I'd been living my life in peace believing there was no such thing as love. I thought I could really do without it, 'cause it's believed to bring unhappiness and make people do foolish things and I wanted to be prudent, grown up and decisive. I dreamt of marrying a guy who'd be just good enough for me. I'd judge guys by their traits and decide whether they're good for me or not. It was a deeply rational approach.
And then I met him and everything turned upside down. I can't stop thinking about him. When I think about him, let alone being around him, I feel happier than I've ever been in my life. If I try to deprive myself of the feeling I become very unhappy. I used to live my life happily valuing things I have but now nothing's good enough unless I remember about him.
What scares me is a possibility of rejection and the total loss of control over my life. It's not the way I had planned it to be. And I also think that you shouldn't care much about anything in life. And I care.
2006-09-21 02:43:06 · 18 answers · asked by Smiles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I mean love is such an uncertain thing, isn't it?
2006-09-21 02:45:06 · update #1
The only cure is to love.
2006-09-21 02:48:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first mistake was thinking love makes you unhappy. No such thing. Crushes make you unhappy. You can't really love someone without the trust that comes of a relationship that satisfies both of you. None of that "I love him but he plays me" stuff. Real love is returned in kind, if it isn't its unrequited which means that the love object never has to be subject to the stress of day-to-day living.
Really loving someone is the most dangerous thing your can do because it means you have involved yourself in the best thing life can offer, and even if you stay together for a hundred years, one of you will go on and leave the other grieving. No wonder you are scared. Its falling off a cliff, its surrender of self. Think of that the next time you see two white haired old people holding hands while walking. Real love developes after infatuation. which is where most people stop and relationships stumble. Real love is based on common attitudes and goals in life and not just on physical attraction or money.
If you feel you meet these criteria then rest assured the reward is worth the effort.
2006-09-21 02:58:14 · answer #2 · answered by justa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why do you need a medicine for love when this is the most beautiful thing it can happen in ones life! love is always wonderful, even if it is not shared! not caring much about anything in life means you haven't lived at all! let yourself to this wonderful feeling, get all your strength and power and try to approach the object of desire! if you are rejected don't give up! next love waits just around the corner for you to overcome the pain of the former one! it is like being afraid that you wouldn't like food and therefore refusing eating! be a bit more braver and let yourself to love and being loved! there is nothing better than that.
2006-09-21 02:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by Lora 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love requires vulnerability and yes there is always a possibilty of rejection. But to live a life without love is no life at all. I have been hurt many many times, but I can honestly say I wouldn't change a thing. Beccause although there was hurt, there was love. Loving someone and being loved is a wonderul experience. Have you ever heard the expression it's better to have loved than to never love at all. If you try to block love out of your life you are really missing out. I know its scary, but it's worth it. Sounds like you are trying to avoid love? Just let go and try to allow yourself to feel, it's okay.
2006-09-21 02:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never a good idea to put too much reliance on any one person because then you set yourself up for a big letdown. It's ok to love somebody, but don't let that be the only thing in your life. You can care, but don't care too much. We live in an imperfect world and love doesnt always go the way we want it to go. Guard your heart so that you don't get hurt.
2006-09-21 02:51:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same as u feel. Sincerely love is 'deadly'. I have fallen in love with a lady who takes little ragards of me. I dont sleep at night and dont use to keep girls. That feeling suddenly fell on me. It's amusing. Above all 'Love is not advisable to a sickler or healthy person'. But if u know how o play it good luck.U can talk to me on yahoo messenger 'segunjolyem'. Am on line now. .
2006-09-21 02:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by mikejolyemsegun2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no medicine to cure love sometimes i think you you have to learn to accept love and learn that love is real. it is your life you have to care about things.
2006-09-21 02:46:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good to be careful when it comes to love, but my mother always taught us that Love was a doing thing, not a feeling. It is an action, so go get him if he is the one for you and if you get rejected guess he wasnt it. dont put those expectations to high, and you wont fall to hard, go in it gradualy. dont jump. Love is worth it, but it is work and it does hurt.
2006-09-21 02:48:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES More love is the best medicine.
2016-03-17 23:34:38 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok if him don't wanna give love, don't do some for him, the love is hard some times buth the time is good medicine, think now for your live, you need time for you, he don't think in you , he doesn't care come on friend the live is beutifull dont sad ok. see you latter
2006-09-21 02:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by chilango 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋