24 years old. That to me was already a considerable age difference. Anyway, after a few months of dating we went to this club here in NY and she couldn't get in because she had a fake ID. Turns out she's really 20. I couldn't tell, she acted mature and with girls it's hard to tell how old they are. Now I feel real dumb not only cause she lied to me, but because I think I'm a cradle robber. This happened last weekend and I'm really considering breaking up with her. What's your opinion?
2006-09-21 04:52:54 · 49 answers · asked by David F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she is lying about that then what else is she lying about. Let her go and find someone that can at least be honest about their age
2006-09-21 04:55:30 · answer #1 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For what reason would u break up wit her she 20 not 17 or 16 leagal of age is 18 she obviously lie for a reason TO GET WIT U!if u like this girl leave it alone and go on with ur life love comes in all ages, size and shape so do u, enjoy this girl and your life. u said she mature good for you be happy and stop feeling dumb, don't break off something good cuz of her age if the realitionships isn't working then use that as a good excuse, but if it is good frig it and go about ur business OK! good luck
2006-09-21 05:09:11 · answer #2 · answered by EiaMaria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you just "think" that she was 24 or did she tell you that she was 24?
If she didn't tell you this, and it was your own thoughts that she was 24, she didn't deceive you. If she said that she was 24, then she did.
If she deceived you, drop her, but if you just thought that she was 24, then no one lied.
If she's 20 and you're 33, no big thing. I am 13 years older than my wife and we are fine with it. As a matter of fact, she is my intellectual equal which accounts for a lot of things. Stimulating conversation, never bored, etc. Take this into consideration when thinking about it. It makes for a longer lasting relationship if you can "talk".
2006-09-21 05:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The awful truth is that women are more mature than their male counterparts. 13 years is about the typical mental age difference. This is why she prefers you as being more on her mental level; plus you are no longer young and dumb in her estimation. Ten to fifteen years older in the male/female ratio is about normal. She sounds like an intelligent person and worthwhile for you. Don't sell her short. She probably threw out the 24 because she knows how skittish men are; and that men have trouble thinking outside the envelope. My best to you.
2006-09-21 05:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well nowadays, there's not that much of a difference between a 20 year old woman and a 24 year old woman. My bf told me he was a different age at first, then after a while confessed that he is actually a year younger than what he said he was, but I didn't break up with him because of that.
2006-09-21 04:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by angel_girl2248 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Break up with her. If she wasn't honest with you about a simple thing as her age, then there may be other things she has been lying about. You said she acts mature, but this a childish thing to do. Yes 13 years is a big age difference, but think about how much better the relationship could have been if she was up front with you.
2006-09-21 04:56:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first issue is that she lied. Can you trust her? Secondly, you're 33 and she's 24: you're not robbing the cradle, but you may be a grown man going to the prom. I'd cut her loose and find an honest woman closer to your own age.
2006-09-21 04:59:22 · answer #7 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a cradle robber...you were conned! I would explain to her that you're hurt she lied to you and are not comfortable with the relationship continuing. She may get upset (and maybe you too!) but it's for the best. If she lied about that, what else will she lie to you about? Best of luck!
2006-09-21 04:58:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should break up for several reasons. First thing she lies and thats good enough. Too much of an age gap mostly creates in an unhealthy relationship. She needs to grow up and then really know what she wants in life.
2006-09-21 04:56:39 · answer #9 · answered by ME_FROM_ATL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is still of legal age, thank goodness, you won't get into any trouble. However, 13 yrs is quite a stretch from eachother, and I guess it would depend on how you feel about her, how much you have in common and how you make eachother feel. Lieing in the begining of a relationship is not a good sign. I don't know that you could ever trust her. Blessed be..........
2006-09-21 04:57:53 · answer #10 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up with her is the best solution, because she lied. If she lied about something like her age, then there are other things she will lie about to get you to be with her, and that is not fair. You have a right to know who a woman i and isn't before you decide to be with her. Bottomline.
2006-09-21 04:56:49 · answer #11 · answered by marquella_la_nice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋