I had a talk with my bf last night. I thought he was acting sorta strange, and I wanted to know if he was okay. He told me what was wrong, and i guess its not really a huge deal. But now, he's acting all annoyed and angry at me. Its like he's mad that I'm worried.
2006-09-21 06:33:51 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's cheating. get rid of him. jk. maybe he just needs some time alone but if he is not talking to you about how he is feeling and you don't get him then you need to have a long talk with him so you two can sort out your issues.
2006-09-21 06:35:18 · answer #1 · answered by Starlesha23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just pretend he didn't tell you anything and when he begins to act weird, just change the subject and act as if you're not all that concerned about it or even care to talk about it.
I've learned that when a person is sensitive about something, they will only talk to you about it if you do not make them feel as if you're being nosey or even care. Psychiatrists use this technique all the time. They act as if they are trying to find out what is wrong with someone and this makes the person relaxed and comfortable enough to talk about it.
Just avoid talking about whatever it is with him and try to keep him relaxed by focusing on something other than what is bothering him.
2006-09-21 13:37:23 · answer #2 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be a lot is on his mind. You should try and support him. He has told you what the matter was. He might be finding it difficult to let the thoughts off his mind. Just dont be over-protective. Be there to support him but dont make him feel you are pushing him to let you solve his problems. Its a guy's ego sometimes. Let him deal with whatever is on his mind. Make sure he can talk to you about everything and just be there to support him. It'll all be fine.
2006-09-21 13:43:42 · answer #3 · answered by noesis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big sign that he is doing something wrong. If he is defensive and getting mad at you for being concerned, then usually this is a sign of guilt. Then make you seem like the bad guy, thinking they are making themselves look like saints. But in reality it makes them look guiltier.
I would look into this and see if there is any foul play going on.
2006-09-21 13:40:29 · answer #4 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what was he mad about? You? Someone at school/work? family? Just tell him that you're there if he needs to talk. Don't push the situation. You'll only make him more mad. He'll talk when he's ready. Guys don't do the 'talking thing' like we do.
2006-09-21 13:40:00 · answer #5 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. We react differently to problems. No need to worry, let him cooling down. No need to make wild guesses. If you cannot stand the calmness, just ask him if you made him upset in any ways.
2006-09-21 13:38:15 · answer #6 · answered by shirleythe_24may1975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st u said its not a big deal of problem..2nd he sees u worried & is mad bout it..well girl stop makin assumption & get talkin...assumption make biggest screwups....it might be something in it thats hittin him hard..or just could be that he needs more pampering...as hes frustrated...its only u who can get to it..if u want..so stop worring & get talkin with him...all luck
try to analysiz the situation & talk when hes a bit cool..not when his head is fuming....& well as always some people do carry that hot head..hope u cope well
2006-09-21 13:53:57 · answer #7 · answered by chcuda9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because you thought it wasn't a huge deal doesn't mean that he doesn't. his anger will pass but you gotta take in stride. don't barrage him with questions and mention it very little. less than twice a day with no more than a few hours between. but if it has been decided that it won't bother either of you then let it go. besides just remember that it is not your fault whatever is bothering him.
2006-09-21 13:38:48 · answer #8 · answered by Valhalla * 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him his space. Its not bad that u asked him what was wrong...man need time alone. tell him to hang out with his friends. Go out and have fun ,bt overall, tell him that u trust him, and that u only ask cause u r concerned and love him.
2006-09-21 13:40:42 · answer #9 · answered by shakalitious2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's sort of embarrassed. Or maybe he thought you weren't supportive. Give him some space. He'll come out eventually
2006-09-21 13:36:11 · answer #10 · answered by smile4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋