2006-09-21 03:28:30 · 11 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If that person that you want to tell that to , does not like the idea , then he/she wasn't a good partner/friend to begin with.
Just tell him/her,hey listen , this ain't working for me,we either can be friends or we part ways now...smile
2006-09-21 13:29:03 · answer #1 · answered by Einstein 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm best friends with an ex, and have turned down alot of the guys I'm good friends with to this day. But it really depends on whether or not you really want to be friends with them; does this person repulse you and/or you don't mesh well as friends? In that case I'd say just tell them you're really preoccupied with your (fill in the blank stressful life situation here) and don't have much time for social activities. then stay away from them for a while to let them get the rejection out of their system. If you do really want to be friends, I'd suggest saying just that... you are more compatible as friends than as anything more, or that you just aren't looking for a relationship, then invite them to go on some strictly friendly activity, like playing video games or watching tv while sitting on opposite sides of the room. Or make yourself unappealing around them in a sense (act around them like you would your most comfortable friend... dont be afraid to burp, fart, etc. if you would normally not hold it in if front of a brother or sister or something) Try not to give them mixed impressions, or flirt with them, that will only complicate things and make you a tease. If they act hurt & dont want to be friends, let them deal with it their own way. Rejection is a fact of life and they better grow up and get used to it. Besides, if they really liked you (and weren't just interested in the sex/status/comfort of a relationship) hanging out & being friends should satisfy just fine.
In the end, keep your options open, friends make the closest lovers & sexual attraction has little to do with true love, it just helps a hell of a lot!
2006-09-21 10:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by kassandraleche 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough one here. If you tell him " I just want to be friends " then he wont even want to look at you. You dont know how crappie it is for a guy to here that from a gal he likes. Its like the most popular and widely used rejection in the book! Try haveing him tag along with you and some of your friends and introduce him as your "buddy (insert name here)" . That should be an obviouse clue to him if hes not an idiot. Also make sure you have a wing man there to bail you out if things go south, preferably some one that you think would be a good match for him. Good luck!
2006-09-21 10:37:04 · answer #3 · answered by teenypurplebinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know Laura, they might not be good with that, but it really doesn't matter. You have to do what makes you happy. You don't wanna be with someone just to be nice. If you do that you'll just end up hurting that person more, in the end.
Being up front and honest is the best way to go. It may be a blow to their ego but you'll hurt them a lot less if you let them know how you feel from the start
2006-09-21 10:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by bad_dog76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell your friend.. "listen i like you alot..but as friends." im sorry if theres nothing i feel about you in that "way" but i dont want to destroy our friendship. and say.."our friendship means so much to me." then hopefully your "friend" can understand that. and if he/she doesn't understand.. just be like.. this is how i feel.. and nothing will change it...!! the same thing happened to me. i was friends with this guy.. and he wanted to be more than friends. but really i wasnt attracted to him in that "way". i looked at him like a "big brother" and i loved our friendship. he was absolutley in love with me, and i just told him over and over agin that our friendship meant so much to me i didnt want to destroy what we have "as friends". and then he backed off and continued to be friends with me. hope things turn out the way mine did. good luck
2006-09-21 10:39:54 · answer #5 · answered by beth-y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that you are not interested in a relationship but that you would be honored to be "just friends".
2006-09-21 10:33:46 · answer #6 · answered by Helen G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest. it would be meaner to drag him/her on. if you dont say anything and this person is somewhat naive, they might get the wrong idea. so just be nice and be honest. they'll probly be depressed but its better then lying to them by not saying 'sorry i just don't like you that way.'
2006-09-21 10:32:31 · answer #7 · answered by thee wojc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Restraining Order.
Works for me every time.
Ergo why you have to say at least 300 feet away from me at all times !
2006-09-22 11:23:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest - it never worked with me, but maybe with some people.
2006-09-21 10:32:00 · answer #9 · answered by jarhed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you trying to tell me something?
2006-09-21 14:02:06 · answer #10 · answered by jowelbe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋