This guy I have been seeing for over a year, supposedly has a preconceived notion that my parents might be hoity toity because they are more well off than his parents. He may get this assumption by the way I dress, or the car I drive, but I've always been truly a down to earth person, and money wouldn't matter to me as long as I was happy. But I really didn't get a chance to open up to him, because he never really opened up to me.. until he had to move back home for certain reasons. Then I told him that my parents are very down to earth, aren't flashy & like people for who they are. But I want him to know that money doesn't mean sh*t to me as long as I had him. But my "outside" appearance may speak otherwise. The reason is I used to model, & I was trying to hold on to that fantasy & I dressed in a way that people who knew me expected me to dress. And that may have hurt my chances of getting serious w/him. How do I reveal that to him? He's away now, not too far, but I want to be honest.
2006-09-21 03:23:55 · 7 answers · asked by feisty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What's the best way, by phone or email? I can explain myself better writing it out, but I'm not sure what he'd feel comfortable with. If I write an email though, do you think their would be a silent or awkward tension? I'm afraid I'll mess up on the phone though too, so what should I do? What will he think of me? Any different?
2006-09-21 03:26:07 · update #1
OR I can try to see if he can meet me in person again soon.
2006-09-21 03:27:29 · update #2
baby girl, talk to him on the phone, it's more personal and you can hear his tone of his voice and catch the clue better. don't mention money. it's not a cool subject; whether it's the have or have not. talk to him, like you'd seen him yesterday, a casual conversation to a good friend. don't reveal how you feel inside, it's his job to find out, if he's bright enough, he'll be able to figure it out. find a place to get together when both of you don't have to where fancy clothes, like a rock climbing, or hiking (pretty much any outdoor activities). keep talk to him by phone once a day. this will show him that you're interested in him. you'll be fine, but don't reveal your true emotion.
2006-09-21 03:34:20 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy has not met your parents yet, so where did he get this preconceived notion about them? You stated here, that your parents are more well off than his. Maybe unconsciously you gave him the impression you think his parents don't measure up and your parents will think he is not good enough for their daughter.
You say you were a model, you dress to impress and drive a nice car. Even the ID, (V.I.P), you chose for yahoo, speaks for itself. You have exhibited how money makes you feel and you have flaunted your perception of status in front of this guy all along. These things are all red flag indicators of high maintenance to any guy let alone a guy without money.
You say you did not open up to him because he did not open up to your first. Now because you don't have what you want, you are willing to open up and tell him how down to earth you really are and how you don't need money to be happy.
If you have been seeing this guy for more then a year, then I think he has a pretty good idea who you really are.
If this guy has no money, then he definitely knows it is a bullsh**t myth about being happy without it.
Unfortunately I think you have issues here greater than whether to phone or email
That being said I hope you find your true self and wish you luck with him.,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,in person
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2006-09-21 17:10:09 · answer #2 · answered by rikenelson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Appearances should not matter!! If he is someone you really love, I would start showing him who you really are! Do things for him that reveal who you are, maybe he doesn't think you can cook, so make him the best cookies ever! Revealing who you are by phone or email can be very suscessful. Most people focus well when they read something. Make sure you are who you say you are, and that the things you say go with what you do!
2006-09-21 10:27:48 · answer #3 · answered by The Muppet Fairy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well... I guess if you want to do a Dear John letter that is fine however I suggest writing it down and then you calling him and doing it by phone... better yet I would suggest doing it in person.
2006-09-21 11:02:25 · answer #4 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
princess, that was just plain gay.
as for your question, i didnt read it because it was too long and princess made me real upset.
2006-09-21 10:26:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never say forever cause forever isn't real, Forever's what you think and forever's what you feel, So if you say forever please promise that you'll try, But never say forever cause forever makes me cry
2006-09-21 10:25:04 · answer #6 · answered by Princess illusion 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can't reveal your true sef that way ... only in person.
2006-09-21 10:26:24 · answer #7 · answered by Milos K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋