tired of human beings?

Question

i was 22 when i took up my first job,i was harrassed by my employers for 13 long months,couldn't find another job so had to stick with the same job despite the fact that the site was 100km away and i had severe backache,my empoyers were cruel,they used to verbally abuse me becuase i was still a trainee,had to quit as i couldn't withstand the torture,took up another job,there again i was harrassed by somebody as i refused to enter into illicit relationship....had to quit as my life was made difficult.,now again i am studying...my colleagues are being uncivil,they are unethical...they cheat in all the tests and exams...they dislike me because i refused to help them during tests and exams....there was a lot of pressure on me to enter into illicit relitionships with boys.i refused,now they hate me,they make it a point to hurt me by making causatic remarks and by laughing at me when i feel bad.i am tired,life seems worthless,i want to stop but can't because i am young,feel very low and numb

Answer 1

Hi Geek,

DO not despair now, because things don't necessarly get better!

First of all, harrasment is part of all lines of work. Whatever the employers or agencies claim, there is ALWAYS a level of mental abuse and harrasment in EVERY single line of work out there.

People are stupid and selfish all over the planet. Although they will publicly show an image of being nice and goody-2-shoes and the like, people in the work (and school) environment are hypocrites who will stop at nothing to take you down, thinking it will elevate their own selfish status.

Being honest and a hard worker is incredibly difficult because you make other people in your work environment look bad. Myself am branded the "evil" one, the "bad seed" in my work because I do not socialise, nor do I do f*ck-all when the boss isn't around... I am at work to WORK, not make fake friends who will backstab me first chance they get (speaking by experience by the way).

Basically the hardest part is having to accept this as part of reality. People in general, although will deny it and never admit it, are selfish evil hypocrites who will only do what's best for their own selfish goals, including taking it out on the honest people, like you and me for example. The world has literally shifted backwards where the good are punished and the evil win. "Hard work is rewarded by punishment" is a saying I've been saying for ages now...

So try to be strong... Don't let idiot humans get the better of you. I know it's hard, don't think I imagine it is easy... Because it is extremelly hard and demands constant effort. If you let these humans affect you, then you let them "win". You have to dis-associate yourself (your mind) from them, try to develop "barriers" (or "thick skin" like a guy once told me) so that these stupid humans will not affect you so much.

It may take ages, or it may be a question or a week or two, but don't give up hope on yourself. If you give up, you are letting those typical human scum win...

And yes, I am a mysanthrope... I have always had anti-social tendancies, but over the last 10 or so years, I developped a true hatred towards humanity because people are prooving to me every single day that they are selfish and hypocrites. So to me, life is a constant struggle, a struggle I must never stop for fear of either becoming one of those humans, or letting them "kill" me.

And of course, people hate me because I follow rules, have etiquette, social concious (!), and I refuse to associate myself with anyone. When you don't join a "clique", people hate you because they think you're against them for not joining them.

Hope this helps a bit.

Answer 2

I think you need counselling. It seems to me that you are having the same basic problems everywhere you go. Could it be that you are the source? You seem to be very insecure and unsure about what you are doing. A good counsellor will help you to get to know yourself. You will be much happier if you give yourself a break.
Whenever I start to get down on the human race, and let's face it, there are a lot of reasons for despair, I watch a baby for a while. Guaranteed to make you feel better. Try to engage with a child, it will probably help. Make an appointment with intake and see if you need professional help to get to know yourself.
God Bless

Answer 3

Different people have different personalities.
I have three grown daughters. The oldest just can't work with the public, so after many years of trying she decided to learn how to groom animal. Now she works with all kinds of animals all day and has limited contact with the owners.

My middle daughter is an office manager. She has to deal with other employees but because of her personality, she does well. She doesn't do well with the public but those she works with love her and stick by her and know that she gets easily aggravated with the public so the try to protect her from it.

My youngest does very well with the public but has trouble getting along with her co-workers. So she works in the hospitality field and does well.

All you need to do is find out what works best for you and then find some type of job that will allow you to work in an environment that will be less stressful for you.

Good Luck.

Answer 4

Oh that aint right!You dont need friend's who are gonna mock you and put you down.Find someone else to befriend.Maybe your in the wrong group.Find someone who is interested in what you love and enjoy someone you can relate to and share your opinions with.Hanging with the wrong people can lead you downhill.Being with someone you feel comfortable around will knock you in place.You still have a life to fulfill.If you have goal's you can still accomplish them.I know how you feel.I was to hanging with the wrong crowd and ended up hating and bullying,but i soon realized afterward's i didnt feel like myself around people who didnt have the same interest's as i did.You can stop by telling people or someone you trust.Seeking help is important.getting help from supportive and understanding friends and family can help brighten up your life and counselling.Or the doctor's.There's just so many way's to get help in this world keep seeking and you will find the key to your path.Take care and hope everything turns out good for you!!

Answer 5

Hey... Smile, and remember that the world is a cruel place but not all people are evil. I just learned this in a recent experience with my boyfriend. To make a long story short - we accidently left his brand new $300.00 nextel phone on the bus...in Newark, NJ. I thought for sure it was gone - to quote his exact words: "There are good people in this world!" and he's right.

So my point is... don't hate life because how the world is, we all have to live here and its not any better anywhere you go, cause jerks exzist all around the Globe.

Answer 6

This isn't a good answer just a comment .......I also am tired of people......good people are very hard to come by......clothes and i-pods dint make a person......people are just fuc*ed they think they can do anything to anyone they think of no ones feelings because they have none........people don't teach their kids to respect others at all or the feelings of others just that if someone is different they are freaks.....look deep inside yourself try to see who you really are try and remember the others are the ignorant ones......**nana4dki said a wonderful thing about her daughters they found what they could handle and searched that way...........it is not just adults young teens it is in elementary school....my daughter was molested at 4 by a niece and I find out that a boy in first grade have touched her inappropriately as he pined her againest the wall she is very tiny he is bigger...........so yea I hate not just tired of hate 90% of people.

Answer 7

Have a capsule of St. John's Wort and try to see things from a sunnier attitude. For example, the problems you have had have stemmed from your virtue; not wanting "illicit" relationships and not wanting to cheat in school. So that's a point or two for you, even if it does make you sad about the low moral standards of the people around you.

If it's any comfort, most people would not use the term "illicit" about sexual relations outside of marriage, which is apparently your point. It's not so much that marriage is irrelevant, as that they have solved the problem of temptation by giving in. That's their choice; no need to be a snob about it, but your choice is probably wiser.

Can you train yourself to not sound righteously indignant when you turn down a proposal to do something you feel is wrong? A simple "not my style" will say no without giving people the impression you are judging them for doing differently. I think you can accept that most people around you are not as morally sound as yourself, but realize that they had different parents and different experiences from yourself, and their values may be fine for them. (Of course, STDs and unwanted pregnancies are not fine for anyone; but they are usually pretty careful about condoms when they go in for these sorts of things. We can hope, anyway.)

One of the hardest thing in the world is to get along with people of different moral values. As a non-Christian myself, I get along with Christians just fine as long as they are not trying to tell me how to live. I don't tell them to go light a bonfire on Beltane, after all! And that may be the heart of your problem with others around you; they sense you not only do not do things the way they do, but you judge them harshly.

Also, if you are attractive, they have direct interest in wanting to change your ways.

Answer 8

Hey, I feel that way sometimes. I felt rejected a lot when I was little, especially when I was sick, and now I'm trying to get over that. If you are feeling down, maybe you could go out and help children, or others who are suffering? If you want others to love you for who you are, show them that you are a great person. Don't worry what other people think, only concentrate on what you think about yourself.

Answer 9

You have way too many people that hate you and make your life miserable. It has to be the way you perceive things. I agree that there are a lot of nasty people in the world, but it's not *that* bad. You have some issues with depression and need to get some counseling so you can have a brighter outlook on life and find that you can be happy.

Answer 10

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