My husband is going to be a groomsman in his best friend's wedding. I'm not part of the ceremony at all. Would I be invited to the rehearsal dinner, or would it be just my husband? I thought it was just those who were in the wedding, but my sister in law is telling me otherwise.
2006-09-21 07:08:31 · 24 answers · asked by brevejunkie 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The normal custom for the rehearsal dinner is that all members of the wedding party and their spouses are invited -- so you would be included. If the host of the dinner sends out written invitations, you'll get your confirmation there. However, if no invitations are sent, the groom's family traditionally hosts the rehearsal dinner. Ask you husband to check with the groom and make sure.
2006-09-21 19:59:25 · answer #1 · answered by Cozmosis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be invited! I am the best man in my friends wedding coming up (yes I am a girl who is a best man!) and my husband is invited to the rehersal. It could be different if you were not married and maybe only dating a short time. However, I did get an invitation to the dinner from his parents who are hosting it that did invite my husband. I would simply have your husband ask if there is no invitation for the event. Most rehersals are used for the bridal party and immediate family to have a special moment with the bride and groom so on the bid day they can enjoy each other and the other guests they've invited.
2006-09-21 14:22:16 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel Q 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rehearsal dinner should included the spouses of the groomsmen and the bridesmaid. If they are single, then a boyfriend or girlfriend is nice, but doesn't have to be invited. For my own we invited everyone, and when my daughter got married, her in-laws invited each of the bridal party to bring a quest. As a matter of fact, they also included my close friends that I claim as family.
There is no hard set rules to who to or who not to invite. I was in the business for years, and some rehearshal dinner even invite the grandparents, close aunts and uncles. Almost a family reunion type, so the families can all meet and get to know one another. It's left up to the who is hosting the rehearsal dinner. But I would be ready with an outfit just in case you are expected to attend.
God bless us all.....
2006-09-21 14:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by totallylost 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That might depend. Most people invite the wedding party and their spouse or a guest. It all depends on the size of the event, those involved and sometimes the budget. We had a casual rehearsal dinner and invited the wedding party and their families. Had we spent more money and had it at a restaurant, we probably would only have invited the wedding party, but we didnt like that idea so we had homecooked food.
2006-09-21 15:54:08 · answer #4 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the books that I have been reading for my certification, the etiquette is that the spouse, fiance, and "long term" companions of anyone in the wedding party should be included when planning the rehearsal dinner. My advice is to have your husband verify that this has been planned. If they sent out invitations and did not include you, this may have been an oversite on the part of the parents. Unfortunatly, many people think that it is OK to cut the budget by cutting the "extra" people. Don't take it personaly if they did not invite you.
2006-09-21 17:03:25 · answer #5 · answered by wedding planner tx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should absolutely be invited, without question. I have never attended a rehearsal dinner where the significant other of the wedding attendant or participant was not also invited. I've been to dinners when I was the participant and I have also been invited as the guest of the participant. It is definitely the proper thing to do. And I enjoy rehearsal dinners - they are kind of fun! :)
2006-09-21 15:02:03 · answer #6 · answered by PT&L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All the rehearsal dinners I have been to, three of them, the spouses or girlfriend/boyfriend of the person in the wedding party is invited as well. You should probably have your husband check with his friend. It's usually the groom or his family who pays for the rehearsal dinner so if your husband's friend oks you joining them it should be fine. I'm sure there will be several other spouses there as well. Have fun!
2006-09-21 14:12:07 · answer #7 · answered by ND Girl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My sister's rehearsal dinner was basically the two families... not all of them were in the wedding party! Plus, my girlfriend from high school just invited me to hers and I was like.. um, what? I'm like the only one out of our friends that is not a bridesmaid so i told her that would be weird for me, but she said its about 50-60 people and obviously, that many are not in her wedding. It's cool, you should definitely go.
2006-09-21 14:54:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, I have been a bridesmaid several times and a couple of times my hubby was invited and YET there were a few times he was not. I think its more of a financial concern than anything. for my wedding, I sent invitations to the rehearsal dinner so that the significant others knew they were invited. but don't assume that you are invited or that your not. Have your hubby ask the groom.
2006-09-21 14:46:59 · answer #9 · answered by TP 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The rehearsal dinner is for the family, members of the wedding party and their significant other, and sometimes even close family friends (who are practically members of the family anyway). I have yet to see a rehearsal dinner that was so exclusive. And, you are the wife of a party member.
2006-09-21 14:16:33 · answer #10 · answered by ♫ sf_ca ღ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋