My seventeen year old son got his girlfriend pregnant and her dad said he was going to kill him what should i do he is bigger than me. And he is the sherriff.
2006-09-21 03:33:06 · 16 answers · asked by jockstrap 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Her dad is just being a father. Father's are very over protective of their daughters. Hopefully it will eventually pass. Tell your son that he need to "RAP IT UP". They still have life to look forward to but getting his girlfriend pregnant is a quick way to jump into the REAL WORLD.
2006-09-21 04:47:32 · answer #1 · answered by shy_isha18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes to two to tango, the important question here is how old is his daughter? if she is of legal age then there is nothing this Sherrif can do. if she isnt then your boy is is trouble legally. now as for personally, from the Sherriff, then he needs to also take a look at his daughter. these things happen, I pride myself in the fact that I did a good Job with my children, all the right talks about sex etc yet only 3 months back he thought his GF was pregnant, its every parents nightmare, no matter how hard you try they are hormonal and there is not a damn thing you can do but trust them to do the right thing. if he slings bad parenting at you mention to him that he is the Sherriff and even he couldnt stop his daughter having intercourse so it has no bearing on parental responsabilities.I would suggest you ask for a meeting with Him and his family , have a mediator there as much for you, as them but a non biast one ok. try to work this out in an adult manner and most importantly do not forget the important people in all this and what they want, and that is your Son and his daughter.There is always a solution to a problem it just needs to be worked out. this is fixable, its not the end of the world. It doesnt matter how big this sherriff is, he has to stay within the law ,so for all his threats and shouting he has to remember his position. its a shock for everyone when they find out, we all say things we dont mean its a natural defense mechanism. On a different note this might be a good time to talk to your son about responsabilities and the consiquences of his actions. encourage him to deal with this in a mature manner and to keep his head. he will earn much more respect from her Father that way.
2006-09-21 10:51:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People use the expression "kill" very loosely. The sheriff needs to get over his anger first then perhaps he can be open to conversation. The decision to have sex was not solely made by your son but with his daughter as well. If he did not want this to happen to his daughter then he should've spent more time with her than the police station.
At this point you guys should think about your kids and the baby's future. Compromise on shouldering the up and coming expenses of the baby and what needs to be done to assure that the teenagers know that this is their responsibility. Make sure they are aware of the consquences of their decision that they have to live with.
You being the father of the boy needs a little more action because there are too many teenage mothers out there left to care for their child on their own with no participation from the father. You need to make sure your son performs his duties.
2006-09-21 11:51:10 · answer #3 · answered by Georgina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I smell a rat here. If you have a 17 yr. old son and he got his girl pregnant then you and him have to take responsibile actions. First neither he nor the girl are old enough to be married. Please do not insist on this and do not let the girls parents insist on it. Marriage at this time in their lives would be a disaster for all involved. Second make sure your son and his girlfriend finish school. No matter what happens between them they both need their educations. Third your son is scared the girl is scared and you are upset and the girl's parents are upset do not let anything said right now make the situation worse. Lastly, the baby is coming it is up to you and your son to see that the baby's mother is getting the proper care during her pregnancy and the financial support of the baby after it is born. If the girlfriend decides on abortion it is up to your son (you) to provide at least half the cost of the procedure. If she decides to place the child for adoption your son must pay at least half of her prenatal care. Needless to say you do not have any say in this decision. This decision needs to be made by the girl and your son. They are the child's parents. If you are asked for your imput you may express your opinion but do not give advice unless asked for. As for her Dad's threats take them with a grain of salt. His baby girl is pregnant and a girls Dad gets a little jealous of her first serious boyfriend.
2006-09-21 10:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sheriff cant blame your son for getting her pregnant, his daughter knew the risks of having sex before she decided to lay down. It's both of their responsibility. And i doubt the sherriff is going to kill your son, he probably is just really angry because that's his "little girl". All dads would act like that if they found out there daughter's bf got her pregnant. I'd just suggest you tell your son to stay away from his gf's dad for awhile until he cools off.
2006-09-21 10:48:42 · answer #5 · answered by sha9609 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The odds are that he will not follow through on his threat! He was most likely highly upset and let his anger get the best of him. It takes two people to get pregnant!!! His little sweetheart was there ,too! Let things cool down a bit and then maybe the adults can talk about the options that are available!! Good luck to all involved!!!
2006-09-21 10:40:14 · answer #6 · answered by hillbilly wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the end of the day....the damage is already done her dad is being very immature about this...he should support her and make her feel secure, not go off ranting and raving...after all it takes 2 to tango....it's not completely your sons fault...if this thug does follow through with this threat report him to his superior...he may be sherriff but he dont own the world
2006-09-21 10:37:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first like the saying goes "It takes two to Tango", and if he is the Sheriff then I don't believe that he would risk his career actually killing him. He is just really upset. Try to have a conversation with him on the subject.
Good Luck
2006-09-21 10:41:45 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Nell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check with a lawyer, you are up against an angry father who has connections. Find out what the law says and make sure your son owns up to his responsibilities.
2006-09-21 10:40:44 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously the girlfriend is not an innocent party here,it takes two so let the dad know you are mad also
2006-09-21 10:37:25 · answer #10 · answered by san_ann68 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋