okie so, ive been best friends with this guy for a while now, and ive liked him since i was 12 and he was 14... we've talked about dating, but things never happened. he did ask me out around christmas last year... but i said no. i thought he was messin with my head bc he had been doin that a lot at the time. well... a little before christmas last year, we started gettin "involved" with eachother A LOT. hes cheated on 8 girls (that i noe) of with me. it bothers me that we can have such a long sexual life, and no serious relationship... he says he cant be serious, bc he always ends up cheating, usually... with me. now this year... we still do stuff. but a lotta times @ school or church he dont really act like much of my "best friend" anymore... theres times where i feel like hes aggravated at me... i wanna just ... get over him... completely... but its REALLY HARD. and i feel SO pathetic that its been like 4 years and i CANT get over him!!! i noe im better than this! what should i do???
2006-09-21 05:14:53 · 11 answers · asked by demoniclilangel_666 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news young lady, but HE'S USING YOU. He keeps coming back to you because he knows he can get what he wants from you (namely what's between your legs) whenever he wants. He's your basic broke-d!ck-dog who has zero respect for you, so your chances of ever having a serious relationship with him are slim to none. Please get this message loud and clear: He doesn't really like you for you. He hangs around with you because you put out for him. As far as he's concerned you're a piece of meat. You deserve better than that. Kick his sorry @$$ to the curb and find a guy that'll treat you right.
2006-09-21 05:20:56 · answer #1 · answered by sarge927 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, this is a tough situation. I was with a toxic guy for about six years, and I couldn't ever get over him. He cheated on me, and I'd take him back. We'd break up and he'd go out and date other people, and I'd be at home crying waiting for him to come back. It took a long time of hanging out with friends, and meeting and getting to know new people before I finally figured out that I deserve better than that jerk. Once I figured that out I was able to completely cut the guy outta my life. Now that he's gone, I'm happier than I think I've ever been. Like I said, he was toxic and I was self destructive. Way bad combo. My only suggestion is find away to know that u deserve better. There are better guys out there that don't cheat, and that won't hurt you. Sometimes u just gotta go thru the crappy ones so that u appreciate the amazing ones. U will get thru this!!!!
2006-09-21 05:25:50 · answer #2 · answered by Krissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just USING you girlfriend. Maybe if you thought about him in those terms it would be easier. Why should he invest emotionally in you when he has it just the way he wants with all the benefits. Guys that age know nothing about girls anyway. He's only interested in his twinkie. Harsh but true. Move on and start having some fun. Do things your way. Make yourself happy and stop mopping around over this self involved loser. It's a great big world out there with lots and lots of guys and experiences yet to come. He's a waste of space in your head. Move up, you deserve sooooo much better.
2006-09-21 05:32:51 · answer #3 · answered by anon_y_muse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to realize that if he is cheating on his girlfriends that if you ever got into a relationship with him he will cheat on you.
It is not a good idea to have a friends with "benefits" relationship, because somebody always feels stronger about the other person and one gets hurt, usually.
What you need to do is to go out and meet new people, you dont have to date if your not ready, just meet new people. You might find somebody that catches your eye without even trying.
Its hard to give up on something you are so use to. But if you open up your mind a little, you might learn new things out about yourself that you did not know before.
2006-09-21 05:21:29 · answer #4 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't expect to forget some one you have feelings for and have shared so much with. But you have to let him go. A friend, especially if you consider them your "best friend", will not take you for granted like he is doing to you. NO MATTER WHAT THE SITUATION. As much as it might hurt, you have to distance your self completely, because even if you continue to see him on rare occasions the pain will always be there. He is going to realize(hopefully) that he can no longer take you for granted. Because that is exactly what he is doing. He knows you will always be there, even when he has a girlfriend. Respect yourself and say goodbye to a part of your life that can only continue to hurt you, but always hold on to the good memories. I have been in your shoes and believe me, taking this step makes all of the difference.
2006-09-21 05:46:53 · answer #5 · answered by LaWicked1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, no longer quite a love or hatred for it merely too lazy to %. up a e book haha yet I did income from the Vampire Diaries through L J Smith - i had to be a vampire SO undesirable after that haha :P no longer unusual - I merely theory it will be so strong to chomp down on human beings i did not like :P
2016-10-16 01:38:34 · answer #6 · answered by sovak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
sounds like a really tough situation. It sounds like your kind of "addicted" to him. Quitting cold turkey is the best bet. If you see him in school or church and you feel like you can't ignore him because it would be rude or something, just treat him like you would any acquaintance-just be polite and that's it. You are not treating yourself very well. Be your own best friend first! Care what you think not what he thinks, I mean think about it do you really respect his opinion anyway? Good luck, hon.
2006-09-21 05:23:36 · answer #7 · answered by bandaid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't have allowed yourself toget involved with someone like that but you need to let him go now and don't think twice as far as the sex thing goes I'de be getting myself checked
2006-09-21 05:20:27 · answer #8 · answered by ///\oo/\\\ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is terrible.. u need to open yr eyes and see whether there any friend or good guy can save u...he is a bad egg.. leave him... wtf he cheated yr friend and u still willing to be with him? im very mad about this kind of idiotic guy that making use of women anyhow they want!!! stop contacting him... u can do it!!! what for being so pathetic?? he dun worth it!! he is jus... JERK!!!
2006-09-21 05:20:57 · answer #9 · answered by wination 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop having sex with him casually and making yourself available for his bootie calls.
2006-09-21 05:18:24 · answer #10 · answered by cutiepie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋