Ive had many of good men come my way but they dont appeal to me even though thats what I should be goin for.Am I crazy? Plus bad guys sex is always the bomb!
2006-09-21 03:16:26 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People tend to gravitate to the familiar. As crazy as it sounds you are used to being treated like crap, so you actually feel safe since you can easilly predict the outcome. You may also be afraid that if you did hook up with a decent guy you might grow to depend on, that he would end up hurting you too, & that would destroy you even more than the hurt you feel from any past relationship.
I often hear it said that girls go for the bad boys because of the DANGER (you said sex, but anyway). I believe that it is quite the opposite. I think it's because it's familiar & the girl can predict the outcome with reasonable accuracy. Hook up with a bad boy, he hurts you, then after it's over you can say "See I knew he would hurt me". Hook up with a decent, caring, nurturing man, & you could be afraid that you might end up being the one that blows the relationship. What would you say to yourself then? Would you then tell yourself that you obviously don't deserve such a great guy?
Maybe the good guys don't appeal to you because you rationalize in such a way that they become unappealing, so that you can keep space for a bad boy to move in.
The real danger is in "Going for the Gold".
Start going over the list of the so called good men that came your way, & pick one that is still available & give him a chance by looking at him with your new perspective. At least I hope you have a new perspective after reading this.
Good Luck!
2006-09-21 03:43:27 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know....my sister was kind of in this cycle,.....she's starting to talk to a guy that "sounds" a lot better than the others. I think once you start out with a bad guy, it's hard to turn into a different direction. I started out with a good person...and now I only am attracted to the "nice" ones. I'm not really sure though....everyone wants to be treated well, but starting off on either path may make you more appt to follow on with it, but you can always change your mind and turn things around! Just give a guy you normally wouldn't give, a chance. Plus, you never know he might be better in bed than the bad guy! lol He is a guy after all!
2006-09-21 03:19:47 · answer #2 · answered by Bailey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you do it because their is something in that bad boys character that attracts you to him. Maybe he is not like the other good guys you hang around. Maybe its his total disreguard for the rules. maybe its a phase of life your going through.
Also he might be a challenge for you to go after him and change him. You ladies love a good challenge. Maybe you like drama and think this si part of the growing up process, reguardless, I think it s a phase your going through. maybe he wont take your shizzzt you might like to challenge other guys on
Its a phase dear. I got a few females now that I know that use to want bad boys. Now I get a lot more calls form them asking what im doing and if I wna to go out and hang.
Basically there is something internal that attracts you to them and you need to find out what it is and why
I'm ncie guy not your type, but
2006-09-21 03:22:33 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey i'm the same way. I've had the same problem with men in the past. I'm used to the "bad guys" and then i end up getting hurt and move on to the next "bad guy" No girl you aint crazy LOL i know how you feel. stay strong. and if you ever want to talk about the bad guys you can email me if you want to. take it easy
2006-09-21 04:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by zais_mom2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not crazy. A few of us women can relate to you.Somewhere down the lin you are gonna have to break that cycle.If you value yourself.There comes a time in life we all are gonna need a serious and dependable man by our sides.A good man is hard to find,so if you find one dont let go.The heart breakers arent worth your time.Their sex is the bomb,but that's not all life's about.
2006-09-21 03:30:55 · answer #5 · answered by Carline B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well have you ever figured out that just maybe there might be a good guy that appeals to you out there some where? What happened is you got a bad guy,and you just continued making the same mistakes over and over again....Break the cycle...........Heal thyself! lay off guys for awhile........when you do find another guy look for the red flags,if he shows a sign of being bad(drop him ) right then and move on
2006-09-21 03:28:55 · answer #6 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO your not crazy, that's just why you keep picking the ones that's bad for you the sex its not that you like the ones that keep hurting you and also if your a god girl your going to attract bad guys the drawn to good woman just like good girls are drawn to bad men. i thought i had a problem with bad men but i met a good one who was also a street guy who was a very good man.
2006-09-21 03:21:15 · answer #7 · answered by nclgivens 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women like us for some reason like those bad boys. I know that i like a good challenge every once and a while. As long as you don't get too involved. Their is something mysterious about being with a "bad boy" It is kind of like living life on the edge.
2006-09-21 03:19:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cause your your young and need drama to age you quicker, your attraction to asses is genetic, once your to old to get assholes, because they'll all be either dead or in jail, you'll regret not falling in love with an honest man, and die at ninety-nine years old, alone and loveless or perhaps miserable with a companion you care nothing for......but hey, look on the bright side..at least you've had good sex!!
2006-09-21 03:25:35 · answer #9 · answered by sabastian b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really can't stand girls like you... US nice guys who are willing to treat you right are overlooked all the time (I'm not ugly by any means, just not a "bad boy") - We would just want to end up taking care of you in any way possible - as far as sex goes, be our teacher IF YOU ARE SO GOOD....
But in the end - you either get knocked up by your bad boy or he beats you - get's you hooked on something or screws up your mind and then even to us nice guys, you ain't worth pursuing...
The fact that you "know in the end" - tells me that if you are willing to get hurt, you flat out deserve it...
2006-09-21 03:28:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋