what do you do?

Question

when you just started exceriseing to loose weight and your husband iis making comments about your *** being 4ft wide and that you dont do anything. I have been doing alot. I have been walking on th treadmill at work during my lunch for 2 and half miles a day and then go home and ride my bike for 2 miles up hill and then cook dinner and clean and do laundry and then he says that i am lazy and not excersiseing enough and how long does it take to see a difference?

i only wear a size 8 in ladys i am 5'2 so i know that i need to loose i am 155 lbs

Answer 1

About two weeks. My ideas? Try to do 200 minutes of cardio a week. Remember fat does not turn into muscle, so you need to lose your fat while putting on muscle. Work hard, but don't over 60 minutes at a time. Do planks and other abs exercises on alternate days.

On training days, do 5-10 minutes of cardio to warm up, then do your weight training. Do 30 to 60 minutes more of cardio, then go home.

The best time to eat is just after your workout within an hour when your metabolism is raging. For your muscles, incorporate some isolated soy protein or whey protein. Whey is more potent but the soy tastes better!

Don't look at your scale as the be all and end all, but get a measuring tape to check your progress, and that will show more tangible results.

Read magazines like Shape, Womens Fitness, Fitness, etc to get tips and to stay motivated.

Good luck and stick at it. This plan has lost me 20 lbs in 12 weeks so far, just go for it!

Answer 2

Lord - if only you could afford a divorce at this time. What he is doing is trying to undermine your self esteem so you will stop exercise and then he can deride you some more. This type of sabotage verbal abuse is often times worse than some physical abusers as it is accomplishing both at the same time. If he succeeds in stoping you from losing weight, that is physical abuse, and the verbal tactics he is using is the mental. The best way to beat him is to continue your exercise and go on strike where he is concerned. Wash only your clothes, no cookin or cleaning for him. Leave his stuff laying where he drops it and start warning him that either he moves it or it goes to the trash. Follow through and throw it out. Stay on strike until he gets the point that his abuse of you will Stop. Give the abuser what he wants, needs and deserves. Tell him turn about is fair play. If it comes to it ridicule his sexual performance and size. Make sure you tell him he gets what he gives. Lots of luck. If you can afford it, start the divorce now and you won't have to risk going through all this stuff. Remember that you know this is necessary or you would not have asked this question. Take back control of yourself. Good luck

Answer 3

Hi. I'm a athletic director for a MSU. Dont listen to any one else it is how you feel first of all. You need to excersise and eat healthy. The more meals you eat and the less food you taken in can help you lose weight without even excersicing. If I eat five meals a day but they where small meals and I only drank water. I would lose more wieght and faster then the people that just excersise and still eat and drink unhealthy. No bread, No rice, No POP, Chicken, Shrimp, Steak, 90/10 groung beef, Low fat milk, and NO PASTA. Lots of water.

Answer 4

ur hubby is controlling and emtionally abusing u. my ex did the same thing i was a size 6 and he always said that i was too fat and i was ugly and wudn't be able to get someone better and wateva. u have to stand up for urself don't let it get to u otherwise u'll go thro what i did which is looking in the mirror and seeing a fat person that really does need to loose weight so u continue to do so until ur just skin and bones not healthy at all what he's doing to u emtionally or physically u need to not let him get to u and tell him where to go pretty much. Say posative things about urself in the mirror it may sound stupid but its ment to help ur self essteem after being emtionally abused.

Answer 5

If you are exercising and being careful with your diet, you should start seeing after 2 weeks if you weigh yourself. You should be able to lose 1 kg (2 pounds) per week.

Take into account that if you have stretched skin (perhaps from having children) that it will be more difficult to lose fat from that area.

Also it is harder to lose weight from the lower body. You must first lose fat from the upper body.

Suggest to your husband (and your older children if you have any) that he could help by cooking or doing the laundry so you will have more time to exercise.
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P.S. It sounds like your husband is using his mouth in quite a hurtful way. Perhaps that's something HE can improve.

Answer 6

How horrible that your husband isn't being supportive.
I've just recently gone back to joining Curves. There isn't one person there who isn't supportive and not judgemental. Every person is different in their weight loss progress. I was frustrated 'cause the scale wouldn't "budge". But I did see a difference in how my clothes fit and my health issues improved a lot. Keep up the good work. Do it for yourself, and if you stop for any reason, you can always go back to it. Don't beat yourself up over it and don't let anyone else get you down. Lots of luck to you!!!

Answer 7

tell your husband to play in the street ~ preferrable a busy one. That is no way someone who says they love you should act. I have put on 50 lbs and am not at all happy about the way I look, but my husband has never uttered one word. As a matter of fact, I said to him how I hated how much weight I put on and he said, he loved me ~ not my weight!
So, you keep doing what you are doing if that makes you happy, but the husband ~ he needs to think again about what he is saying

Answer 8

Me aunt gave me some turkey and rice and it tasted stable. often times, I forget approximately i'm diabetic and that i ate too lots rice. I had to take a stable walk to decrease me blood glucose. once I placed up this, i'm going to take 30 contraptions of levemir insulin. Why I did it? The rice tasted stable. Did I rejoice with it? confident, yet at a value.

Answer 9

Tell the jerk to kiss off. If you are doing all that, then how long it takes doesn't matter, it's just being good to yourself and trying that matters. Be happy in yourself. If you know you are doing all that you can to be who you want to be, he should be supportive and encouraging, not a jerk that makes rude comments about your backside. I would not tolerate a spouse that was not totally supportive and encouraging.

Answer 10

Don't let him bring you down. Men do that sometimes. Mine does it too. Really what it is, he's trying to discourage you so that you don't start looking too good as a threat that he may lose you. But just keep up the good work and forget what he says. He'll get over it and when you do start to change and look really good, he'll be working harder to please you.
Believe me, he'll be kissing that butt! You've got him running' scared! That's all it is.