here's the thing. Recently i found the love of my life. He thinks that i'm really pretty, sexy good looking and u know the other nice things guys say to their ladies...the thing is that i'm curvy, not slim, abit i mean just ABIT over weight, and when we're together we look great... but since i'm on a diet anyway... he always asks me if i'm still on diet! it's like he's not satisfied but still he says that he loves me being curvey n he finds it sexy....i told him that i'm ready to change my body type for him, but he says no need n that he likes me this way....what do u think? i'm confused!
2006-09-21 06:49:43 · 30 answers · asked by Hendrix_lover 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If its love den the guy should not ask you to change, he will accept you the way you are......just be the way as you are.....love is not just about body attraction......yeh but for your own sake try to work out on getting slim.
2006-09-21 06:55:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He DOES love you for who you are. Perhaps he's asking you if you're still on a diet because he really feels that you don't need it. You should stop worrying so much about such superflous stuff as this and concentrate on living the moment and creating the memories that are the best thing in life. Don't worry about anything, if he says he loves you then believe him and don't worry so much about your looks but more about your heart. Enjoy each and every second you can of this relationship and cherish it forever.
2006-09-21 13:55:13 · answer #2 · answered by ChAr-LeE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just continue with your diet but make sure that you are exercising and eating healthy too. Do not be too sensitive about what he is saying to you because it sounds like the classic boyfriend/girlfriend misunderstanding of context.
"Are you still on a diet" could mean many things. I could mean:
1. (skeptically)-->you're still losing weight right? because you are overweight.
2. (optimistically)-->why are you still on a diet, you look good as you are now.
3. (just casual informal conversation)-->so are you still on a diet?
Females tend to be extremely sensitive to the context of how things are said. Guys always sound mono-tone and bored even if we are in fact joyous and excited.
Try not to be too sensitive when hearing what a man has to say because we tend to be more, for lack of a better word, insensitive about things.
As a result, you have to listen to what he says insensitively.
All in all, I think he IS happy with you no matter how you look. But my own advice to you is that you keep your body in shape so that you will look good to him or whoever you are with, 50 years from now.
My best wishes to you and remember: do not get to sensitive about what a guy tells you. Listen to him without the noise of your emotions distracting the true meaning of what he is saying to yah.
2006-09-21 13:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys don't care if you have a little extra. It you ladies that drive each other crazy. He probably likes you the way you are but guys say stupid stuff. Tell him it makes you feel bad when he asks you about your diet and either he needs to say he wants you slimmer and you'll do it or he's happy with you and not bring it up again.
2006-09-21 13:55:05 · answer #4 · answered by scotto destructo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you said guys only, but I had to respond to this............first of all you should only change if you want change, not for him. You feel me, he may just ask whether or not you are on a diet just to see, like checking in. Doesn't mean he has some issues with your weight. Just be happy being you.
2006-09-21 13:52:40 · answer #5 · answered by Monie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he found you that way, then I'm sure he does like you how you are. However, he sounds like he's supportive of you doing something that makes you happy. He sounds smart. He probably knows that if your happier with your body, the happier you will be, which is a good thing for you AND him...
2006-09-21 13:55:40 · answer #6 · answered by Tyler H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is worried that you might lose some weight. The guy fell in love with you the way you are. Why change?
2006-09-21 13:52:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be yourself. He should not care about your figure, if he loves you. There are tons of guys who love curvey women. Curvy women have more attractive figure. He has to accept you regardless of your weight.
2006-09-21 13:58:51 · answer #8 · answered by dwilson73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what makes you feel good about your self don't change 4 other people, you say that he loves you 4 who you are not how you look and that's the important thing
2006-09-21 13:57:22 · answer #9 · answered by Jorgio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he likes u the way u r now. U do not have to change for him. But if u want to change it would be 4 u.
2006-09-21 13:53:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋