All the guys i attract are possesive and controling like my ex. bf. I am nice , shy and quiet and have only had one real bf so whats the problem? My friends tell me i am not ugly or fat i weigh 107 pounds and 5ft6 is not that short and my face is clear and well dressed.
2006-09-21 04:41:22 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My parents are very controling to point i feel sumothered they dont let me do anything and i hate attracting people like this!But these are the guys that ask me out a lot off them also are italian or spanish. I am spanish but what gives?
2006-09-21 04:43:10 · update #1
I try and be nice too everyone
2006-09-21 04:44:50 · update #2
I get asked out on dates nothing serious but these are the types of guys that ask me out?
2006-09-21 04:47:14 · update #3
sorry dont speak spanish and i dont think i am ugly
2006-09-21 05:01:33 · update #4
Because that is what you want for whatever reason. Maybe low self esteeem?
2006-09-21 04:43:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that possessive and controlling guys see you as an easy target because you are quiet and shy and feel you are less likely to resist their awful ways. There are plenty of guys out there who are not like this but are quiet and reserved just like yourself.Unfortunately, because they are shy, they may not reveal their true feelings toward you or feel as confident to strike up a conversation. You should try to let go of your inhibitions a little bit and strike up a conversation with someone who you might not otherwise talk to.Be assertive and show that you will not tolerate this kind of possessive behaviour. Also, don't feel you have to stay in a relationship just for the companship. Be independant and let them see that you can survive without them. Don't let any man control your life!! There are too many fish in the sea to let that happen. Good luck!!
2006-09-21 11:54:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, you are the classic case of letting people press you into things you don't want to do. You seem to be a follower and have not outlined a goal for yourself in your life. This not bad except that you do attract these type of men.
If you want to change the type of men you go out with, then you have to have more confidence in your life. You didn't mention your age. If you are old enough to live on your own, then you should do just that. Maybe this would be the first step in gaining confidences about your life and your surroundings. AS you are the only one that really cares for you. You need to be more assertive, set a goal, write it down, look for the type of guy you want, by writing it down, plan your life, and then set your goals and go for it.
It will take sometime but you need to understand how to say no. It is ok to say no. It is ok for you... You are the best one to do that. Good Luck
2006-09-21 12:00:11 · answer #3 · answered by NIck N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your outer appearance that is attracting abusive men. There is something in the way you relate to others that says, "I don't like myself, maybe you shouldn't either" . It may be sub-conscious, but you are sending a message that it's OK to treat you like crap. Before you get involved with someone else, take some time off from even looking and learn to love yourself. Find out who you are and what you like/dislike. I know from experience that it will make a world of difference.
2006-09-21 11:46:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably reasonably attractive and secure. Most "nice guys" are ******* who can't handle that kind of a woman and make her feel right.
You're attracted to assholes because they're confident and not afraid to take control when they need to.
Finding a good guy who can do the same thing is difficult, but depending on where and how you take care of yourself I can use some connections.
-G
2006-09-21 11:44:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself that is what you deserve and if you say yes, that's just terrible and that is 'Lowselfworth' talking and not you. 'Lowselfworth' is just something you have and it's like a disease; not an incurable one but one that can be cured. Write a list of things that you do want and ask yourself how you can get them if you cant find the answers then ask someone you trust; sometimes even strangers can give good advice too! Think about it.
2006-09-21 11:51:12 · answer #6 · answered by Stasia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's because u are shy and they think they can dominate u . never let a guy treat u like that take it from me it starts with telling what u can and can't do and it leads to them being abusive ( either mentally or phsically ). stay away from men like this, and keep looking there are nice guys out there maybe yr looking in the wrong place.
2006-09-21 11:48:41 · answer #7 · answered by mandiej81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be a very cute girl, and they just don't want to lose you. But this is not okay! They are insecure with theirselves and you seem to be getting the shaft due to their feelings. You need to find a guy that is confident with hisself and you will not have this problem any longer.
2006-09-21 11:45:11 · answer #8 · answered by LaDonna J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your attracted to the wrong types of guy.....look for the opposite. Good Luck
2006-09-21 11:44:13 · answer #9 · answered by Diamond in the Rough 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like from your description that your gorgeous and any guy with you is going to be over protective of you so that they don't lose you. You need to find a guy that is understanding and trust you then you will be fine
2006-09-21 11:44:12 · answer #10 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋