to go to Philippines next year for a visit and for our wedding. My problem is, i told him that i dont like him to talk with anybody else on chat anymore but "i think" he is not listening and still talking with his other female chat buddies. I have all of his passwords on email and i feel that he love me as well as i love him. I do not know if he is really serious of loving me or just playing with me because i found out that he still have pictures of those ladies she had talked to on chat before, even i told him to delete them. This is my first time to have commitment on a muslim so i am very scared that he will dump me soon when we marry or get another woman to love to. i am not criticizing muslims but i do not know much about them. please help me people.. thanks!!
2006-09-21 07:08:40 · 17 answers · asked by BABAE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Don't marry or commit to someone you have never met in real life.
There is no way you can trust him until you have known him for a while.
2006-09-21 07:11:28 · answer #1 · answered by Laura 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You're engaged to marry someone you've never met? and you know nothing about his religion? and you're not even sure if he loves you?
I gotta ask... do you really want a greencard that badly?
Honey, it's not worth it! He could be completely scamming you and you have no idea what he's like in person. Please don't committ your life to someone you don't trust and who probably doesn't love you! Put the wedding on hold, meet him next year, learn more about his culture and religion, and THEN decide. You should only marriage someone you really love and trust, or, if you need to, enter a marriage of convenience that has no love at all, but don't ever confuse the two.
you deserve better....
2006-09-21 07:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So you're marrying a guy you haven't even met yet? How do you even know you want to marry this guy? Sounds like he's playing you or he would visit sooner than next year. I guess you're just going to meet at the alter or something. I'd be more worried that he'd blow me up with something instead of him cheating. If you've asked him to delete contacts/pictures and he still hasn't then he really isn't worth your time. Find somebody closer to home. People on the internet are NEVER what they appear to be.
2006-09-21 07:13:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You should not marry him! He could be a serial killer!Are you that naive?Also he is free to talk to whom he pleases.If you even try to go through life telling a man who to talk to or chat with your in for trouble because a real mature man will tell you your not his mom, dont tell him what to do.Your jealous and insecure it will ruin your life if you dont change.A good man can talk to any woman he pleases and be faithful to you.So pick a good man not some bozo you meet on the internet.
2006-09-21 10:12:25 · answer #4 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey,, you need to get with the program girlfriend! How do you know for sure if he is really even a he? You have never met, you do not know what your saving yourself for or who. People play mean games on the internet and in chat rooms, so save yourself some heart ache hun,, and get on with your life. If he shows up in your country then good for you,,, my money says it aint happening!
Good luck!
2006-09-21 07:19:42 · answer #5 · answered by chunkydunk 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have been there.. I was in love with someone i met online and thought he was the most wonderful man in the wolrd. (he was muslim) i went to see him twice and realized that he was not the man that i thought he was. get to know him first before you commit yourself to him. you have no way of knowing what he is doing behind your back. he could be "engaged" to marry other woman too and is just waiting for his first chance to marry one of them. It doesnt sound like a promising relationship to me.. get out!
2006-09-21 07:22:19 · answer #6 · answered by sea_sher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hold on you haven't met him yet. How could you marry someone you have not met? I was engaged to a guy I met on the net and the more we got together the less I liked him.
2006-09-21 07:12:45 · answer #7 · answered by delta s 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Please don't take this wrong, but you are going to marry a guy that you have only talked with and never actaully met. If you go along with this plan expect to have plenty of problems in this whole thing.
Good luck and I hope it works out.
2006-09-21 07:37:49 · answer #8 · answered by Jason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a fiance...that you are meeting for the first time on your wedding day? or the same meeting as the time you will have your wedding? is this a normal thing for your family? crazy stuff to me.
im engaged and i chat with my males friends all the time..most of my friends are males. and my fiance chats with his female friends. i dont see anything wrong with it as long as he isnt cybering with them.....but hey! if you love eachother, then trust eachother
2006-09-21 07:11:39 · answer #9 · answered by TheMaverick.The Artist 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
thats not a muslim thing!its all guys thing. dont blame his religion for what he is doing.
How can u posibly trust a guy from internet??!! without meeting him in a real world- dont do it!!!! pleae open ur eyes and think logicly!
2006-09-21 07:56:12 · answer #10 · answered by Ashlee_Hbiba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋