I got married 3.5 yrs. before, I found my wife very hyper & hash to everyone
In my family. So many times I tried to make her understand but she refuses to listen to me
As her stubborn nature. I’m a social businessman but she never understands my problems
& difficulties.Becase of her this aggressiveness I lost my newly born baby.
Now she blames on me for this accident every time. After this I underwent to depression.
But still her behavior is same. (After 2 months of my marriage we found she is suffering from psoriasis so I took her to Doc.he told us the treatment will start after pregnancy
Then after all these I took her to Doctor He said while the course of medi. We should not try for baby, but even she does not take the medicines)
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Once I tried to tell my in-laws about my problem but they
Again blamed me for these all.
These all happened 2 yrs. back, after these all her mother got sick seriously (she loves her widow mother lie anything)
She stayed couple of months with her. When she came back again she is behaving same.
Kindly help me How to solve this problem as I can't discuss this with my mother-in-law & other relations.
2006-09-21 05:43:42 · 12 answers · asked by sandeep k 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Unfortunately, it's hard to change a person's traits espescially when they've been like that for years. Maybe you could try seeking the help of a therapist or psychiatrist--she might need some medications to help her with her mood changes. Maybe she's bipolar? That's something you may need to check with. Also, she seems to carry anger all the time, which isn't healthy for her or for you. I advise you guys to have a heart to heart talk and for you to be honest about how you feel. Communication is the key to every relationship. There might be underlying issues that you don't know about that makes her act this way.
Good luck.
2006-09-21 06:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh honey, this guy has really gotten into your soul hasn't he? I are aware of it's now not what you want to listen to, however you must to find any one higher for your self. He's admitted himself he wants to use you for lust. He is making use of you. Do not let him do it. He could such as you, he absolutely finds you attractive, however he doesn't admire you. When you meet up and get again collectively, you'll consistently suppose on this conflict. He'll mess you about and you can under no circumstances have a long term committed future with him. He's undoubtedly now not going via the turmoil you're going through. You have to move on. It's going to harm like hell for a while but you will recover from him, and in future years you'll see it was for the satisfactory. Find your self any one who is loyal and will deal with you with admire. You deserve a right man. Hope it really works out for you.Xx
2016-08-09 14:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by calvani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hai friend am younger than u but still i think i can help u.
ur wife is very lucky to have an husband like u who cares about her somuch.
when u come from office or some where u dont tell her ur problems nor argu with her. first be friendly with her. u forget that ur her husband be a friend then u can know what is going on in her mind. u can easily understand her. take her to some new place. she should feel like her new life has started.
2006-09-21 05:56:38 · answer #3 · answered by mani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!!!!! You've got me scratching my head on this one. Would your wife go with you to a marriage counselor? If so, get to one ASAP. There are some serious issues that need to be brought into the open. Sounds like your wife is a lot like her mother. Have you tried talking to her father? Wonder if he's dealing with the same problem you are (with his wife)? I really think a counselor is your only hope.
Good Luck and God Bless.
2006-09-21 05:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by DragonL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your wife live in India but are asking us Westerners to answer questions about your marriage. Many of us have very different views of marriage and different priorities as you can read. Some do not feel commitment to family like you do and say just leave and make yourself happy. You have a very strong sense of family and honor. You are doing the right thing trying to make it work.
Please know that you cannot make her happy if she does not want to be happy but wants to find criticism in everything. You and your wife may have to rethink how you want your marriage to be. Maybe it cannot be the way you want it to be right now. Maybe you have to find ways of letting her be alone while you learn to not let her anger and accusations affect you. You will find what works for you. Please find someone near you to talk with about this....just to let it out....friend, family, prayer, counselor. Good luck....
2006-09-21 06:14:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a very difficult situation to be in! Hats off to you for such courage!
I can only pray for you. Cant really guide you.
If you really love her, Ignore everything. But if you don't , set her free.
Also, changing your attitude towards her will help you. Situation may not change but you will have your peace of mind.
2006-09-21 20:30:15 · answer #6 · answered by Vibs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 05:23:50 · answer #7 · answered by riesgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try discussing it with your wife? And what on earth is a social business man, sounds like a pimp to me? Your poor wife, why is she aggressive? Probably a very unhappy woman.
2006-09-21 05:49:35 · answer #8 · answered by sarkyastic31 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you talk to her one on one and tell her what's on your heart and mind. Give yourself time after that and if there are no changes, then you will have to accept her as she is. Besides, you married her so you have to really accept her and love her no matter what......
2006-09-21 05:52:36 · answer #9 · answered by wildflower 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try going to some kind of counseling, it that doesn't work, then just leave her and find someone who will make you happy. she shouldn't blame you for her problems.
2006-09-21 05:57:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋