She says she was getting picked on in school she is very beatiful so i dont know why,but she has low motivation, she does not have a interest in learning she only wants to do art? what should I do I have no clue its so hard for her to wake up in the morinings and she just mopes around.
2006-09-21 04:45:28 · 9 answers · asked by sam a 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she is eight she will be 9 ,she has a math iq of a kindergartner(she tested k level for math) she seems not to get it buit she is smart in all other subjects this is the first year homeschooling, she was a social outcast at school, where the kids are much faster here in the philadelphia area.)
2006-09-21 04:52:32 · update #1
School Bullying can cause PTSD (post-traumatic-stress-disorder). An experienced child psychologist will be able to determine if she is depressed or suffers from PTSD. I'm sorry the two of you have to go through this...it's difficult.
2006-09-21 04:50:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through something similar with my youngest daughter. She cried everyday when she got on the bus...and/or when she got to school. Part of the problem was that her bus driver and the teacher at school that met the bus were both very nice people who "felt sorry" for her. When she got a new bus driver that was nice but very matter-of-fact with her the crying stopped on the bus. I talked to the teacher and told her that I didn't baby my daughter and it would really help if she wouldn't. Then I took her and got her eye's (glasses for reading) and ears checked (no problems there) and her teacher at school had her speech tested (no problem) and the next year we did some other testing...(my daughter doesn't have math problems, she had reading problems)....We hung in there with homework, tutoring, and special reading classes and she is now in 4th grade and tested "advanced" in the PSSA's for both math and reading. It has been a long hard road...and I think I cried almost as much as my daughter did at different points in time.
All I can suggest is: Get her back in school. Talk to your doctor and get her eyes and ears checked. Talk to the principal, teasing and bulling isn't tolerated in school's anymore. If there is a problem they will handle it if you communicate with them. Set an eariler bedtime and stick to it no matter what. Be loving but firm...don't baby her! You arn't doing yourself or her any favors.
If you don't get a handle on things now you will be asking for problems in the long run....she has to be out there with kids her own age....she'll find friends and her place in the world if you let her. It'll be hard at first, but you'll both be okay! Good luck.
2006-09-21 12:58:22 · answer #2 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would find out why she was being picked on.
But I can tell you this. When I was in first grade I cried everyday not wanting to go to school, because the little boy who sat behind me would pull my pigtails and write me love notes and I could not stand him. He would harrass me and the teacher did nothing.
My mom continued to force me to go to school. She asked me every day why I did not want to go. I finally told her why. She went to the teacher and told her she'd like the seating rearranged so that I didn't have to sit by that little boy. And it worked!
I was very shy and quiet at that age. But because my mom continued to encourage me, and ask me about things, I ended up being very popular as I got older, having good self esteem, being nominated for class favorite, being a cheerleader, etc.
So please put your child back in school with other children!
And find out what the problem is so that it can be addressed. Also it does sound like your daughter is depressed. She may need to talk to a counselor if it doesn't improve. Good luck!
2006-09-21 14:07:26 · answer #3 · answered by longhorn fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Homeschooling is not always the best answer, as it increases social isolation.
When my daughter was seven, she was miserable in school and refused to get up in the morning. She had taken second-grade math and reading in first grade, so they decided to have her skip second grade, but the idiots put her in a third-and-fourth grade class where most of the third-grade kids were repeaters, so most of the class was two years older than she was. The other kids picked on her, and she was utterly miserable. Finally I went in to talk to one of the vice principals, and he said he'd get her changed to a different class. I did not know it, but the other vice principal had already started working on it at the request of the school nurse, as my daughter was coming in every day with stress-related stomach aches and headaches.
I took her out of school for a week to visit her grandmother so as to make a fresh start when she got back. A week after she started in the new class I went to wake her up one morning and she was already dressed! She asked, "Is it time to go to school yet?"
I agree with the answerer who suggested a psychological evaluation for your daughter - that was what we had planned to do next if the change in classrooms had not had such a dramatic effect.
I don't want to be mean, but if you ARE going to teach your child at home, you need to get in the habit of ALWAYS using correct sentence structure, spelling, punctuation, and capitalization, or you will confuse her. "Do what I say, not what I do" is not a good teaching method.
2006-09-21 12:43:58 · answer #4 · answered by Maple 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you've fed into her "fear" of going to regular school. I'd be looking into WHY she was being picked on. You aren't going to help her succeed unless you get to the bottom of the problem and solve it. Your daughter needs to get out with her peers. Many schools have peer learning programs where children that are succeeding in certain subjects work with students that are having trouble.
If you don't do something NOW, your daughter will be scarred for life and never feel that she's a success (even in art, which is what she seems to be interested in).
Good Luck.
2006-09-21 12:43:14 · answer #5 · answered by DragonL 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you done testing to see if she has a learning disorder (i.e. dyslexia or any one of a number of learning disorders) ? She may be depressed because she can not keep up with her peers.
Maybe something traumatic has happened at school that she doesn't know how to express to anyone. Keep searching and pray that God will lead you to clear answers to get your daughter the help she needs.
2006-09-21 12:06:52 · answer #6 · answered by Buff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter,8, got bullied in school and we finally took her out and put her in a new one. she went from being an extremely enthusiastic child with loads of confidence, to a mouse who didn't want anything to do with anyone. her schooling went down hill so quickly. she is now back to her best, and loving her new school friends. i think that you need to be persistant with her. she needs friends. she needs to have an outlet where she can just be silly and do silly girly thing with her friends. that's what will educate her in life, not only books. if i were you i'd try again, and be possitive. i know its hard, i really do but it'll pay off in the long run. best of luck to both of you. xxx
2006-09-21 11:59:47 · answer #7 · answered by mum of 2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about the situation.. you didnt say how old she is, or how long you have been homeschooling... If talking to you doesnt work
take her to a counselor.... Maybe there is more to it than what she has told you..
2006-09-21 11:49:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to do things with kids her own age. To me, it sounds like she's depressed. Talk to your doctor.
2006-09-21 11:49:23 · answer #9 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋