He"s always on his computer and never goes out. He doesn't have any friends. is very shy around girls.
2006-09-21 02:25:07 · 16 answers · asked by roostersv2002 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
At least he has a job. Try and get him involved in a charity for a cause he'd be interested in.
2006-09-21 02:56:42 · answer #1 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's 21 and still living at home, he'd better be A.) taking college classes, B.) mentally or physically disabled, or C.) paying rent.
Otherwise, you need to be firm. Be a parent.
Tell him to join some volunteer organization like the Jaycees or Optimists or some other group that might involve young professionals; people his age or only a little older.
Tell him how concerned you are and ask him why he's such a loner.
This isn't healthy. Computers are fine for work but shouldn't take the place of human interaction.
My guess is he's downloading a SH!Tload of porn, and you'd better hope it's all "normal," over-18 stuff or he could get hauled out of your house in handcuffs.
Be a parent.
2006-09-21 02:41:59 · answer #2 · answered by Lawn Jockey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does he do on his computer? That seems to be his main interest. So, find that out (maybe it's a game or a specific chat room with a highlighted interest) and encourage events in the outside world that mirror that. And if it's possible you could offer to help him get his own apartment and perhaps take a few classes at a college. Both would GREATLY increase his self-confidence and it sounds like that's his barrier to a good social life. I'm guessing he has a lot of insecurities about living with his mom (no offense!). He has to fly the nest sometime, eh?
2006-09-21 02:41:46 · answer #3 · answered by leavingnyc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear mom I had the exact same problem ,with my son started bad when he was 13 and then when we got the computer it became worse ,he was very smart and made good grades .but im going to tell yah something you may not want to here but it is my experience..I would ask my son about his friend and girls and he would just say mom thats my private life I dont share that here at home ,well mom I just a couple weeks found out my son is claiming to be gay !!!!he dont seem gay he is all boy but the computer is the cause, he was getting on in proper sites we busted him many times and would ground him .but the computer is a bad thing ,I suffer in my heart over this he moved out to another state and my heart breaks daily ,so mom pull him away from that computer make him get out .good luck .wish you all the best .
2006-09-21 02:34:08 · answer #4 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say the education of a child starts 20 years before its birth, witht he birth of his parents.
While it is a little too late for that, I'd suggest the most obvious - the example.
Invite *your* friends more over, enjoy *your* social life more and watch that have an effect on your son.
Also, don't ever try to force him into your social life - just show him the results of it, be happy and he'll follow.
2006-09-21 02:28:25 · answer #5 · answered by Bobby Kolev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait a few years, he'll come out when he's ready
you're his mom, right? boys ignore their mothers when they are in their twenties. Even boys who pay attention to others tend to be focussed on themselves and to be oblivious to their mothers.
If you think he is having emotional problems, or is using the computer in an unhealthy way, get to the bottom of things. Do you think he needs counselling? If you do, then maybe he does.
Maybe you do, too, to help you to resolve this.
2006-09-21 02:35:15 · answer #6 · answered by soobee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him you'd love to go on a social outing with him along with other relatives, friends. Make this a regular occurrence. Invite more people into your home and create more social openings and environments.
2006-09-21 02:36:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm kind of like that sometimes. Maybe he is afraid that other people won't like him? Perhaps you can get him to join a club or take up a hobby that he enjoys. Computers are fine, but it is a good idea to get some exercise too. For example, I like animals so sometimes I walk my neighbor's dogs for them.
2006-09-21 02:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by poeticjustice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't anything you can do. He's an adult. Why does he still live at home???? Think it's time he moved out. That would force him to make new friends-being in a new environment. Tell him you love him, but it's time to leave the nest.
2006-09-21 02:28:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
My brother's partially like this, though he isn't as shy, and he's only 17.
You can get him to take part in social activities, or organise get- togethers with friends and colleagues, and introduce him to them?
2006-09-21 02:28:14 · answer #10 · answered by chemistry_freako 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋