I got a call form one of my female friends a minute ago.. She use to love to date bad boys . I use to wonder why but after reading a few books and observing life experiences I knwo why she did it. Back to the call, her and a friend shocked me by saying that if they run into a guy they want him to be like me. Sweet caring kind and considerate. And if they were smarter they would ahve tried to have dated me . I been getting a lot of these calls form my female friends lately.. What happened to the wildness in them jeez it seems like after they turned 30, nice guy got in style whats up with that? I thought nice guy were a blahh?
2006-09-21 03:38:20 · 14 answers · asked by Arthur D 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
love to hear more answers on this
2006-09-21 04:51:39 · update #1
Alright, for starters, let's get to the basics. According to Dr. Amos of WebMD, "at 35 your chances of becoming infertile rapidly increase." (This is for women only, men aren't believed to become infertile until after age 50, but it varies from case to case of course.) So, anyway, the biological timeclock is ticking, this is usually forbidden to talk about unless she brings it up by the way, very touchy subject for many women. So, shallowness kicks out, because she doesn't want to put another pick you up for the football games and drop you after prom guy into this world.
So, to make a long and complex issue short. She needs to settle down now and she's thinking about who would be a good daddy for her baby.
2006-09-21 03:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by David M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called maturity - or needing security. Some have gotten more mature and have had enough 'bad boy drama' in their lives. Some have a few kids & not enough child support and are looking for a man with a paycheck to help support them & their kids, so are searching for someone more stable. Be careful which type you date.
I have worked with women that have admited they date (with the intention of marriage) guys that they think are boring/geeks/'not their type', etc. because they 'know they would be good with the kids & responsible with money' - never mentioning love. Survival mode can make people do things like this - till their kids are grown.
2006-09-21 03:43:23 · answer #2 · answered by mustanglynnie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as the nice guy isn't a doormat, yah, he tends to seem more attractive as women get older. This is to be expected, it's incredibly difficult to spend a lifetime with a jerk. The nice guy, besides being nice, typically offers some things that the jerk cannot offer.
2006-09-21 03:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They grew up. It's that simple. Guys and, girls alike, that are easy are much more popular at younger ages because most teenagers and early 20 somethings are not ready to settle down.
However late 20 somethings and early 30 somethings are ready to settle down.
Both men and women wanna settle down with a respectful and caring other. Who wants to settle down with a ho or male ho? Nobody. That's why so many easy guys and girls end up alone and nice girls and guys end up married and happy
2006-09-21 03:42:53 · answer #4 · answered by bad_dog76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happens with guys. Most guys under 30 want any hot piece of *** in tight jeans.
Most people, after they reach a certain age, maturity kicks in - and they want someone who is just nice.
2006-09-21 03:41:03 · answer #5 · answered by Mintygoodness1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Darwin. See there's two types of males: the "alpha" bad-boy type, and the "beta" nice-guy type. In more applicable terms, the breeding male, and the nesting male. In her fertile years, the female is drawn to the breeder to insure survival of species. As her hormones cool off, the need for an actual companion becomes prevalent. Hence, nesting males become more attractive as the female becomes older.
2006-09-21 03:50:35 · answer #6 · answered by strinidae 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
theyre just saying nice things to make you feel better that they dont fancy you.
But its tru once a woman hits 30 and her biological clock is ticking, no kids yet, they have to lower their standards and settle for what they can get. So it may not be that youre a nice guy, just that they are scratching around looking for someone who still single and available.
2006-09-21 03:45:10 · answer #7 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a million) c) bypass help her up and then help her %. up the groceries *idk why, its merely organic tendencies. i continually help stranger at the same time as they desire it.... i truly do 2) c) walk over and confront the guy, yet don’t get interior the way of him and the lady, and phone the police *the lady probable is too scared to do any aspect herself so id merely enable the dude understand he more advantageous acceptable supply up before i call 911 3) d) Hesitate. you imagine about announcing some thing, yet you don’t because the bell has already rung and also you’ll be late for sophistication. *i hate being late to type. if i see them interior the halls later, then id tell them that that wasn't efficient, blah blah blah 4) c) Yell on the dumb save workers for no longer doing some thing for the undesirable youngster and “B” as well * the employees ought to keep in mind that they ought to have achieved some thing... and doing "b" must be doing the right aspect 5) d) attain into your wallet and promises her the couple of funds that she desires. No situation. *i love doing random solid deeds 6) b) Scare her away so she received’t save on with you anymore, and per chance she’ll run back domicile. *even if shes pleasant, she ought to have ticks or in spite of seven) a) tell her “No, i go procuring.” and leave *heck no because she does this anytime i receives a fee. i desire my money otherwise i does no longer be operating 8) c) tell him that you’ll be there for him anytime he desires you, yet advise wondering absolutely as well *id tell him to imagine efficient because adverse issues ensue to adverse human beings 9) a) in a polite way decline and say “No thanks” and walk away with out yet another word. *im merely shallow =/ 10) b) Say confident. What’s one time gonna damage? Plus they’re cute *i merely cant say no... human beings ought to do it for me too
2016-11-23 12:53:42 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone once told me that after you get to a certain age in life, it no longer matters what they look like, what they do for a living, what they drive or how they dress....all that matters is how they treat you. So, eventually, we get there.
2006-09-21 03:55:04 · answer #9 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know but i went out with a lady of 38 she said i was to nice but she also had tight jeans and i am 34
2006-09-21 03:49:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋