How do you or would you parent different than your mom and dad?

Answer 1

Their needs come first, before mine and before my husbands. When I was a kid, me and my sister were low in the pecking order, after my parents' cars. Seriously.

Answer 2

I have 3 children ages 26, 23, 20 and am now raising my 2 Grandchildren ages 26 months and 4 months.
I have learned a lot on parenting and would like to share some of the differences on how I "parent" the younger 2.
I am MUCH more patient.
I have learned not to "sweat the small stuff".
I give quality time rather than possessions.
I absolutely will not spank the children.
I used spankings for my three and now use time outs and talking about bad behaviour.
I was 17 when I had my first child and had to "grow up with my kids". I think I used a lot of the discipline that my parents had used because that was what I knew.

Answer 3

My mom was/is a terrible perfectionist, like our rooms were never clean enough, our beds had to have hospital corners, etc. She also disciplined with physical force, mostly just because she was frustrated and took it out on us. We got beatings every Friday night because her religion said no work from Friday sundown until Saturday sundown and we never had our chores done on time, mostly just because we didn't do them good enough. So now I help my kids with their chores and show them how instead of just barking that it's not good enough, and I NEVER lay a hand on them for discipline. (I hug them a lot though) I'm probably too much the opposite on this, but the naughty chair works wonders and I have very happy, respectful, and responsible children. Meanwhile, I still get to hear my mom talk about how perfect she is, how she's experienced and an expert at absolutely everything, and how everyone else sucks. I would never do that to my kids or family.

Answer 4

My parents divorced (married because of pregnancy) when I was 3yrs. and were still young so they still wanted to party so I was raised by my grandparents. I and my husband married because we wanted to (not pregnant until 7 months later). Raise our own kids. Only go to baby sitter while at work. If we can't bring our kids where we go, we don't go. Maybe twice a month we go on a date just us, but only if it works out, if a kid is sick our plans change. They both have birthday parties every year. They are read to daily, only watch education programs and limited T.V. School will be a must as well as Pre-School. I will be involved in P.T.A. and my kids will be involved in after school activities or school activities if they wish. They will help around the house and treat us and others with respect. I was a very spoiled child with very little discipline (by my grandparents of course).

Answer 5

Well my mom and dad divorced when I was only 2. I lived with my mom till her death when I was 12. Then my dad after that. I don't or won't my son is only 2months parent like my mom because she was too laid back with us. My sister was smoking and all at 14 and she was like just don't lie to me instead of laying down the law like parents need to. My dad on the other hand was to strick. He needed to know every detail of our life. And Not much freedom to get away with anything. I won't be like him either because kids needs some trust to know how to handle themself when they do become one in the world .

Answer 6

I have raised my children and they are now in their 20s but I did follow many of my parents ways of raising my sister and I. One area that I highly praise them for was their consistent correction of wrong behavior. They raised us to care for others' property and possesions and to always behave well in public and at home as well. We were taught to not only be polite but to be very respectful.

How I differed from them is that I taught my kids to talk freely to me. It had to be done respectfully but they could tell us anything or ask anything. We showed our kids a lot more outward affection and gave them lots of praise everyday for jobs well done. We rewarded good behavior. I made lots of different and fun charts to show where they did well and if they met a certain goal by the end of the month, we went out for ice cream or another treat. It was a measured reward. We also always treated our kids like adults. We talked to them on their level but always with the idea that they could make good decisions or think things through. We did not talk down to them. Our parents were raised to not speak unless spoken to and they raised us that way. We did do things differently that way but they sure deserve credit for doing a good job and we are glad that we did not go completely the other way. They were very wise and I appreciate all that they did for us.

Answer 7

I make sure I tell my kids daily I love them. I let them get involved in the things I am doing. I have to cook dinner and do the laundry they tag along and help if they want. I take time ti play with my kids to. Kid games duck duck goose, finger paint things they like not projects i get them to do. Plus Sunday is Family day what ever we do on sunday we do together,shopping ,hiking ,biking or watching a movie is afamily activity we try not to spilt up and do different things on Sunday.

Answer 8

For the Most part my mom was a great parent.
But If I ever re-married like my mom did , i would not shove my Child's Needs to the side , to Suite my new husband. .. My Child will ALWAYS ALWAYS come First.

Answer 9

1. More patience and understanding
2. I would be more involved in my child's life
3. More attentive
4. I would critize less and love a whole lot more
5. I would yell at lot less and listen a lot more.
6. I would make sure that when I talkto them it is with the fact that they are people and not just my child or children.
7. I would participate more in there life and spend as much time with them as i could.

Answer 10

I really listen to my kids. I try not to get upset when they are telling me something I don't want to hear. I never shrug off their problems as if there are more important things to worry about. If my ten year old daughter is having a crisis trying to find something to wear for a special event, then it is a big deal and we work on the problem together.