First my father, then my first husband and now a little from my second husband. Therapist calls it "Absolute Trappedness". Big words for 'Financially STUCK' due to two kids and bills!
2006-09-21 04:38:32 · 10 answers · asked by curiousgeorgette 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You're only as stuck as you want to be. Get out of it. There's always help out there.
2006-09-21 04:40:58 · answer #1 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I can't exactly go to the police and say 'this is what my father did' or 'look at what all those bullies did'. You can get a great sense of injustice out of it.
The whole idea of psychology was changed dramatically only very recently. You have to understand that for thousands of years, from headaches to extreme schizophrenia a mental health problem was blamed on demons and the such. That's not to say you can't tell when someone is inflicting 'mental abuse' on you.
But at the end of the day, how can you really do anything about it other than learn to stand up for yourself, shouldn't that be the best compensation? Long-term threatening behaviour is something a great deal of us have to put up with and its how we deal with it in our own individual ways that proves our individual worth. Are you sure you only have one choice? Is the world going to end if you do the unthinkable?
2006-09-21 13:33:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
careful with that axe darls, Ive been there, as a matter of fact I'm still a victim of abuse, to make things worse I'm physically sick so it makes things worse..be very careful on what you say and how you say it, and remember safety first, always have an exit plan ready for you and your kids.. you should seek out some assistance, counseling, without him knowing, and when you feel ready to face him and the possible consequences then go ahead and let him know you're not gonna take it anymore, if the situation persists then think about leaving for good, don't waste your life next to a man that doesn't value and respect you, for the sake of your children, I'm sure you will find support, look for it ...
Good luck darls
2006-09-21 11:56:56 · answer #3 · answered by Trick Rocks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I experienced this also. The mental abuse was worse than the physical abuse. Therapists know its true, but you might have a hard time proving it in court. The worst thing for me was him giving my dogs to the Humane society when I left him. I was fleeing for my life & he did this before I could find a place that would take dogs. He only kept one when he was told it wasn't adoptable. I got that one back when he finally went to jail. (I was the bread-winner, so it wasn't a matter of money)
2006-09-21 11:53:18 · answer #4 · answered by shermynewstart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I often chafe at the same question. After all, what can be more hurtful than the emotional wounds inflicted by someone you love. But I think we are hesitant to venture into making any laws about emotional abuse because we are all so afraid of being held accountable for the emotional effects our actions have on others. And we're afraid too of having to own up to some emotions that we "don't have".
2006-09-21 12:01:03 · answer #5 · answered by All hat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if you are looking for an answer or if this was a rhetorical question, but I will answer honestly.
I have been through it too, and it sucks because it's very hard to prove. With other types of abuse there are things you can see but with Mental or Emotional Abuse it's more their word against yours.. I'm sorry, I don't know what else to say. :(
2006-09-21 11:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by TimminsGirl1965 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You keep getting involved with the same kind of men.....the abusers. It's YOUR low self esteem that causes you to do that. If you really wanted to get out, you could. It has nothing to do with being "financially STUCK" with kids and bills.
If you really want to get out, call your local department of social services. They can help you get housing (NOT a shelter) and assistance until you can stand on your own financially.
2006-09-21 11:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one to explain. It is like trying to tell the world that religious people are all mentally ill and delusional (which is true by the way). I would reccomend finding a guy that treats you well and that will support you. Yes, there are guys still out there even when you have two kids.
2006-09-21 11:41:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
mental abuse isn't illegal dear. Instead of a therapist telling you what it is she needs to give you the confidence in yourself to leave......material things are just that. Material things, they don't mean squat babe. You learned to accept this treatment thanks to daddy and you haven't learned to break the cycle.
Get angry about it, grow some balls and give your second husband an ultimatum, either he shapes up and treats you like a woman or you ship out. Start looking at apartments and such....that will freak him out and then if doesn't start treating you better..........get the hell out of there.
2006-09-21 11:44:12 · answer #9 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a really hard thing to prove according to laws written 100s of years ago.
2006-09-21 11:40:47 · answer #10 · answered by thesweetestthings24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋