a very demanding fussy son?

Question

Am i the only one who has a fussy and very demanding 7 month old son?? If you do, explain what he/ she does? my son cries even if all of his needs have been met, he is only happy for 10-15 minutes at a time. Thankfully, i get rest when he sleeps, he is defintely a great sleeper but when he is up, he is crying every 15 minutes or so for no reason. my doctor even confirmed he is just a demanding baby. my daughter is 8 and as an infant, she was excellent, never gave me a problem.

i am hoping my son will change as he gets older and more independent but i really do not see that happening

Answer 1

my grandson is the same way he is only 6 1/2 mos but he demands alot of attention. If my daughter tends to him and makes sure he is alright dry fed etc. she'll put him down boy does he pitch a fit she can pick him up and he'll quit fussing i think hes afraid she'll leave even though shes a stay at home mom I think hes a lil spoiled and a mommas boy he loves women attention more then daddys attention. good luck with your lil one.

Answer 2

Wow, your life is like a mirror to mine. My son is now 14 months old, but he's been the same way as yours since birth, only he doesn't sleep well either. And my daughter who is 3 is an angel. I don't know what to do with my son. He's very demanding, but I think a lot of it is that he goes to daycare so when I pick him up he's really clingy. Although he's fussy on the weekends too. He'll only play by himself for a few minutes and is always grunting and whining. I feel sad for him because I know he's not real happy, but I don't know what to do. My doctor also said he's just a fussy baby. That wasn't the answer I wanted to hear! At a year he got strep throat real bad and had an antibiotic. It was like a miracle drug and for about two months he's been so much better and happier (if that's what you call it, he's still no angel). The antibiotic made this weird difference that has lasted, but even now he's still fussier than I ever anticipated. It's very exhausting and I worry a lot. Our entire family (2 older boys, 3 year old and daddy) just pass him from one person to the other or just constantly try different things and I know it's exhausting and frustrating for everyone. Maybe he's spoiled in all this "trying" but I don't know what else to do. Help Help

Answer 3

My son is like that and is almost 14 months now. The two things that I've found that make life a lot easier for me are
A. Wearing him in a sling or back pack - he wants to be held all the time, and this way he's happy, we get to bond, and I still get things done. Plus, after an hour or so in the sling, he is much happier to play on his own for a little bit.
B. Elimination Communication - a whole lot of his misery was because he hated using a diaper, and I finally figured out that a lot of his fussing was because he had to pee, but didn't want to wet himself. Putting him on a potty when he gets really fussy 'for no reason' will usually end up with him peeing in it, and being in a much better mood. Of course the added bonus is that I have to deal with a whole lot less diapers. (The BabyBjorn Little Potty is just the right size for an infant that is starting to sit up on their own)
Of course some babies, mine included, just need a lot more attention and loving than others.

Answer 4

ok you need to take him to a different doctor because it sound like he's a colic baby. Its something to do with their tummys always hurt. My sisters daughter was that way. They reccomend certain medicines to give them and atleast you'll know its not your fault. There is ALOT of colic babys, your not the first, they cry cause they hurt. So just try to comfort him alot. Ask a close friend to come and stay so you can rest too. I doubt your doctor gave a accurate diagnosis, get a second opinion. My sisters daughter would sleep for 15 minutes and cry for 15 minutes, once in a while she would get a whole 45 minute nap.

If he isn't a colic baby than just give him lots of love and and as he gets older it'll probably lighten up. Not all children are alike.

Answer 5

I had two that thought they were the center of the universe. The only way you will have any peace is to break the habit of demanding. If all his needs are taken care of put him down to his play area. and go about your house cleaning or relaxing. When he starts to cry. don't go over and pick him up or try to console him.totally ignore him"just keep tabs out of the corner of your eye" When he finally stops crying and demanding, then wait a few minutes then go to him and maybe bounce a ball or wind up his favorite toy, kiss his cheek then go about what you were doing earlier. If you do this for a couple of days then he is going to realize he's not the boss you are. If you don't "nip it now" be prepared for his behavior to get even more demanding . sometimes they stop doing this around age 5 when they become more involved with other things. Sometimes they continue to demand even into adult hood!

Answer 6

You'll have to train him. Right now he's trained you to pick him up whenever he cries. The best thing to do is to leave him on the floor with some toys in reach. If all his needs have been met, let him cry. You'll want to keep an eye on him, but eventually he'll decide that crying won't work any more and he'll start reaching for his toys.

When he is throwing a fit, it's better to tell him he has to quit crying before you'll pick him up. He's using his crying to control you.

Answer 7

It sounds like all of his needs are not met, even if you do not know what's left to do. I have 2 boys 9months and 4yrs. You might try taking him to a chiropractor to see if something is hurting him. Does he stop crying when a need is met at all? Does he eat well? He might have an allergy to something that doesn't manifest outwardly. Maybe his stomach hurts. does he pull his legs up towards his stomach? Hope one of these things I mentioned are a help to you!

Answer 8

I had the same problem and I was given the suggestion to start playing soothing music when my son was awake. This worked instantly for me. I am not saying that it works in every case but it is definitely something that you could try.

Answer 9

I tried every thing ( pats on the bum or hand included) Timeouts, talking, family advice. Diff things work for diff kids, as long as you dont hurt your child an show them how to be courteous and well behaved and polite and be a succesful adult on the future.

Answer 10

My sister in law, she is a kinder garden teacher and specialist in children told me that when a child is like yours:

Check if his needs are met if his needs are met then allow him cry all what he wants until he gets tired. You gotta be patient and allow him to cry all he wants so he learns you got limits and he must respect and not be a spoiled child.