My daughter had a weight problem as a child, it peaked just before puberty when she was about 180 pounds. She went down to a size 6 by the time she reached high school and she loved wearing all the fahions and all the attention from boys.
Now she has graduated and is taking a gap year. However, over the past year she has gained about 30 pounds and I see her heading back down the same road. Whenever I mention anything to her clothes wise, food wise, etc. she gets emotional and accuses me of trying to make her anorexic. I don't say anything any more, but it saddens me to see her this way. Yes, healthy food is placed on the table every day, but I know she's eating fast food when she's out and hoarding treats in her room. Any suggestions?
2006-09-21 01:57:57 · 19 answers · asked by LuckyO 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Buy her some Sweet Rolls.
2006-09-21 01:59:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
She will make her own decisions on what to eat. And the more you preach to her about her weight the more shes gonna eat. You are not helping her by preaching to her. Shes grown and will make her own mind up. And shes right about becoming anorexic. Maybe when she was in her size 6 she was feeling like she was too thin,,and was afraid of becoming an axorexic. Im sure of she feels like shes gaining too much weight she will do something about it on her own. Dont be judging your daughter on the way she looks. I know you are just looking out for her but she has to make up her own mind on what she wants to do.
2006-09-21 09:05:30 · answer #2 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes ask did she not like when she weighed less and she was getting alot of attention from the boys? If she says yes then say why would you want to go back to the old way then? It will give her some insight maybe and she will go back to weighing less.Then maybe suggest a program like slim fast. It is easy to follow and ppl seem to be able to stick with it more . Good Luck.
2006-09-21 09:03:37 · answer #3 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure everyday she know she has gained weight. Don't nag, that will make things worse. There has to be a reason...emotionally or physically. Just talk to her like normal, maybe she will open up to you. Maybe the two of you can do healthy things together like plan meals, snacks, exercise, etc. It's hard to lose weight so don't make it worse. Plus, she is an adult, not a child. She needs to make the decision that she doesn't want to be heavy. It's not your decision.
2006-09-21 09:14:39 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter is a high school graduate?
GET OFF HER BACK!
Sorry lady your job is done. You have raised her to adulthood it's time for her to make her own choices. Fashion, clothes and boys have nothing to do with the unconditional love you should have for your child. And that love should never allow you to post something as awful as this for everyone to read.
Honestly - I think you should go eat a big mac and large fries. If you some how feel guilty or dirty for doing so, seek psychiatric help.
2006-09-21 09:08:17 · answer #5 · answered by boter_99 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At her age, there's not much you can do about it now. Maybe you can get her to go for walks with you. You can buy her exercise equipment and tapes for her birthdays and Christmases. Staying active is very important. When she comes over, do not let her just sit around in front of the TV or computer. Otherwise, one day she'll get fat enough and sick enough of her self and she'll make her mind up to do something about it on her own. Good Luck.
As for what the person above me said.... you should feel guilty when you eat that crap you dummy. Hello!!!! It's BAD for you,...like crack cocaine!!!
2006-09-21 09:09:57 · answer #6 · answered by HazelEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of nagging her about her weight gain, you might want to ask her if something is troubling her on an emotional level. She's obviously doing a lot of emotional eating. What's going on in her life that may be exacerbating her "food issues"?
2006-09-21 09:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is an adult and you can not monitor her food or weight and NOT expect her to get upset about it. I am sure she knows she has gained weight and unless she asks for help from you ...you should probably back off because you can possibly make it worse for her. Love and support your daughter. Just let her know you are there for her if and when needed.
2006-09-21 09:01:52 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to her about her feelings. Don't put pressure on her about losing weight. She's stressed out enough about graduating and being an adult. All she needs now is support and love from her family. Why don't you try doing some family workout sessions where she doesn't feel like you are attacking her?
2006-09-21 09:01:39 · answer #9 · answered by carmen3111 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls day out 3 times a week at the gym with your daughter
2006-09-21 09:03:19 · answer #10 · answered by mizsinister 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Last night on the news they were aying that the amount of sleep the kid is getting really affects their metabolism and the amount of physical activity counts too along with caloric intake
2006-09-21 09:19:40 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋