i am in high school and my boyfriend is in high school too and he ask me to marry him i said yes and we plan on getting marride at the age of 18 and he is going to be 20 is that too young to think about it or to even get marride i do love him dearly and i want to marry him so much.
2006-09-21 02:40:07 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
People get married at different ages, but in the grand scheme of things, most marriages between people so young never last. You might think that you love him but both him and you aren't even fully matured yet. How long have you been together? Why the rush to get married? I find that most people who get married right after highschool don't continue on with their future plans, such as going to college. Why not just stay engaged. What does being marriage prove to eachother? YOu already know that you love eachother, you dont need a piece to paper to prove it.
2006-09-21 02:44:35 · answer #1 · answered by njagalamalaya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask the question, then the answer must be yes...The very fact that you are questioning yourself indicates that you are not ready.
I beg of you, don't get married at 18. It's waaaaaaaaay too young. The amount of growing up that you still have to do emotionally is about equivalent to what you've done already. I'm not saying don't get married...I'm just saying that if you & your boyfriend really have a "forever love", then you don't need to be in a hurry...It will still be there after you get out of school and have a better idea of what direction you want your lives to take.
2006-09-21 15:38:53 · answer #2 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People still change a lot after high school. Give yourself more time. If you are going to spend the rest of your life with this guy, then you don't need to rush into marriage. And if you both end up going your own ways, it's better that you can do so without a divorce. By the way, your question wasn't even worded as a question. I think that should answer itself for you.
2006-09-21 14:15:46 · answer #3 · answered by caitlinerika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, how long have the two of you been together? Will you be going to college? Will you have a means of supporting yourselves in your own apartment/house? What are your future goals?
Those are all important questions to ask yourself. Love is great! But it's not enough to complete a marriage... so maybe give yourselves a year or two out of school before you jump into marriage. If you love one another then waiting until you are 20 and he is 22 isn't all that much longer.
2006-09-21 10:59:48 · answer #4 · answered by PT&L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. If you are 18, and your boyfriend is over 18, then you are both considered to be adults. However, I would think this through carefully, because younger married couples sometimes fight more than older married couples because of money, bills, or not spending enough time with the other person. If you think you can survive all of that, I would go for it. Just because you're not married doesn't mean you love that person any less, but you should chose what's best for the both of you.
2006-09-21 09:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by poeticjustice 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are planning to be together forever anyway then why rush into marriage? Chances are the stress caused by the "husband wife" titles will cause huge problems by your 2nd anniversary!! Most likely you will not be the same people when you are 25 that you are right now. So keeping that in mind, WAIT!! If it is meant to be then you can do it when you are older. Marriage is something you should only do once. You don't want to make a life altering decision at your age.
2006-09-21 09:52:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FROM EXPERIENCE... no, you are not too young. But you may want to wait.
My husband and I met in high school also - after graduating he went in the service and I went to college... we got married 7 years after we met!!! We have now been together for 14 years and have 2 great kids:o)
...if we hadn't waited and made sure that our lives we ready for marriage (money in the bank, good jobs, a house) I would hate to think where we would be today!!
Try to get your lives in order first - marriage is wonderful, but it is also A LOT of work. Best of luck.
2006-09-21 09:59:10 · answer #7 · answered by t'kit ez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont get married so young. Stay together an let time play out , an if your still together after 4-5 more years , then take the Dive !! Divorce will cost you alot of cash , so make sure you Know for sure your ready to get in to Marriage .. it's harder then what people make it out to be.
Good Luck , an make the right choice for you.
2006-09-21 09:49:50 · answer #8 · answered by lilredhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My gut feeling is, yes, you are too young. There are so many things in life you need to experience. If you marry now you will have to sruggle longer and harder, financially and emotionally. What's the rush? If you love eachother then you'll still be together and able to marry in a few mre years.
By the way - how do your paretns feel about it?
2006-09-21 09:49:59 · answer #9 · answered by family_matters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By you asking the question am I to young you should know the answer YES! What is ment to be will be. If you get married now or in 10 years if you two are ment to be together you will.
2006-09-21 09:42:50 · answer #10 · answered by ebsharer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋