..coz I never see them very often and also I'm not a very sociable person..so I feel awkward and sometimes I think they're judging me..they used to judge me a lot when I was little..they're actually coming to visit me tomorrow..how should I react??
2006-09-21 07:07:28 · 14 answers · asked by what goes around comes around 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
confident, only God can judge u. Who cares what they think. they can love u or they can hate u, but only u should care about u... if they start talking about u or judging, consider that a compliment. u are so fascinating they can't stop talking about u !! Family or not, love me or hate and if u choose hate stay away !!!!
2006-09-21 07:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was an still am to a certain extent just like you. I mean I love my extended family cousins, aunts and uncles but when you only get to see them at "special" times of the year it is hard to get close to them at least for me it is. My female cousin is very much an outgoing friendly extroverted person and always has been. She matured faster in the sense of nt playing with Barbies and other similar toys then I did and had a lot more friends. She is less than a year younger too!. She used to be so bossy when we were little as well. So believe me I know how you feel! All I can tell you be yourself! If your family doesn't love you or at least like you for that then they are the ones missing out on someone who is terrific! I don't know if you are an adult or a teen etc but do what you like to do and invite them to go with you. It gets them a chance to see what you are like on YOUR own turf. They may be surprised in that they didn't know you liked to ski-dive, hike a mountain, go rock climbing or anything else. But just remember they are here for a short time and they are "family" and try to love them no matter what. Then when they leave you can fumigate the house. (Just kidding!). Good luck. Be yourself because there is nothing better then being relaxed and at ease. Let them see the real you and if they don't like it that is on them.
2006-09-21 07:23:12 · answer #2 · answered by victoria b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself, if you feel uncomfortable around social gatherings one why are they going, why not tell them you will talk on the phone? second of all, get out a little bit so when your family and friends come over you can talk about things and not worry if there judging you, maybe look at seeing a doctor about getting help on you self conscous as well, if not there is books out there to help as well good luck!
2006-09-21 07:10:32 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult to feel comfortable around people even relatives when you don't see them often. But try to engage them in a physical activity like throwing a frisbee or playing catch, or if the weather is bad how about a board game or a card game? Ask them about movies they've seen maybe they like the same kind of movies you do. If they don't live too far maybe you could ask to see them more often and get to know them better. Good Luck
2006-09-21 07:14:43 · answer #4 · answered by susan b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel . I was that way too,
but just remember that they are your family,
be nice & be yourself.
Ask your parents if your relatives have anything
in common w/ your other then your family, maybe
you could start by talking about the same interests
you have. Have a good time & good luck
2006-09-21 07:10:59 · answer #5 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know many people who are like that with the family, it was all when they were a certain age.. how old are you? alot of my friends were like that when they were like 16, 17.. it had alot to do with them just not wanting to open up to their family, because at that point in your life your social life & friends matter most, so therefore your not aruond as much as you could be.. i would just suggest being yourself, your their family, they love you, regardless if you dont seem to be as close as you are, you know how happy they would be if you opened up to them, ud make their day =) give it a try, after all they are family, they are probably one of the only people who wouldnt truly judge you
2006-09-21 07:13:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's okay that you are shy, just remember if they are coming to see you they must not think you are awkward. talk with them, about weather, about your school or work. if you have a problem at school or work enough if it's small bring it up and see what their answers are. it will help you to get to know them better from their answer and make them feel better that you depend on their input. have fun and good luck
2006-09-21 07:13:11 · answer #7 · answered by Arsi B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how u must be feeling i hv been in ur place a lot of time too, what i do is talk general, keep smiling, dont talk nonsense, so talk less smile more but try to know them so tht the next time u dont face the same prob.good luck.
2006-09-21 07:12:56 · answer #8 · answered by naturelover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. don't stress over it, they are just people too. What have they ever did to make you think that you are less than them? They have no right to judge, they are family and should love you.
2006-09-21 07:09:23 · answer #9 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal.
I rarely see some of my famiy members...Just act as if you're spending time with an aquaintence.
2006-09-21 07:09:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋