Ok well do you think its wrong for a 13 year old to go out with a 19 year old even if they are in fact in love??
Age doesnt matter..right??
I would like your input on this kind of relationship..
Is it wrong??
2006-09-21 03:26:27 · 27 answers · asked by Baby Gurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey YOU DO NOT KNOW WHAT LOVE IS. A cliche, but so right!
You are only just discovering your sexuality. You do not need any 19 year old muscling in and taking away the best years of your youth.
You need to find out about the person you are and can be, and to do that you have to be free to make friends and experiment with a whole range of people.
If you tie yourself down to the 19 year old, he will expect you to be satisfied with only him for as long as he wants to keep you. HE had the right to go through that phase in his life the natural and normal way. Why should you be any different?
And there is definitely something wrong with a 19 year old MAN needing to hang around with a 13 year old CHILD. It's hard to hear the truth, but that is what you are. Just ask any 16 year old girl if she considers you a woman. You won't like her answer either, but you have to set your emotions aside and realize that it is indeed true.
Ten years from now, you can either look back and beat yourself up for denying yourself the last of your childhood. Or you can look back and thank your lucky stars that you came to your senses in time. We don't ever get a chance to live our lives over again to correct all those mistakes. We have to be on the lookout that we don't make them to begin with.
2006-09-21 03:43:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are they really in love? It's very easy for a 13 year old to become infatuated with someone much older. And the 19 year old might just enjoy the attention. Is the 19 year old really in love? Or does he just have a thing for very young women? Society says it's wrong and illegal. I would tend to move toward what society says. But, only time can tell if it is love. If by chance that they do start dating, will the 19 year old see someone his/her own age and find that they have more in common than the 13 year old. That would be heart breaking for the 13 year old. I think that both the 13 year old and the 19 year old have a lot to think about. Weigh every thing. Are you both really and truly in love? Or are these different feelings that neither have had before and are exploring? A lot of questions, aren't there?
2006-09-21 03:37:14 · answer #2 · answered by Left Port Redd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt either of the two really know what love is. A real realtionship takes maturity not many 18 year olds have, and I know 13 year olds don't either! Not to mention the lives of ones with such an age difference are not parallel. If the person was 18 and the other was 24, then age wouldn't be so bad, but 13 and 19 it is, because if anything goes too far, the eldest could be charged with a serious crime. Anyway, to make it short, it's wrong, and it shouldn't be considered unless the people are much older!
2006-09-21 03:31:28 · answer #3 · answered by The Muppet Fairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong? What is wrong? This is just plain stupid. There is nothing a 13 yearold can offer a 19 year old. The 19 yearold would have better luck with a 29 year old. Age matters LEGALLY. Not to mention, maturity-which can speak volumes, and motive- obviously curiosity. A 29 year old can legally give a 19 year old what the 19 year old really wants out of this relationship... but a 13 year old will earn the 19 year old some jailtime. Tell the 13 year old to keep her pants on, and tell the 19 year old "Welcome to this World" for me.
2006-09-21 03:32:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, a 19 and a 13 year old shouldn't have anything in common, it isn't normal.... and to be honest you are right 5 years isn't a big difference if the individuals are adults, say 18 and 23.....
I truly feel that is far too big of a gap at that age.... a 19 year old shouldn't want to be with a 13 year old for a relationship... there is something a bit strange about that.
Maybe they should be good friends until they have more life experiences in common.
best of luck
2006-09-21 03:29:28 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ goddessofraine ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you feel "in love" because that is such a strong and emotional feeling. Do not let anyone tell you that you are too young to love or that it's wrong to feel like you love another human being.
But consider why a 19 year old wants to hang around a 13 year old girl.
My bet is that sex is a motivator. Please, please respect yourself and do not have sex at your young age. You and your boyfriend are both too young to get wrapped up in a serious relationship with each other. He should not be with a 13 year old girl.
It is illegal for him to have sex with you. If you care about him, stop the relationship and stay friends if that is possible. If he has sex with you and your parent presses charges, it could ruin his life. He will have to register as a sex offender for the REST OF HIS LIFE and that is not worth trying to hide a relationship with such a young girl.
A man, 19 years old, will not want to go to dances, proms, football games, etc. If he does want to do that stuff at his age then he is mentally stunted. He should be beyond those activities by his age.
I am not saying there is anything wrong with either of you for feeling love for one another, but it is not a relationship that makes good sense.
Good luck. Find a boy closer to your age who is more intune with what your current life is...school, maybe part time jobs, activities...
2006-09-21 03:36:22 · answer #6 · answered by ssssss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so wrong... on so many different levels...
First of all a 13 yr old has no business dating anyone....
Second I would have to question the intentions of a 19 yr old with a 13 yr old. Why can't he find a girl closer in age?
Third at 13 yr old you have no idea what love is let alone be in it.
2006-09-21 03:32:16 · answer #7 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Certainly not Baby Girl, provided you know what your are doing and definitely know what you are not allowed to do BY LAW. There are certain things that the boy cannot do, as because of your age, you cannot give consent for anything physical. If you do, your boyfriend will no doubt face jail and depending on the seriousness of what happened, it could be for a long time. Now, you would not want that to happen so keep the relationship platonic (you can look up the word - it is not rude). Because of the age difference it is going to be a long time before you can play daddies and mummies - if you know what I mean. Take care and look after yourself...............
2006-09-21 03:34:24 · answer #8 · answered by thomasrobinsonantonio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. Age matters when one of you is under 18.
That's the fastest way to land a 19 year old in jail.
2006-09-21 03:30:07 · answer #9 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your correct in your statement that age doesn't matter, however maturity does. You also face the problem, that at nineteen, he can be charged with Statutory Rape, or Unlawful Carnal Knowlege of a Minor. This could earn him as much as twentyfive years in jail, and you would be thirtyeight years old when he got out. For his sake, you'd better cool it.
2006-09-21 03:33:00 · answer #10 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋