Honestly, why do people think they can walk up to any parent with a baby and act like they've known the family for years? They start touching the baby's cheeks and talking to it like they're an old family friend. I'd be so mad if I had a baby and strangers started touching it...
2006-09-21 02:09:19 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I completely agree (with question that is - not the first answer)!
I tell you what is worse though - when my wife was pregnant, strange people kept wanting to touch her tummy. I had to physically push one stranger away because I knew she didn't like it.
The baby seems to be public property before it is even born!
(I'm sorry Ya-sai, but if you have a baby, the strongest instinct you have it to protect it - other people's grubby hands on its face doesn't fill you with love for your fellow man).
2006-09-21 02:12:10 · answer #1 · answered by Robin 2 · 9⤊ 0⤋
i think you and Robin are going over the extreme. Where are talking about regular people, not crackheads or unkempt homeless individuals. Though there is a limit with admiration. I have complemented some babies but i never touched them unless we were sitting in a comfortable environment and the mother/father was there and the baby came over to play with me. i may shake his little hand but i would never touch a newborn infant due to germs and their weak immune systems. Also because i know the parent may not want me to hold it or touch it. Though what is wrong with getting a compliment about your baby? This is what people do. They talk mushy talk to babies because they are so cute. But if someone said your kid looked horribly disfigured, you would take offense so what is it that you want? However every parent is different and i wouldn't mind someone touching my baby's cheek especially an old person if i sense it is all in good company. Now some people go to the extreme and try and hold the baby without asking, kiss it, feed it which i can agree is unacceptable. But what kind of people actually are that bold to try and touch all over your kid like you describe? I think it's a bit exaggerated. Though i can understand where u are coming from. Some parents are just protective of their child.
2006-09-21 02:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by ♣DreamDancer♣ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea why people think this and it drives me absolutely up the wall. My daughter is 10 months old now, but when she was about 4 months we had her in the carrier and this lady walked up and was trying to put her NASTY fingers in my childs mouth. I almost went to jail that day. I'm the type if I see a cute baby I will just tell the parents that he/she is adorable and go on my way. I can't believe the nerve of some people. I've learned that older people are a lot worse than younger. I had an old lady at a hospital come up and start trying to touch my daughter. I made her aware that I didn't want her germ ridden hands all over my child. This time I was a bit more nice about it though.
2006-09-21 02:12:21 · answer #3 · answered by Kel K 2 · 5⤊ 2⤋
LMAO...I loved when people came up and told me how adorable my girls were as babies (and are now). Usually the people who touched them were older ladies and it really didn't bother me. Most humans love to be adored. I'd have probably worried a bit more if it was some man paying a bit more attention than he should but otherwise I didn't mind. I will tell a person that their baby is adorable if I think so, but I wont usually go and touch them especially if they are very young because of germs and all and I respect that.
2006-09-21 02:32:49 · answer #4 · answered by dixi 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wonder the same thing! I just had my first child in April and he was born 8 weeks early... having strangers come up and touch him would upset me because his immune system had some catching up to do. And this was only from taking him out to get medicine or to the doctor's office. I think that people should just admire from afar and defintely ask if you want to pinch cheeks or whatever. Also, why do strangers feel the need to touch a pregnant belly. Personal space please!
2006-09-21 02:18:44 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs W 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand those people cause I would never do that myself. Being a mother and all. I never did it before have my children. I would smile at the baby and say how cute it is if I saw a baby. But that is as far as it goes. I have never had a stranger do that to my children before BUT I do know of family and friends it's happened to.
2006-09-21 02:25:51 · answer #6 · answered by hisbabygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have two daughters, one is 7 weeks. I love it, I'm proud of my daughters and to hear strangers say how beautiful they are is wonderful.
In this day and age of so much hate and violence it's nice to experience something positive from people.
It'd be different if they picked her up naturally but they're only chatting.
It's also the best stimulation for a baby to see peoples faces :o)
2006-09-21 02:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by DemonicaB 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so hard, babies bring the best out of people, and they are only admiring and usually a little envious that they haven't got a sweet cute little baby. I can understand that you might not want a total stranger to touch you baby, and then you should politely ask them not to touch, but accept the compliment with the grace in which it is usually given. You will see when you have a baby of your own how good it makes you feel.
2006-09-21 02:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by London Girl 5 · 5⤊ 2⤋
people love the babies, no doubt. i actually did hit a stranger in a store for touching my son, because it was the middle of RSV season, and he had just spent the first 3 weeks in the hospital. If you wanna touch someone else's kid, or even their pregnant belly, ask. If they say no, GO AWAY. otherwise, its personal space, and a good way to loose teeth
2006-09-21 02:38:08 · answer #9 · answered by Flamingpoptart 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ugh, no there is worse than that, when I was pregnant strangers would come and touch my tummy and they thought it was their right to do so...I hated it with a passion especially since I am not a touchy feely person even with close friends. Don't know why they think they can do this but I for one NEVER touch a pregnant womans tummy.
2006-09-21 02:20:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋