My best friend is getting marrid and she wants me to plane everything.all she told me is that she wants it to be in the mid july 2007 and she's going for the color purple and she wasn't me to find another color that can go with the color purple.I don't know nothing about this kind of things.I need help and it's to much money for a wedding planer and because she told me to plane it please help.
2006-09-21 04:57:39 · 19 answers · asked by keyke 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Talk to her. Let her know you are not comfortable planning her wedding, but would love to give SOME input if she asks for it. It really is her responsibility so don't feel bad.
2006-09-21 05:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is there any reason why her mother or other family members can't help? She's unwilling to pay a wedding planner for these services, and it's not fair of her to ask you to carry this burden. It sounds like she wants a bigger / nicer wedding than what she can afford. If something goes wrong, guess who's going to get the blame. If you're working, in school or have a family, it's unreasonable for her to expect you to take this on. She hasn't even set a date for the wedding or thought about a budget. I'd tell her, "I'm flattered that you want me to plan your wedding, but this is a huge responsibilty. I've never done anything like this before and I have too many obligations. It would be better for you to have someone else help you." Offer to throw her a bridal shower, and get her friends and family involved. This is too much for you, and you should let her know NOW. If she goes Bridezilla on you, stay gracious but hold your ground.
2006-09-21 05:22:47 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just got married in June of this year. The best thing I think you could do is get a wedding planning book. This is what I did in place of a planner. It really helped me to get everything sorted out. The best book that I have found is...
"Planning a Wedding to Remeber" by Beverly Clark (you can get it online at Amazon.com)
It had more information than any other book that I tried (and believe me there were a lot of them). I would suggest getting this book and then sitting down with your friend and go over the options.
Hope this helps! Good Luck!
2006-09-21 05:09:59 · answer #3 · answered by emmer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a favor and be honest with your friend. Tell her you are feeling uneasy about planning her wedding when it is such a personal experience. Suggest that the bridal party as a whole help out and give suggestions. You could plan it like a business meeting.
I helped my sister plan her wedding completely, scheduled all her appointments with the florist, bakery, fittings, etc. all while planning my own wedding for 4 months later. They both worked out wonderfully, however, I did it for her because she was working 3 hours away in a different state and could only come home every couple weekends - (before cell phones) and it was all long distance fo rher to do. We have very similar taste - but I left all the decisions to her - only giving her my advice.
2006-09-21 05:09:09 · answer #4 · answered by Been there 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I wouldn't plan someone else's wedding I knew.
You might be asking for trouble.
If she had a formal wedding planner she hired and didn't like things then she could fire that person.... but what if she doesn't like what you do? That could definately cause a rift in the friendship that could be irrepable.
Now I realize that wedding planners can be costly, but I don't understand why she wouldn't want to take part in the planning of HER OWN wedding. Something seems weird there.
Let her down gently and explain that you don't want to make a bad decision and then her be upset and it cause a bad fight. Tell her she needs to plan this herself, but that you are more than willing to help her along the way (with suggestions, ideas, labor, etc).
2006-09-21 05:05:27 · answer #5 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay...I'm going to give you a step by step to planning a very basic wedding. For more research go to http://www.theknot.com or http://www.weddingchannel.com (there is a great wedding planner check list on theknot).
1) Decide on a time of year, budget, and wedding syle
2) Make a rough guest list (you need to know appox how many people are coming)
3) Decide ceremony type (church, jp, etc)
4) Research and pick ceremony location
5) Decide reception type (buffett, sit down dinner, cocktail party)
6) Research and pick reception site, book ASAP
7) Pick out dress
8) Pick out flowers
9) Pick out rings
10) Invite guests
11) Decide on music
12) Make a time line for the day
13) Arrange photography
14) Pick attendants and decide on their outfits
Weddings are not difficult to plan if you break them down in to small steps. Have fun with planning! It's awesome that your friend is trusting you enough to do this.
Possible colors to go with purple:
Winter: deep purple with forest green
Summer: soft lillac purple with pearly white or mint green
Fall: Maroon with gold
Spring: Any soft shade of purple or lillac with silver
Remember, as long as the two of them are married at the end of the day, then everything was perfect. Good luck!!!!!
2006-09-21 05:08:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yellow looks nice with purple but I would really suggest talking with your friend and planning it together as it is her day and she should be helping you rather than dumping all the stress on you. Get some coloured pens and colour some squares of paper in various colours then hold them against each other. You could also try using the strips with paint colour samples on the that you get in DIY stores, that way you can hold colours next to each other and find ones that go well.
2006-09-21 05:03:15 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the color purple. Is it dark, lavender, what? If it is a dark purple I say go with a rose/peach color, that would offset the purple nicely and be really beautiful. If it is a lavender purple, then I would go with a soft mint green. That too would be extreemly pretty. Good luck to you. Blessed be
2006-09-21 05:02:10 · answer #8 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WTF? Why in gods name is she throwing this on your shoulders? If you are the maid of honor it is your responsibility to help but to do the enitre thing is not just BS, but completely unfair as she will not be happy with all of your choices (as it is HER wedding and HER day, not yours).
Here are, traditionally, your responsibilities:
Bachelorette party
Making sure the bride's maids have dresses, etc
Speaches at the rehersal dinner and reception
Helping mail invitations
Planning a wedding is extremely time consuming and stressful. There is no way I would pin it on a friend.
/endrant
To answer your question, check out this site:
http://wellstyled.com/tools/colorscheme2/index-en.html
It should help you with some ideas
2006-09-21 05:10:04 · answer #9 · answered by Kikka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy some magazines, come up with some ideas from them and keep talking to her..its not that hard, I organised my wedding while working full time, moving house and all in 9 weeks...you have 9 months.
Venue
Time
Guests
Dress & Bridesmaids
Groom & Ushers suits
Food & Caterer
Flowers
Tables & seating plan
Easy peasy!
2006-09-21 05:02:11 · answer #10 · answered by stepfordswiss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not accept this responsibility. The Bride & Groom and parents should be planning this weddinbg. This is not your responsibility, nor is it wise to accept this job. Tell her kindly and politely that you do not feel comfortable accepting this duty. If she is not that interested in a wedding maybe she should consdier just taking the vows in a small chappel or JP office.
2006-09-21 05:01:06 · answer #11 · answered by Shayna 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋