Thanks to everyone who answered my questions. I finally got an e-mail and was told the internet had been down for about 2 wks. But then I got another one that said he didn't think things were gonna work out. He only missed me a little and he thought he would feel differently about me while he was in Iraq. Does the military really have that much power per say to destroy so many relationships? We had been together for 3 years and at points in our relstionship talked about getting married. Now all that is gone and it sucks bad!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-21 06:06:18 · 10 answers · asked by peds LPN 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
First and foremost, let me say that the military doesn't destroy relationships. Only the people involved in the relationship can do that. There never was a connection, cheating, money issues, time away and many other reasons add to the stress of a military relationship. That doesn't mean the military destroyed that relationship. We've been happily married for 18 years. We've overcome much. There has to be a commitment to the marriage or relationship to begin with. It's possible to still be in love and happy and survive a military career. Many have done it.
He's in a stressful situation. He has so many things on his mind right now. The last thing he wants to worry about is your relationship right now. If that's what he said, he didn't think it was that strong to begin with. Not many people date for 3 years without more of a commitment. You'd only discussed marriage, not taken any steps toward that direction. He might change his mind again when he gets back or he might not. He just feels this isn't something that he can focus on right now.
I'm sorry. I know you're hurt and upset. It really will pass with time. Only God knows if it was really meant to be or not. You'll just have to move on with your life and grow stronger with each day.
Good luck!!
2006-09-21 08:30:24 · answer #1 · answered by HEartstrinGs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The military definitely changes people... sometimes they have to suppress their feelings to deal with the shyt going on over there... my lil bro is in Iraq and says he doesn't email or write because it's too hard when he misses us so much. He just pushes us from his mind to get thru the day to day... maybe that's what this guy is doing, problem is, the feelings can be supressed to the point of extinction... or, that may be a good thing, considering perhaps your bond wasn't as strong as you both thought. Good Luck!!
2006-09-21 06:10:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, don't take it to heart just yet. It could be one of many things bothering him. Being deployed does change you!!!
Although most of all, what I have seen in relationships, he may just be trying to protect you and prepare you for the worst until he comes home!!
2006-09-21 07:17:48 · answer #3 · answered by priorsvcmarine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick his sorry BUTT. Good sign for a sucessful marriage, if he'll ditch you that quick. You put your life, which should be precious to him, in jeopardy, and that's the thanks you get?? Move on to true love.
But I am sorry for your situation & broken heart. Guys just tick me off sometimes. Ok, alot of the time.
2006-09-21 06:09:57 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not as much the military as the separation.
2006-09-21 17:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jeff F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not fall for it. merely imagine, no one is going to randomly decide on emails and settle on to deliver those human beings money. If it truly is not any longer some thing you entered, it truly is really a rip-off.
2016-11-23 13:12:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry to hear about what has happened. that situation is something i think about whenever i open a letter from my boyfriend. i hope for the best but i have prepared myself for the worse.
2006-09-21 06:12:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were together for 3 years and hadn't gotten engaged? it was never gonna happen anyway. be that as it may, war changes people. always has, always will
2006-09-21 06:47:34 · answer #8 · answered by DOOM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need I say anything?
2006-09-21 07:41:16 · answer #9 · answered by BITE ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wtf are you talking about
2006-09-21 06:08:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋