i'm afraid that they'll be out of control teens or something that i'm not capable of handling. i'm sure there are soon to be parents out there with the same thoughts or at least parents that have already gone through such a thing, and some that have thought of it, but everything turned out okay. but how can i just put that in the past and get down to thinking straight and being a parent. i just want to be the best i can for my child and a future family.
2006-09-21 04:14:21 · 25 answers · asked by Parent In Need 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just dont worry about that...
Love your child, be there for them, teach them right from wrong, let them make their own mistakes and do what your heart tells you to do!!!
There is no textbook out there to learn how to be a parent... All children are different, and all parenting styles are different...
Have confidence in yourself and your abilities...
There are no guarantees that your child or even mine wont grow up and get into trouble as a teenager...
2006-09-21 04:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just answered your own question hun. Put the fear down, back away from it and move on. You just be the best you can for your children and your family like you said and you will be just fine. The child/children will admire you for being such a strong willed mother and raising in a stable environment with a loving family. Just think of all the children out there whose mothers are doing drugs having sex with the child right in the room, that is what those children are raised around that is what they know. Choose to raise your child in a better environment and things will all work out in the end. Just be the best mother and wife you can be. Good Luck.
2006-09-21 04:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read everything you can on kids and discipline, raising them with respect, etc. I have a son with ADD and I've been researching that since he was 6, he's now 15. I have ran across everything you could imagine on parenting, and there is so much I would never have known or tried with only my own instincts. Use magazines and the internet to make yourself a better parent. It isn't just natural, especially this day and age where parents just don't really know what their kids face day to day. Get educated and continue bettering your parenting skills and you'll do fine. I have two teenage boys and they can do everything from cooking (not just from a can), laundry, cleaning, babysitting, have good friends and do very well in school. I never could have gotten them where they are if I hadn't gotten help from other sources. Anyway, getting information elsewhere is like cheating cause you benefit from others mistakes and don't have to go through it, and it cuts down on a lot of trial and error. You don't have much time for a lot of errors if you're going to be a good parent.
2006-09-21 04:20:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never wanted kids. I now have 3. They are a joy and a pain. I have a 12, 10, and a 3 yr old. There are days when I don't have a clue as to what I am doing, but I love them and try to teach them to be good people. That is all you can do. The best parents can still have kids that take the wrong roads in life, that is because they have to learn some things for themselves. It is okay to be afraid, but when the time comes, you will be fine.
2006-09-21 04:20:22 · answer #4 · answered by Why do you ask? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dukalink, all teens do not rebel against their parents despite their upbringing.
If you wanna be a good parent you have to teach your child right from wrong and discipline them at an early age. Too many parents, these days, are only interested in being their child's friend, instead of being a parent. As soon as that happens, the child will grow to not respect the parent as an authority figure.
Discipline is the key
2006-09-21 04:22:47 · answer #5 · answered by bad_dog76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only raise a child as you know how. Children arent always good thats why there is punishment like sitting in chair or taking away something they like. I take away my 13 yr olds cell phone and that just kills her. Go on have children, have fun but just dont expect them to be perfect cause no one is. Motherhood is a beautiful thing. By the way i have 4 ages 15,13,11, and 3 wouldnt trade them for anything even when they are bad. There are alot of good. More than bad.
2006-09-21 04:21:46 · answer #6 · answered by bradosmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop thinking of what may happen when it hasn't happened yet. I raised mine just fine and the best way I could. You will be forever a mother first with your children. I even went through a divorce and made it through with my son. Teens will always make mistakes. You need to let them know that you will always be there for them, no matter what happens. And that could be drugs, sex, etc. As long as you are open minded with your children, it will work for you. And always go by your own mistakes you have made in your life to go by. They always get to the age where they know more than you do, around 16 years of age. But mine came back to me when he was 21 years old and said, "you were right mom, I should of listened to you".....He is now married and has his own life, and never gets in trouble with drugs etc., and has a good job. Hope I have helped you.
2006-09-21 04:26:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are alot of parenting classes out there to attend and learn. They will also ease your fears.
Plenty of books too. Just try and stay away from Dr. Spocks books though, cause after his own son took his own life, he must have been lacking in some sort of parental guidlines.
We can't raise "perfect" children. We all, no matter what run into problems with them. All we can do as healthy parents is to do what we think is right, and stick to it.
Let the fears vanish and enjoy the GOOD thoughts of all the fun it can be to watch them grow into their own person, loving them to the fullest.
2006-09-21 04:21:42 · answer #8 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life requires risks. There's just no getting around that. But remember that the key to living your best life is your thoughts. Watch them closely and quit borrowing trouble from tomorrow. God gives you 9 months to get used to the idea of having a baby and during that time you will fall in love so deeply that you won't even question your decision. Instead you will experience the most wonderful of all blessings a human can know. Don't cheat yourself out of it for the sake of fear.
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2006-09-21 04:22:34 · answer #9 · answered by mimi22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about out of control teens. By the time your kids get to be that age, they know you and you know them. They will know what they can and can't get away with. Just remember...YOU want the best for your kids. Treat them as you would want to be treated. Respect goes a long way and if you teach them this early on, they'll get it eventually. Besides, don't deprive yourself of all of the "first's" that come with kids. There are no greater memories! Just remember, they'll make you laugh,cry, pull your hair out in frustration, but in the end, they'll be yours and that is something to be proud of.
2006-09-21 04:22:18 · answer #10 · answered by blackwidow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋