I just put up a question about a young female who thinks she knows everything and I didn’t get many responses. I would really like a few more opinions on this. This child seems to be a little immature for having a baby at her age, and does not seem fit. Why would someone want to have child when they are just a child themselves? What are your feelings about what this girl (defiantly not women) is doing? I fear that she is putting it into other little girls’ heads that it is okay to have children at a young age. I wouldn’t want my child around such a ignorant child who thinks it’s “okay” to have a child. Don’t you think any children born to parents 18 or younger should be taken away from the parents and put into a better home?
Here is the question I’m talking about:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AgHXkErwAsdE3SJ8yxdUEIrsy6IX?qid=20060917074035AA10d9x
Here is her profile:
http://answers.yahoo.com/my/profile;_ylt=AlQCqOKYxF.sBBv0ZjLae6kjzKIX?show=4ae3caeeb07dac41fd30b07000a4c7b3aa
2006-09-21 05:58:53 · 20 answers · asked by Maggie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I think that people make mistakes and nobody should judge them. I was a teenage parent and I had alot of support from my parents. I don't think that any child should be taken away form there mother unless the mother is unfit meaning she abuses the child, uses drugs etc. Not because of her age. I think that alot of people judge young mothers and shouldn't.I was 17 when I had my daughter. She is now 8 she is very smart and a wonderful child. She is in the gifted program at school.I would I have done OK for my child and myself. So, don't judge someone by there age, doesn't mean that they should have there child taken away from them.
2006-09-21 06:06:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think that she is more talking about the fact that most people today assumes when a young girl gets pregnant she will automatically mooch off her parents for help and expect them to raise the baby or go to goverment assistence before getting a job. I know that there are many young mothers that get a job, take responsible and have to grow up. But I also know that there are the ones that don't care.
Someone close to me has recently done this. She decided that she didn't like the baby anymore and gave custody to her mom. She is 18, she has never had responsibility and because of this she quit when it got tough. Sadly this hurts me as a mother, because I know that the best place for a child is with its parents, but when your parent is not responsible and doesn't care then away from them is the best.
Also if you read her entire question, she is married and has a son, she took responsibility. She is out of high school, has a career. She is not an ignorant child she is a married woman and mother, she is doing her job. Just because you don't hold respect for teen mothers, does not means that you know that everyone of them is a bad mother.
I do not think that EVERY child that is born to an 18 or younger mother should be taken away, the children I think should be taken away are the ones born into homes where there is abuse, drugs and alcohol problems, and where the child is not wanted, regardless of the age of the parent. I do believe that women should wait till they are married to have children, but if it comes before as long as it has a good home then that baby is fine where it is at.
2006-09-21 06:08:25 · answer #2 · answered by The Invisible Woman 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your creating a judgment by posting that girls info
I think age has nothing to do with a person being a good parent. If the person after having the baby, because of mind frame or some other aspect can not put food in her child's mouth or cloths on her child back then there are different choices that have to be made but to take a child a way from someone just because you feel they are too young is selfish on your part to think you have the right to judge. I do not encourage a young person to have a child before there body is done growing it is dangerous but if it happen I think that it is up to the law to decide it the person can not handle being a good parent. Take a child from its mother can destroy both there lives if not done for the right reasons
2006-09-21 06:16:36 · answer #3 · answered by shannon m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with this other users question. I think you are being very close minded on this topic! Here is my story:
Got pregnant at age 16. Parents told me to get an abortion or get out of their house. Left there house to live with boyfriends family. Finished high school early. Had baby. Went to college for a few months. Wasnt my thing. Got a great career going and now make $35K at age 19. Not that much but good for my age. Been living on my own for a couple years now. I didnt end up staying with the father and am a single mother but I proved my parents wrong that there are SUCESSFUL young mothers out there. My parents and I get along good now and I forgave them for everything. I put them through hell too so I understand why they felt the way they did.
I'm not saying it's OK for young girls to have kids but it isnt the end of the world. Life goes on and you can live a normal life. I really wish people could see things from different points of view.
And no those babies shouldnt be taken away from them and put in a "better" home. That statement makes me want to retch that you are so CLOSED minded.
2006-09-21 06:14:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First you have to stop and see that it isn't only teenage parents that aren't responsible enough to care for a rat much less a child. I know plenty of parents that had their kids in their 20's and the kids are rude, wild out of control brats and the parents are more worried about their social status than the child they brought into the world. I know teenagers that are parents and are finishing school, hold part-time jobs and show more love and affection for their child than a lot of adults do. The only problem I see with teens and pregnancy is one in a lot of the cases the government is supporting them or two their parents who have almost got their kids grown and off on their own are having to step in but in no way does this say that the girl is ignorant and it is so unfair to judge. I don't know how old you are but look back to when you were in school weren't most of your friends and possibly even you having sex while in high school...........this could have just as easily been you or them as even birth control taken correctly is not 100% effective. I have a teenage daughter and step-daughhter and they know I wouldn't like for them to get pregnant I want them to live their lives first and experience being a kid but I am not going to judge them or any other kid that finds themselves that way. My 14 year old is more responsible and would make a better parent at 14 than her 24 year old step sister that has two and doesn't even know who the fathers are (kids are 2&4). Don't judge anyone we all have our own opinions and the right to them.
2006-09-21 06:27:30 · answer #5 · answered by Martha S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have to say No because there are many young girls who get pregnant young and turn out to be fine mothers. Now having said that I think that these girls need a good suppot system to be able to accomplish that, so really it's not totally them raising the baby. I do believe that there should be some kind of home evaluations or checks done on a regular basis for these young girls and babies to make sure they both are okay. Many girls want the baby so they will have somebody to love and they don't understand the responsiblity. We should not give a generalization to girls under 18 having babies remember they didn't get pregnany alone, Boys are involved here to but they don't have to deal with it like the girls. Education is our best tool. I hop eyou understand my piont of view and I don't ruffle your feathers the wrong way.
2006-09-21 06:08:32 · answer #6 · answered by Ann D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that this young mother assumes that she knows everything. IF she did why would she choose to further her education and knowledge? She is not a child, she is a young woman.
I feel its is your own feelings and your own prejudices that cause you to think she is unfit. It seems as though you would go on her age alone and if it were left up to you you would place the child she has had in foster care, wouldnt you?
You can tell alot about a person based on what they write, their grammer, puncutation and so on. I have had the pleasure in concersing with this young woman and I must say that it is from her own experience that she speaks.
Why does this bother you so much?
No I dont think that babies born to young mothers, teen mother or mothers age 18 and younger should have their children ripped from them merely for the fact that they are young.
How would you feel if the line of thought changed and people began to think that people ages 35 years and older who chose to have children were unfit because of the complications that women of older ages in pregnancy presented. Children born to ollder mothers often have birth defects, some are born with half a brain, mentally retarded and so on.
Do you think that women who chose to have a child late in life should have their children taken from them because they are obviously too old to have more children or a child???
2006-09-21 06:14:39 · answer #7 · answered by Shalamar Rue 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the user you are referring to sounds like she really has things together. Not sure why you have an issue with her.
As far as your feelings about parents under the age of 18, I don't agree at all that babies born to parents 18 or younger should be taken away. You can't lump all young parents in one category and say they are unfit because they are under 18 - I know plenty of parents that are 30+ that are immature and ignorant when it comes to child rearing.
2006-09-21 08:58:43 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does it make you feel better to talk **** about other people? Who are you to judge? What she is doing is perfectly normal and right... just at a different age. Who are you to say when people are ready for marriage and kids? Grow the **** up!
You cant TAKE someone's kid away because of age. AGE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH BEING READY TO RAISE A CHILD. Their are some adults and druggies that should get their kids taken away... Peopl like you piss me off!
It's OKAY to have children when you are ready for them. When you can afford them. When you and your partner agree it's time!!!!
I don't understand why some people say such hurtful things to teens having kids. Yes i understand we are young, but that doesn't mean we are stupid! I am 17 years old (i'll be 18 when my daughter is born) and I'm 28weeks pregnant! I am married to the love of my life and i couldn't be happier. I finished school last year with honors and im going to college for Criminal Justice. So other than my age... how am i any different then any other mother?
2006-09-21 06:14:57 · answer #9 · answered by NaVy WiFeY 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you are wrong. You shouldnt have singled her out like and especially shouldnt have put a link to her profile up there. I dont think any children should be having children but when she is 17 and married to a husband in the AIR FORCE and they have a home and arent living with parents or mooching off the government and actually working for a living for OUR COUNTRY that is perfectly ok with me. It doesnt matter the age of the person that has the kid, its how well they raise that kid and can provide for them. I think you need to mind your own business when it comes to her life and her kids. I think she is doing a good job by being a stay at home mom!!
2006-09-21 07:57:14 · answer #10 · answered by Brianna'sMomma 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋