · answer #5 · answered by Ivory_Flame 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All females are not cold hearted...I am very sorry that the one you were with treated you that way. Sometimes people have to make hard decisions about what is right for their life and the direction it is headed. Unfortunately, loved ones get hurt in the process. I believe that what she told you was probably true, but other factors came into play when making her decision. You seem very hurt right now, but once the fog clears, you may see that it was for the better. Good luck.
2006-09-21 07:20:13 · answer #6 · answered by noambition 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yep bud i know exactly wot u mean i been in a long distance and its very up and down at the mo even though i have given everything i can and it still feels like what ever i do is not enough and she holds some sort of power over me i am pretty broken hearted as well at the mo and so i get u, i really dont know the solution, offer her more but dont get too stressed about it, otherwise not worth it cos i keep teeling myself to not do that but still cant lol
2006-09-21 07:43:20 · answer #7 · answered by johnny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because when she said it she meant it. But you were not listening to all the other things she told you directly and indirectly. Look at what you did well, think about what you did badly, apply that lessons in a new situation. The world is full of women who are willing to give you all the love you need if you are prepared to have self respect and treat them with respect. Listen more carefully next time and adjust your behaviour and attitudes accordingly. There will be others - its guaranteed.
2006-09-21 07:24:15 · answer #8 · answered by Chilli P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They're not all like that. Unfortunately, you do have to stumble through a bit of a minefield before you find the right one.
Yeah, sometimes life sucks. You just have to pick yourself up and move on. Anyway, if this is gonna happen, it's better for it to happen sooner rather than later - now you're over and done with this girl, so she won't be wasting any more of your time.
Good luck in your search.
2006-09-21 07:20:12 · answer #9 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Brother I feel for you. It happened to me as well. There are different reason women can fall out of love. That doesn't mean that she never did. Some reasons are they met someone new, got tired of you, you are no longer any use to them, ect. . In my case she was finished using me after two years. It does get easier with time but it hurts like hell. Find a new woman and get over her. Thats the best I can do for you. Good luck
2006-09-21 07:25:27 · answer #10 · answered by cowboybronco01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋