Yesterday a guy thought he was being "Mr. Nice Guy" by holding the door for me as I walked towards the entrance. Problem was that I was a a number of steps away so inorder for him not to have to stand there holding the door I had to do a little sprint to "accept" his gesture. He meant well but I didn't need that favor. What do you think?
2006-09-21 02:49:07 · 58 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I'm very conservative, but I tend to agree and think that's going overboard, since you were far away. I don't think it's good judgment and can often cause problems. Some people behave the same way in traffic, and their timing throws everything off.
2006-09-21 02:49:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well first off, if a guy is going through the trouble of holding a door open you should'nt sprint, i mean he's held it open for many others and you should'nt feel pressured to accept. I am gathering that you are as well as many women are quite capable of opening your own doors. You will find though that this gesture is much more welcoming than say if the door came back and hit you or if no one ever applied this gesture to anyone. I just tend to think that if you had your hands full and could'nt open a door, then that would really suck. But in your case, I can see your point of view. All I can say is, if this happens again, let him prove that he's holding the door for a reason, you let him hold it no matter how far you are away. Never Run For Kindness.
2006-09-21 03:33:33 · answer #2 · answered by G Money 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should reconsider. I am a gentleman and always hold the door for a woman. I don't expect that you hurry - I will stand there and wait because it's my decision to be a gentleman and do what I believe is appropriate.
The next time some guy or person lets the door shut just as you approach (and you know it will happen) you will look back on that incident and probably think differently.
A person's polite gesture is about doing something that is, in their opinion, proper and appropriate and not about what response he or she may get from the recipient.
2006-09-21 04:12:37 · answer #3 · answered by jarhed 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pleaase, This person was trying to be polite what is to get upset about? Can't you accept that there are still decent, Polite people like this? I will hold a door open for anyone that is near me to show some respect and a kind gesture. Do you want everyone to be mean to you? Oh and starting off with "Mr. Nice Guy" is just showing me you do not appreciate good manners.
2006-09-21 03:14:43 · answer #4 · answered by tazachusetts 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh for goodness sakes, you need to get over yourself. A stranger did something nice for you, out of the goodness of his own self, and your problem is that you were inconvenienced by your own decision to walk faster? Do you want a purple heart for all your trouble?
THIS is what I hate about feminism...yep, I said it, I'm not a feminist, I hate feminists and what they've done to society. Men should NEVER have to feel guilty about being a gentleman - I've seen it so many times, it's disgraceful. A man is kind enough to open the door for a woman, he should be thanked graciously with a smile. Even if you didn't "need" that favour (you amazon, you!) he was trying to be polite. Society has lost so much of its class, and is now over-run with people who don't know up from down when it comes to proper etiquette.
Smile, be gracious and thankful. It's not difficult. It's called being a lady.
2006-09-24 09:13:43 · answer #5 · answered by Holly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you! It's very nice of them to be considerate enough to hold the door open especially these days when people are so self-centered and rude but I feel weird if I'm still a ways away and they are holding the door open. I usually have my 3 yr old daughter with me and end up having to drag her so we can get to the door so whoever can let go and go in.
2006-09-21 04:52:22 · answer #6 · answered by Alison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you did not like his gesture you should not have sprinted. Me personally, I like it when men open the door for me. It shows that they still have a small amount of chivalry in them. But, everyone is different. It's hard to say what to do next time. I guess you could ignore him as you pass by or go into another door...
2006-09-21 02:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by Mujer Bonita 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
For crying out loud - GET A LIFE!! What else pisses you off? People saying "you look nice"? "have a nice day"? "please"? "thank you"? How inconvenient for you is that if you aren't particularly in the mood for hearing it at that particular time? Eh? I think we should be told!
Had you been a bit closer and he had banged the door in your face, how pissed off would you have been on a scale of 1-10 on your Pissed-off-o-meter?
Don't you think there are worse things that happen to people every day than somebody being merely POLITE to you? These small acts of courtesy and kindness are what makes the world a slightly less horrible place. Aren't they?
Get over yourself.
2006-09-22 08:51:27 · answer #8 · answered by Jackie J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I never mind in the least. And if he waits a few seconds, so what? There are some real gentlemen left in the world, and we need to encourage them.
The so-called feminists have confused manners for two generations now; it's time to get back to good manners. If the feminists wanted to improve manners, instead of just hyping their own political agenda, they would have emphasized manners has TWO targets, not one. One is women being treated like ladies by gentlemen and vice versa; the other is the young of either gender showing respect for the elderly of either gender, and that could have been emphasized without damaging those who like courtly ways.
2006-09-21 02:59:38 · answer #9 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I've always thought of someone holding the door open for me was a very nice gesture.
2006-09-21 02:57:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean. From a guy's percpective, I never know exactly when I should and shouldn't hold the door for somebody. I know it's proper to do it, but some people do get snippy if you do, and some are snippy if you don't. It's like I can't win.
Often, in crossing the street in our little tourist town (Beaufort, NC) when I'm waiting to cross the street somebody will stop their car to let me/us cross....then I feel like I must sprint to not hold them up. It's the same as your situation. I just really wish they wouldn't do it, but it's hard to get ill with somebody who is trying to be nice. Ya know??
2006-09-21 02:55:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋