HELP ! my children are being bullied by kids in our street !?

Question

and i dont know how to deal with it., it is an ongoing problem that is getting out of hand, it is really only one child who is leading the bullying by getting the others to taunt my kids and generally leaving my kids out of any games that they are playing, i am at absolute boiling point so much so i wana go round and smack the mother one, i know this isnt the ideal way to deal with it but thats how its making me feel, any suggestions would be greatly appreciated

Answer 1

Get out there and kick the little b astards a ss.. I have a tough little Irish boy here at home I will lend to you for free. He was taught never to bully and loves nothing better than to kick some bully but.. I have been teaching him boxing and self defense to him and his sister since they were three. Like my father always said, "Nothing speaks louder than an Irish a s s whopping.. Kids need to stick up forthemselfes and I am not trying to make light of your problem, but that turning the cheek stuff is for the birds when it comes to kids.. Adults can understand talking things out. Children can't.. It is a right of passage, that todays society is taking away from them.. Wecoddle and protect them and that just messes them up.. Imagine them sitting p in their rooms thinking how their mom had to rescue them.. Then everyone in school knows.. Hey, even if your kid takes a beating, at least he stood his ground, and that brings pride and maybe even some respect from the bully.. Also be sure to tell your kid where that bully will be 20 years from now... Good Luck

Answer 2

Well first off it depends on the bully IMO. Some are worse than others. Is it getting to the physical point, or is it a segregation issue at the moment? You say there is teasing, so I will assume that it was passed the "I don't want to play with you" stage and has went a bit farther as to involve namecalling and such.

First off if you haven't talked to the parents, you can try that. DO NOT talk to the offending parents with the offending child within earshot. If the child hears you talking about the problem with his parents, and his parents do nothing or next to nothing, the child WILL know he has gotten away with it and might procede to intensify the harassment, without fear of major repercussions. Try to not even look like you are talking about the bullying, but like you are talking about how the day is, so the child doesn't know whats going on. This will leave the problem in the offending childs parents hands, and you will get your answer to if it has been dealt with shortly.

Secondly, if this doesn't work, but the problem does not get worse, you might want to get your children to try to stay away from the offending child, but they will not always be able to hide from him forever. Talk to the neighbors around you and ask them to keep an eye out if they can, not for the teasing and such, but just in case it gets to the point of physicality, that way you don't look overprotective, and people can see you have an actual fear of you children getting hurt. Also get your child in self-esteem building extracurricular activities. Bullying tends to grind on childrens self image to the point that if they used to have the cajones to stand up to the child a while ago, they may not now. Karate, baseball, soccer, football, anything that they can excell at, but also might invole pain sometimes, (I know it sounds bad, but you do not want your child to FEAR pain, but instead understand that it is not the end of the world, and that it is not necessarily the end,) that could counteract the emotional grind of the bullying, and your child should be fine. Explain to him that there are people behind him, and that the bully is immaterial, and is wrong in what he does, and that your child does not need to fear him. Explain that while he was at karate practice, that little boy was sitting in his room, bored, eating popcorn off the floor because he could barely live himself, and that he says stuff to make himself feel better.

Thirdly, if it gets physical,
1) take PICTURES
2) call the police, file a report
3) Go to the doctor/ hospital
4) SUE

This will MAKE the parents have to deal with the fact that one, their child has a problem, and secondly, that they need to get their act together and teach their child better manners, and understand that THEY are responsible for the actions of their child, and that it is their responsibility to have to deal with all damage their child does. In society now, parents get away with way too much, and push the blame on to other people way too often. I will not fall into that trap, and will protect my children to the end.

I hope this helps alot.

Answer 3

I know just how you feel, but by getting their parents involved your child will be bullied even more. Get them into some outside activity that will give them the confidence to stand up for themselves as well as making new friends. This should help your children to want to play by themselves or with THEIR chosen friend/s, not the likes of him.
Usually the bully comes from a family that don't give a damn for their own kids let alone others so please becareful if you get them involved. If I were you, I'd still let my own go out and play but sticking my head out of the door every so often, so the bully would know that there is always someone there to protect them; he will get the message soon enough!! Good luck

Answer 4

My son went through this last year on the bus and the principal didn't do anything. I know you are having it done in your neighborhood which is different, but maybe this will help....my husband went to the little boy and asked him why he was bullying our son, of course the kid denied etc. because he was faced with it from an adult, and he stopped. I would go talk to the kid that is causing the problem, if he doesn't stop, talk to his parents about it, if they are jerks, maybe get your kids to play at your house and have their friends over and act like the bullies don't exist. When they see that your children are not bothered by them and are having fun this will show them.

Answer 5

I have the same problem, my kid gets picked on by teenagers in the street (aged 15 and 16) - my child is only little, and 10 years old, I have spoken to the bullies and they say my son asks for it.....how? Its like banging my head against the brick wall. The parents are blind to their kids behaviour, they just don't get it, but in my mind its wrong for 16 year olds to pick on junior school kids. It wont be a problem for much longer though, as we are moving next month.

Answer 6

My brother was being bullied in school years ago and I told my uncle who was only about 5 years older than my brother and was well able to handle himself!!

My uncle went into the school and found a guy who was a few years older than the boys who were bullying my brother and told them that if anything happened to my brother my uncle would come back and get him!!

The older lad had a word with the younger lad who was bullying my brother and he was never bullied again!!

My mam and dad probably wouldn't have done it this way but it worked for my brother!!

Answer 7

Bullies are cowards- and only have a go in front of others- try and get the child on his own or with his parent- if the parent is reasonable- Karate is a good idea for confidence- don't be afraid to stand up for your children how many parents wish they had stood up to the bullies for there children- if you child stands up for him herself convincingly- they won't bother again- they won't risk looking stupid in front of there friends- good luck- i dread this problem!!

Answer 8

Give your kids a tazer
sorry seriously it may be and idea to contact the police who can speak to the parents. If you feel this will make it worse for your children try and speak with them direct and advise of what is going on. If they cannot accept it and dont care then I would sent your kids to karate or judo classes so they can defend themselves and they will make new freinds.

Answer 9

i have had this problem with the family next door its not so much there daughter but her friends that go round there and the mother of the child does not seem to want to know sometimes i feel like knocking there heads of but the best way i have found to deal with it his to ignore themthey soon seem to get fed up

Answer 10

I would give my children something to keep them happy at home,if they go out then I would make sure another adult is watching. Can't you take them away from these bullies into a nearby park? another thing may be to have a word with local police if this gets worse.